Expert on womem here. Tinder works well, primarily if you're attractive. Your job especially if there's a lot of women around. The bar on a Friday or Saturday night. One of my specialties that's not an obvious one is that I'll go to a mall/shopping centre on a weekday and the people working in the stores--a lot of them are young women plus many good looking ones.
If such an expert on women, why are you always trying to find them? Seems like they should be coming to you, or still be there after your paid time slot is up. Your specialty is a retail store during the week? My guess is you are at the mall cleaning floors during the week and hoping to get noticed one day. At the end of the day you go to the bar and strikeout as well. Last resort is online so hoping to find someone who can’t see you for who you really are.
What are the best way to meet single women when you're in your 30's, LRC?
You don't say what your goal is. Do you just want to date and socialize for fun, or do you want to meet your life partner? If the former, I'd say just get out there and do stuff, from church to nightclubs. If the latter, I think online dating is the way to go.
Online dating is brutal, but if you treat it like a job and go on 2-3 dates per week and keep an open mind, you'll probably meet "the one." It worked for multiple people I know who are now happily married, some with kids. I also know some people who just couldn't handle how awful it can be (online dating) and gave up and are now single in their 40s. I do think most people are single in their 40s and not divorced just don't really want to be paired off very badly, which is totally OK. I always wanted to be married and I put myself out there in my 20s in a way many friends did not who I think didn't feel the same way.
(I have been with my spouse 18 years and we have three kids. I met my spouse at work, which is an awesome way to meet people, but often isn't practical depending on your career. But if you DO meet someone you click with at work, it's worth pursuing despite the risk, in my opinion.)
Couple of wrinkles: I'm generally attractive to women so their receptive body language makes it easy enough to strike up a conversation like you would with anyone while out and about. But I am pretty particular about any woman I'd date now in my 30s (lots of drama and chaos in my 20s) so a lot of these women don't really light my fire.
Expert on womem here. Tinder works well, primarily if you're attractive. Your job especially if there's a lot of women around. The bar on a Friday or Saturday night. One of my specialties that's not an obvious one is that I'll go to a mall/shopping centre on a weekday and the people working in the stores--a lot of them are young women plus many good looking ones.
Your specialty is a retail store during the week? My guess is you are at the mall cleaning floors during the week and hoping to get noticed one day. At the end of the day you go to the bar and strikeout as well. Last resort is online so hoping to find someone who can’t see you for who you really are.
Couple of wrinkles: I'm generally attractive to women so their receptive body language makes it easy enough to strike up a conversation like you would with anyone while out and about. But I am pretty particular about any woman I'd date now in my 30s (lots of drama and chaos in my 20s) so a lot of these women don't really light my fire.
Hiking trail?
Creeper alert 🚨
Picture this: You're hiking up switchbacks at the same pace as an attractive person who is out there by themselves as well. You're both out there alone together going the same pace on the way to the same place. What's weirder, talking to that person or having to hustle to go faster or sandbag or just hover around each other in complete silence?
People complain about online dating, not being able to meet anyone, social media and modern society ruining dating, but honestly, I think most people just have little to no social skills couple with absurd expectations for romantic relationships and their partners.
It’s helpful to define what you’re looking for (short vs. long term). But, don’t put pressure on yourself when msging or talking to girls… like another poster said just spark up a basic conversation.
Dating apps (Hindge & Bumble in particular) are super effective for me. Take good pictures, use the prompts and bios to help you with your openers, grab coffee on the 1st date to filter out the crazies.
Through mutual friends. But, don’t do this if your intention is short term. It can put you in bad standing with the friend who did the intro sometimes.
Out and about (clubs, church, day-2-day life, etc). Regardless of where you are… you can spark up a conversation. I typically say; (1) I thought you were cute and I wanted to come here and introduce my self; (2) compliment something they are wearing or doing and ask questions about it; (3) if I’m at a coffee shop, I ask questions such as “what’s your favorite thing on the menu?” “You can say you’re new to the area and ask for recommendations”; (4) simply introduce your self by saying “hey… I’m —-“. (5) if your at an event, simply say hi and use the event as your entry; “are you having fun?”, “what’d you think about the performance” etc.
I highly recommend online dating apps if you haven’t gone down that path yet. Initially I was high resistant due to the stigma associated with couples who met online being weirdos/weebs playing World of Warcraft.
Plenty of chicks in their 30s looking to date around online. It’s easy to find short term, long term, or a relationship of any length online
Picture this: You're hiking up switchbacks at the same pace as an attractive person who is out there by themselves as well. You're both out there alone together going the same pace on the way to the same place. What's weirder, talking to that person or having to hustle to go faster or sandbag or just hover around each other in complete silence?
People complain about online dating, not being able to meet anyone, social media and modern society ruining dating, but honestly, I think most people just have little to no social skills couple with absurd expectations for romantic relationships and their partners.
If you see a woman regularly running on your route, it's perfectly acceptable to strike up a conversation.
The problem with some of the youngsters is that they've gotten uptight and overcorrected for things like harassment and creepiness. In doing so, they've convinced themselves that it's socially inappropriate to find a love match in everyday life. This is unfortunate because it's much easier to vet people in real life.