My gf has a victim mentality... what to do?

Ha! This is the exact same reason I broke up with my cousin, but my sister and I are much happier, now.

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I do not understand these posts.
“My girlfriend does this thing that I absolutely hate and it’s kind of ruining my very existence, what should I do?”

You should break up.

Dump that victim and find a real woman.

OP is demonstrating classic victim mentality!

Yep. All joking aside, marriage and kids will not change this mentality if it's truly ingrained in her. It'll always be there and come out from time to time which is just an unnecessary addition to the normal stresses of raising a family and taking care of a household.

Pics?

You haven’t left yet because you are full of fear, doubt and guilt. ask yourself why you are each of these and it will really add to your personal improvement. once you accept that you’re serving these principles and not the truth, you will have clarity.

To be fair, she does take action on some things. She goes to therapy, and she has noticed some things that are problems in her life and has tried to address them, but from my (imperfect) perspective, most of it is very surface level. I have tried to have conversations with her about different things a couple times where it seems like she is literally incapable of self-reflection/awareness, like to the point that it seems strange to me. There are a lot of good things about her too, but she definitely has a fixed-mindset rather than a growth-mindset. I've been trying to work with her some on that, but so far it hasn't really gone anywhere. I want to at least try before I give up on the relationship.

"My gf has a victim mentality... so I'll just come to LRC to complain to everyone about how hard it is and how difficult she is and how sad it makes me feel cause unlike her I don't have a victim mentality of any weird mental problems of my own."

Pick your poison. You can either go with the perpetual victim - which means she's likely liberal, well educated, financially independent & doesn't feel compelled to breed. Or she's got a healthy sense of self esteem who takes responsibility for their actions, but then she's probably a raging faith head anti-vaxer conspiracy theorist who won't shut up about her sky daddy & will expect you to be the sole bread-winner while putting babies in her once a year for five years. If you ever find a woman in the rare gray area, marry her the first opportunity she gives you.

I came asking for advice on what to do.

Make her a victim. Then at least her mentality will match her life

Its likely a trait.

Move on, she will never get over it.

Next boyfriend you'll be the person who caused her problems.

I like your post but I think victim hood is normal; rising above, and refusing self pity, is what needs to be modeled and learned.

Time for a new GF.

Coming to LRC for girlfriend advice is like going to CouchPotatoe dot com for running advice.

It doesn't really matter much tbh. It's obvious you don't like her that much. And relationships can be really wonderful and fulfilling. Leave this one. Find that kind. Only one life man and you shouldn't settle for meh or bad.