Is it embarrassing to marry a much younger woman if you are an old man?

One of my law school professors married a former student with an almost identical age gap (she was his student and she dropped his class before they became involved). I think he had one of the Supreme Court justices perform the wedding and I met his wife and their kid briefly. Seemed to work out well.

Why should he care what "everyone" will think?

You wanted a younger woman, you found a younger woman and you're getting married. Why would you waste brain-space on worrying whether others find it "embarrassing" or not?

Live your life. If you're happy, you're happy. To Hell with what others think.

If you're not happy, or you're 'embarrassed' with your life choices, make the necessary changes.

But what you should not do, is spend excessive amount of time worrying about what other's think about you. Others' approval can't make an unhappy person, happy. Similarly, others' disapproval shouldn't change the fact that you're happy.

He’s asking about it on a running message board, it’s quite obvious.

Pretty embarrassing to be asking about it on letsrun as a supposed 66 year old. Sounds like something a 10 year old would be asking when his mom is banging a 66 year old.

I’m tired of fantasy land bull 💩 threads that make this board a joke.

If you can pull it off, why not. Most men would do this if they can pull it off financially.

True that.

I mean lets face it, over 50% get divorced and add another 10-30% (?) that dont get divorced but are old and just riding it out. We take marriage way too seriously. It seems less than natural to be with one person your whole life, based on the numbers I gave, this seems accurate. So, how does this appy to you? Just do it man! If it doesnt work out, thats fairly normal for any age gap! Just take precautions if you have money. But what's the downside? You are not likely to go 50 yrs, so just enjoy the ride.

You are her meal ticket for her kid. Suggest a pre-nup and watch how she reacts.

Inquiring about an opinion on this forum shows you have no integrity whatsoever and suffer from low self-worth. So my answer is, who cares!

The rule is YoungerAge * 2 - 7 >= OlderAge. She can acceptably marry a 51 year old and he can marry a 37 year old. She can marry him when she’s 44 and he’s 81. If it’s true love they can wait.

What are the wait times for a spouse green card these days? Something tells me you know this.

As most people say, who cares what others think?

For me, though, I had three kids before age 37, so it would be an automatic no. Just too weird to have a sexual relationship with someone younger than my kids. That feels wrong on every level.

Also, can you support her indefinitely as a stay-at-home mom on your retirement income? If not, she's got 30+ years left in the workforce while I assume you have little or none. How is that going to work?

Finally FWIW, the 2 x age - 7 thing is a random number someone made up once and for some reason it caught on. It's got little to do with any individual situation.

This thread is, of course, worthless without pics.

Kartelite - a law professor with whom I email fits this description. I was the editor on a law review of an issue devoted to criminal procedure decades ago (well known), and became aware of this professor's work as a result. His spouse is much younger, was a former student and is an excellent lawyer and now professor as well. They have a child, and by all accounts, it works for both of them, which makes me pleased. This professor is in the eye of the storm in the death penalty given where he works and the cases he assists on, and his justifications for eliminating the death penalty are not emotional or predicated on pursuing claims of actual innocence, which is rarely the case. I am always attracted to discipline and a focused sense of urgency, which both people in the relationship share. So every situation is different.

Would be illegal or at least a sackable offence in some countries, as academics are not supposed to use their job to meet sexual partners. Would they have met if she had not been his student or at the university in which he worked? No. Awful to end up with an old man like that, no matter what excuses make for people's behaviour. And no, having sexual relations with students at the institution you work at is not an example of "discipline". Probably got her a nice career and introductions though and he will be dead soon enough so she can remarry.

The socially acceptable age gap is divide by 2 and add 7.

For a 66 year old, that number is 40.

Never deal with any chick older than 19.

Tear that SH!t up!

Get er preggers!!