My cousin got engaged to a girl from Thailand. I’m starting to feel concerned…

Sounds like you wanted your cousin to yourself. Wouldn’t be the first time on LR

I’ve also spent a lot of Thailand and this is not my perception at all, I know many mixed Thai/western couples and the offspring of such relationships. While quite a few are with a Thai man/foreign woman, just focusing on the foreign man/Thai woman relationships pretty much all of them are with well educated, financially independent woman. This includes couples I’ve known for 15+ (and in one case over 35) years. While there are relationships of which you speak, they tend to be with foreigners who themselves are of middling social status; think military pensioner meets bar girl from Isan. I can’t think of a single divorce in my fairly large circle of these friends and acquaintances. But maybe you and I interact with different social groups.

True story. Posting from Houston, visiting wife’s family. Her nephew is flying out 9pm tonight to Thailand (Bangkok) to meet a girl. He’s 29 and dropped $2500 on a last minute flight to meet this girl.

I’ve been talking to him all night because I don’t think I would have ever done that. Maybe something trending in Thailand! Preying on American unmarried men.

crazy coincidence/

My cousin got engaged to an American girl after getting a scholarship in the states . Can you guys help me with my concerns . I know sometimes these things can work out but what I've heard is a lot of Americans are racist . Should I delve deeper and find out if she is a Trump supporter to ease my concerns ? God Bless America xx

Thanks for all the replies everyone. Some good things to consider here.

First thing I’ll say is my concerns have nothing to do with race/ethnicity. If anything, I feel it would be good for my cousin to experience non-western culture and learn in that capacity. Obviously I’ve heard about the stereotypes of women from specific countries who use men to get into countries like the US. Not trying to bash that stereotype, but just trying to protect my cousin.

it is true this girl was legally in Europe when he met her. Without going into too much detail, the work program gives people in underprivileged areas of the world working experience in the organization my cousin works for. Technically my cousin should not have been dating this girl per company policy.

What I don’t entirely understand abt the situation is that my cousin is stable financially, but not by any means wealthy (from an American perspective). So, he really could not be a sugar daddy to this girl in America even if he wanted to. Is this a good sign that she is interested in a genuine relationship, or a red flag that she is only looking to get in the country and immediately ditch him?

if things progress I might talk to my uncle about contacting a legal professional. He is equally concerned about it as I am. We might also sit down with my cousin at some point. If she asks for money, I’m calling BS on the situation.

That’s wild. Thankfully my cousin has not had any interest in traveling to Thailand at this point. Although I feel this girl may not feel the need to force my cousin to travel there as they’re already together in Europe. I have a feeling your nephew is similar to my cousin, I truly feel for men in these situations and hope they can get some sense knocked into them

You don’t have to be wealthy. Actually if he does not have a good safety net from family, it is even more important to talk to an estate attorney ahead of time …Even if they are genuinely in love now, if after a year or two or three things don’t work out and go south she could walk away with half and wreck him without even being greedy. I know you don’t plan on it, but that’s a very real possibility. you have to do what you can to protect yourself ahead of time.
Full disclosure: been there done that. I was married to a non-US citizen for 4 years and things did not work out. I owned a house that I’d bought for myself before the marriage, but title was changed to be co owned with spouse. Even if spouse wants to be a nice person if things don’t work out and have to get a divorce, she can still get half without even trying to be greedy, so you really still have to make sure you avoid that by sitting down with an estate attorney and looking into everything. My family ended up doing an equity buy out to pay off her interest in my assets prior to the marriage

It does not matter if this is a TROLL or not. The fact is we are having a good discussion on an important matter.

I have extensive experience with this as many of you know from following my posts. I had a couple of breakups with women from African nations. One was an Olympic sprinter and the other a non-athlete. I broke up with the sprinter because she was literally a madwoman. The last girl, from Kenya broke my heart but not my bank account.

The girl who broke my heart made me want to break out and get to know more girls. I've done that and received some incredible offers. I told some girls that if they have the money to get to where I live, they can live with me for a short time until they get a job or have a chance to race. A 25 year old and a 32 year old have said yes. I am leaning towards the 32 year old, but what I am reading here on this LRS thread is causing me to re-think my ways.

I thought it might be fun to coach the 32 year old for a few months but in her words she wants to come live with me for "one, two, three...months." Does that mean I might get stuck with her or that she is planning to make a quick exit? The girl who broke my heart is 30 and she turned out to be pregnant when she got here. (This is her second out-of-wedlock pregnancy and is by a second man. No not me.) I believe she also lied to me.

All of these girls will say yes to almost anything you say, and they fall quickly. Fortunately, my search of African girls has led me to at least one 45 year old former American gold medalist. So my dream continues. My problem is I am old and do not want to marry someone my age.

Thus far this has been mostly a civil thread. I hope that people continue to respond. As you can see there are people who have this problem and how many more do not even participate in discussions? Kenyan girls in particular are cute and sound like angels. And you cannot blame them for wanting to escape their country. But is it too good to be true? I've only spent $100 and that has been over a period of at least four years. Many women and men will come right out and ask for money the first time they respond to you on social media. That should give you a clue. Yes, I have several friends and relatives who have succeeded in marrying foreign brides. They seem to be happy. But even then, there is a price.

Why Are Women around the World Opting Out of Marriage?

Is this about LG from WNY?

You say he hadn’t dated a girl before…has your cousin dated a man before, by chance?

I'm a little late to the party on this one as when it first came out I was taking a break from LRC while I was on holiday in..........Thailand! My experience with Thais and Thailand dates back to 1979 and is a little different to two other posters of this thread. I met a Thai graduate student at my university when I was 20 years old and a sophomore. I was also on the T&F/XC teams. Anyway, I met her in a statistics class I was taking. She was the graduate assistant for the course and conducted help sections. I NEVER missed a help section! We ended up getting married two years later. For our wedding present her parents bought us roundtrip business class tickets on Thai Airways and we spent about six weeks in Bangkok where her family lived. He father spoke very limited English and her Mom none. Her two older brothers and two older sisters all spoke very good English. All of them had master or higher degrees from either the US or England. All had attended either Chulalongkorn or Thammasat University in Thailand which are regarded as the top two universities in the nation. Obviously, her family was much more well off than mine. I was married to the "baby" of the family despite her being a few years older than myself. We did move to Thailand and lived there for 12 years. Both of our boys (now 38 & 36) are fluent in Thai as well as English. They do make fun of my poor Thai pronunciation and also their Mom's English pronunciation despite her excellent English. Like anything, it all depends upon the two people involved and their backgrounds and upbringing.

This thread it worthless without pics.