You should open with this. Until they realize you make $150k a year and realize you're not really that well off. You sound a bit narcissistic and lack self-awareness, maybe therapy could help?
Also, what are you invested in that's "pulling in" $100k/year in earnings? I'm not doubting you but curious what that could possibly be at your age. Real-estate/rentals?
I'm near the end of my grad program and doing an internship right now, but when I'm done, I'm going to be making about $150k/year. I also have been investing very aggressively since my early 20s and will be pulling in close to $100k/year from that also in another couple years. All combined, I anticipate I'll be grossing close to $300k/year in about 4 years. That number sounds ridiculous even to me, but it's realistic and likely.
My question is, how on earth do you date when you make this kind of money? I don't want some crazy hyper-career oriented woman, but I feel like if I date more normal women it's going to be hard to find ones that love me for me. I want to signal that I'm well off without signaling that I'm rich. I want to take women on really fun things, but I don't want them to see me as merely a source of expensive fun and entertainment...
Anyone been in a situation like this? How do you date or manage relationships when you make way more than the other person?
I'm not even sure if this is a serious post though... $100k per year just from investments? Are you expecting that from crypto? If you've got it in the market, at an 8% per year growth, then you apparently have $1.25million invested... and you're in your early 20's? ok.
Female here. I’m broke AF (but have potential… I’ll be ok) I laugh when guys like to tell me how much they make. It matters very little to me. I like a man who is responsible and successful in their career, but 80k covers it, imo. Over that I really don’t care. Most guys I date are 100k and it has made little difference. In fact the ones with the most assets seem to be the least generous imo.
I'm not even sure if this is a serious post though... $100k per year just from investments? Are you expecting that from crypto? If you've got it in the market, at an 8% per year growth, then you apparently have $1.25million invested... and you're in your early 20's? ok.
This was my exact thought.
Maybe he means he will have $100k invested? But making $100k through investments seems very unlikely given that he didn’t mention being a multimillionaire already and thinks a 150k salary makes him “rich”
Nope. I will have over 1 million in investments in about 4 years. I don't think $150k/year is rich. I think having over 1 million dollars and making $300k/year between job and investments is rich, or rather, it leads to being rich if you're not spending a ton. I am in my 30s, not 20s. I expect to have multi-millions by mid 40s. I have spent about $30k/year the last 8 years, so if I make $150k/year, even if I increase my standard of living by $15k/year, that still leaves many tens of thousands of dollars left over.
Also, not sure where the incel type comments came from. I didn't mean that I planned on "buying" women or anything like that, just that I want to do things like international travel on a regular basis, and this isn't financially realistic for most people unless someone else is paying. I would want to be able to take trips with my gf etc but don't want that to be why she's with me... Sometimes women seem genuine but aren't. People in general can be that way, but it just seems more common for women to burn men financially, and they would be the one with incentive in a situation like mine where I would have ~$200k of excess money each year.
As a very old, out of shape, overweight, bald and not so attractive multi-millionaire, I find it easy to get very poor, younger and extremely hotttt women to date me.
The income gap doesn't seem to matter to them and it certainly doesn't matter to me.
I'm near the end of my grad program and doing an internship right now, but when I'm done, I'm going to be making about $150k/year. I also have been investing very aggressively since my early 20s and will be pulling in close to $100k/year from that also in another couple years. All combined, I anticipate I'll be grossing close to $300k/year in about 4 years. That number sounds ridiculous even to me, but it's realistic and likely.
My question is, how on earth do you date when you make this kind of money? I don't want some crazy hyper-career oriented woman, but I feel like if I date more normal women it's going to be hard to find ones that love me for me. I want to signal that I'm well off without signaling that I'm rich. I want to take women on really fun things, but I don't want them to see me as merely a source of expensive fun and entertainment...
Anyone been in a situation like this? How do you date or manage relationships when you make way more than the other person?
I don't think the amount of income would be the issue so much as ambition levels. A mismatch in ambition can be a big problem. A person who is ambitious is thinking about the future and trying to make stuff happen. The goal may not be to make money but I believe people with ambition can inspire each other. And the opposite can also happen. If your partner doesn't have ambition like you do then she'll feel like a drain on your energy. She might have a bunch of money from inheritance or a boring job that she doesn't like, but if she doesn't have any drive towards some kind of future, i don't think you'd be happy about that at all.
I'm near the end of my grad program and doing an internship right now, but when I'm done, I'm going to be making about $150k/year. I also have been investing very aggressively since my early 20s and will be pulling in close to $100k/year from that also in another couple years. All combined, I anticipate I'll be grossing close to $300k/year in about 4 years. That number sounds ridiculous even to me, but it's realistic and likely.
My question is, how on earth do you date when you make this kind of money? I don't want some crazy hyper-career oriented woman, but I feel like if I date more normal women it's going to be hard to find ones that love me for me. I want to signal that I'm well off without signaling that I'm rich. I want to take women on really fun things, but I don't want them to see me as merely a source of expensive fun and entertainment...
Anyone been in a situation like this? How do you date or manage relationships when you make way more than the other person?
Move to San Francisco. You'll be broke at that salary.
Maybe he means he will have $100k invested? But making $100k through investments seems very unlikely given that he didn’t mention being a multimillionaire already and thinks a 150k salary makes him “rich”
Nope. I will have over 1 million in investments in about 4 years. I don't think $150k/year is rich. I think having over 1 million dollars and making $300k/year between job and investments is rich, or rather, it leads to being rich if you're not spending a ton. I am in my 30s, not 20s. I expect to have multi-millions by mid 40s. I have spent about $30k/year the last 8 years, so if I make $150k/year, even if I increase my standard of living by $15k/year, that still leaves many tens of thousands of dollars left over.
Also, not sure where the incel type comments came from. I didn't mean that I planned on "buying" women or anything like that, just that I want to do things like international travel on a regular basis, and this isn't financially realistic for most people unless someone else is paying. I would want to be able to take trips with my gf etc but don't want that to be why she's with me... Sometimes women seem genuine but aren't. People in general can be that way, but it just seems more common for women to burn men financially, and they would be the one with incentive in a situation like mine where I would have ~$200k of excess money each year.
I don't know where you get the idea that there are not a lot of women in their 30s with similar income that can afford to travel internationally whenever they want. Maybe you are just in the wrong social circles.
In a major major market a typically salary might be $150-$250K plus a bonus. I'm talking about analysts, developers, product managers, etc. Directors, VPs, etc. will make more, as will most physicians.
And if you are in a market like NYC, Boston, DC, or Silicon Valley, where there are a lot of women from Ivies or other elite schools a lot of them will have also have some family money. They don't need your money. You are really overestimating your wealth, unless live in a small job market in the middle of the country.
This is hilarious. I love guys like you. If you have that level of insecurity, don't even date. You may have figured out how to be a great provider but man you're in for a world of hurt and potentially hurting your future girlfriend with your current mindset. Just play the field for a while.
What makes you think I'm insecure? What about my current mindset is bad? Please explain. I genuinely do not understand.
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