My ex is engaged. I'm struggling

Stop being a wuss and a weakling. You should absolutely send her the letter so that she can fully understand why she moved on from Mr Soft.

1. Grow up

2. Get over it

Don't send her a letter, send her a link to the thread.

Lots of good replies here already. Some mean ones, which over time you’ll see to be true.

I’ll add - just wait til she’s in her 30’s. You’ll see a picture of her and realize you were more in love with her younger appearance than you were her “soul” or whatever.

You won’t believe me right now. That’s OK. You’ll see.

Why is this on page 2?

You don’t love her you just can’t accept the fact she likes someone more than you, and it is embarrassing for you. she was probably your first and only girl so far so you truly believe that she was your only chance. you should go to Amsterdam and have as many legal sexual purchases as you can and then move on

OP, is the problem that something, even something bad, is better than nothing? In that case, you are longing for a placeholder. I do not think you really "love her still". I think you fear that you are not going to find someone else. There is another LRC poster (somewhat frequent) who often comes up with deep questions while exclusively pursuing online leads. Everyone is giving the same advise. Make friends. See them in person. If you do that, it is next to impossible to not find someone else. Just don't force things. It has to be mutual to work out.

Stop being a b!tch and go find a new girl. They’re literally billions of them.

OP, are you seeing a licensed therapist? It would be really helpful I think. You’re going to see some mean people responding here

OP, I feel for you but you have to realize that from the time she got a restraining order against you, things would never work out for you guys. Just be glad you walked out the charges with community service and move on.

The fact that your name is “sadboi” proves you weren’t mentally or emotionally ready for a romantic relationship. Stick to TikTok and video games.

This. It’s true bro. Stay off the media. It never used to be like this regarding relationships. Fill your life with more things. Keep dating and remember what the previous poster said. She isn’t actually over the moon happy in her perfect life. Cheer up mate. We have ALL been there.

It seems to me that writing a letter to an ex would just serve to reinforce the incomplete and under processed memories that keep you trapped. Maybe try imagining your own situation from the perspective of a close friend and write a letter to yourself about how you can move on. You do need to let the memories (good and bad) surface but you don't need to uncritically let them dictate how you feel or act now. If you can see your thoughts more objectively you will slowly change how you feel about your ex and the time you were together. In the end your feeling will be better aligned with objective reality.

Alcohol is risky at a time like this. It is easy to use it to avoid processing emotions. It can lead to you doing or saying things that make you feel bad about yourself. And, it makes you more impulsive which is bad when combined with feeling depressed.

Don't worry, the new guy is much better in bed and taking very good care of her.

Go for a two hour run

Focus on money. Start a business and make millions. First, you’ll be too busy running a business to notice what she’s doing. Second, better women will come into your life and you’ll forget she existed and you’ll look back on this thread and say, man I was dumb.

Totally on my to-do list. It's not easy to find one that works with my finances but I will. Mean responses mean nothing to me, it's par for the course for posting anything remotely soft on letsrun :) . But yeah, i've gotten plenty of action and had plenty of girls since her, and I still can't get over it after a few years. I think I never will. Sucks to be a guy sometimes- women seem to move on much faster.