Want my girlfriend to get an IUD but she doesn't want to

It's her choice, yes, but I dated a woman with one and it was awesome. Just impromptu, didn't have to stop and get "dressed" so to speak, didn't matter where we were.

I recommend it.

I actually agree with this. I was married for 32 years and dated before and after my divorce but I didn't have sex with any woman unless I was willing to be with them long term. I DO love kids- I had two (now adults) and miss having them around.

Honestly- if I had two women that I wanted to spend forever with and all things being equal the only difference was that one of them had children, I'd take the opportunity to expand my family.

Side effects likely

Buy condoms? Get a vasectomy? Anal?

Umm. I have 5 children and get laid all the time. By my hot wife.

Shows how much you know.

Yesterday the NY Times ran an article titled, "Getting an IUD Hurts. Why Aren’t More Women Offered Relief?"

Some excerpts:

it’s widely known that having an IUD inserted can be excruciatingly painful, and few doctors offer effective relief.

It [all] comes down to minimizing women’s pain, said Dr. Andrew Goldstein, a gynecologist and pelvic pain specialist. “I do believe that gaslighting is a common thing,” he said. “Women’s pain should be believed and relieved.”

The anticipation of the pain is “a potential barrier” to expanding access, said Dr. Lauren Zapata, an epidemiologist with the division of reproductive health at the C.D.C.

Getting the T-shaped device into the uterus means that it first has to make its way through the cervix. “Any manipulation of the cervix can be quite uncomfortable,” Dr. Goldstein said, because it has several different nerves that signal pain.

The internal canal of the cervix is also “physiologically closed,” Dr. Eve Espey [chair of the obstetrics and gynecology department at the University of New Mexico] said, and “you have to push pretty hard” or even use a dilator for the IUD to get in.

Women who have given birth are more likely to have a slightly more open cervix, she said, which is why insertion might hurt less for them.

Though a majority of doctors suggest an over-the-counter medicine, “we’ve got enough studies now to know that it doesn’t work,”

Also, contrary to your claim that "they don't even feel it once it's in," it's actually pretty common for women to have painful uterine cramping, backache and bleeding after insertion of an IUD.

From WebMD:

You may still have cramping a few days, weeks, or months after getting an IUD. It’ll probably feel a lot like menstrual cramps. You may also have achiness in your lower back.

For some women, cramping lasts 1-2 days after the IUD goes in. For others, it lasts a few weeks. Or it could be as long as 3-6 months before it goes away.

You may also have irregular, heavy bleeding for 3 to 6 months.

”Pain can occur as you adjust to the IUD. Other times, it can be a sign of a larger problem,” sys Lisa Holloway, a nurse practitioner near Washington, DC, who specializes in women’s health. "It’s possible your IUD wasn’t placed properly, it isn’t in the right place, or you have an injury in your uterus from the [insertion] procedure."

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Got good responses (2 pages in under half a day) but this seems fake

I had the snip when I was 18. I had it reversed at 23, but I have been unable to have kids since it turns out the reversal doesn’t work too well - even with the best surgeon. Scar tissue blockage, decreased counts, and poor vitality are all permanent and caused by the vasectomy and related complications, and the reversal doesn’t make them better. It hurts like hell and you won’t be able to run much at all for an entire year after the reversal. Also, it costs >8k and insurance doesn’t cover it. You’ll forever be worried about someone or something even coming close to touching your nuts and it sucks. Do not get a vasectomy. EVER!!!

Talk to her about the pill or use a condom and only go without during or just after her period. But that isn’t foolproof. Easy.

Dude, did you even read my post? I said one crummy day right after getting it. That's what happens. Stop sensationalizing it. Do people get dental work even though it's sucks? Can you find a NY times article for me on that?

Jesus man.

That was my superb idea originally made in deleted post #7. Glad someone was paying attention!

Well played, ma'am.

Excerpts from "The ripples of trauma caused by severe pain during IUD procedures," published in BMJ Opionon in the British Medical Journal in July 2021:

Examples of excruciating pain experienced during the fitting of an intrauterine device (also known as an IUD or coil) have been in no short supply...after the release of a patient led survey focusing on pain scores and the information (or lack of) given to women before the procedure.

[J]ournalist Naga Munchetty kicked off a feature on Radio 5 Live by detailing her own IUD fitting, describing it as “one the most traumatic physical experiences” of her life. She fainted twice and said that she “felt violated, weak, and angry”; an experience which has been echoed by hundreds if not thousands of other women since.

Dawn Harper, a GP and presenter who appeared as a guest on the show, argued that most women do not feel this pain and that this level of trauma tends to affect those who have not given birth.

However, there are two major flaws with this analysis, highlighted by the testimonies of countless women who have shared their experiences through the survey, social media, and online forums.

Firstly, of those who report excruciating pain, many specifically describe it as being much worse than when they gave birth.

Secondly, there is no routine collection of pain scores or patient feedback when it comes to IUD procedures so how can anyone be confident that this affects a small number of women? The data simply aren’t there to support such claims.

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The ripples of trauma caused by severe pain during IUD procedures - The BMJ

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In the comment section, Arvind Joshi, MD, says that in 25 years working in medicine,

"I have witnessed many women have various problems after IUD insertion."

He also reports that a colleague he describes as "a respected General Practitioner... and a Physician Gynecologist and Surgeon... known for his Obstetric Skills and in fact a recipient of a coveted prize in Obstetrics and Gynaecology from the College of Physicians and Surgeons" who was in practice for 51 years,

never undertook IUD insertion. But he had to often remove IUDs due to sufferings they caused.

Remember that this is 100% her call. You have no right to tell her what to do and frankly she should dump your pathetic a$$

you can't possibly be that stupid

Spoken like a “Chad” that never gets any.

What a jackwagon!