dumpstre fire wrote:
I hate to be that guy but
Coaching doesn't really do anything for society
It's BELOW teacher in the "glorified young adult babysitter" pecking order.
Pursue something that's essential to society and you'll find fulfillment.
Mow lawns, plow snow, construction, deliver food, manage a business, get into the trades, law enforcement, paramedics. Pick one.
Just do what I do man. Show up at 9am. Punch the clock. Take a two hour lunch at home with a nap. Punch out at 4. Figuratively of course. No one gives a sh!t when I’m actually there. Take the summers essentially off…definitely don’t bother with a camp. Take a month off over the holidays. I do whatever my “DI athletes” tell me to do and everyone is happy. We’re not very good of course…but I do my actual job - what the profession is - very well. Rave reviews from admin & athletes alike. And we’re always bottom 3rd of the conference. Fuk it man. Just give’em what they want. I used to be very competitive & hard working but the “athletes” made me miserable. I’ve never been happier since I gave up.
It's 2022. If you're still using the term Woke when bitching about pretty much anything you are a loser.
So quit then, you baby.
In the UK the vast vast majority is voluntary.
As the hassle and controls and definitions of risk change good coaches have given up as just not worth it.
coachingProbs wrote:
yup, that's true wrote:
you sound ill-equipped to deal with youths who are still developing as athletes and people. It's best that you step aside, for their sakes. You seem to have the misguided concept that the point of an athletic program is to employ coaches.
You make a good point. I've spent the last 10 or so years establishing an alumni base where our athletes can get jobs and network, I've written at least 50-60 Letters of rec for athletes who have used those to get into med school- grad school- jobs- jobs well after graduation and more. I've spent countless hours supporting athletes who are in need of dire help financially as well as emotionally.... HOWEVER none of that was hard for me- it was the fulfilling part of the job. Yet. If the new job is bowing down to kids who don't really have problems...... but create their own.... and use that fakeness to stage a "MOVEMENT" well you win.... I'm not equipped and the next sucker should step right in.
that's a lot of "I" and 'me". You sound bitter and selfish, and seem to have forgotten that the coach is there to serve the athletes. They'll be better off without you.
observation #1 wrote:
coachingProbs wrote:
You assume I'm an a-hole. I'm not. In fact I have a great relationships with the kids and them me- but it's because I'm ALWAYS further bending the knee year after year from coach to van driver to the kids who don't care but now have the admins in their pockets and I can't even say "You had a bad race" because it will be bad for mental health. Nice try troll.
I know it can be tough to toe the line between coaching kids up and being supportive mentor. That said, it struck me that you say you have great relationships with your kids, but can’t tell them (likely) objective facts about their race.
My experience with young adults is that they can, even sensitive ones, take constructive criticism, especially if delivered in a fair way from someone they respect. Perhaps there’s more going on?
+1
yup, that's true wrote:
coachingProbs wrote:
You make a good point. I've spent the last 10 or so years establishing an alumni base where our athletes can get jobs and network, I've written at least 50-60 Letters of rec for athletes who have used those to get into med school- grad school- jobs- jobs well after graduation and more. I've spent countless hours supporting athletes who are in need of dire help financially as well as emotionally.... HOWEVER none of that was hard for me- it was the fulfilling part of the job. Yet. If the new job is bowing down to kids who don't really have problems...... but create their own.... and use that fakeness to stage a "MOVEMENT" well you win.... I'm not equipped and the next sucker should step right in.
that's a lot of "I" and 'me". You sound bitter and selfish, and seem to have forgotten that the coach is there to serve the athletes. They'll be better off without you.
I feel like this is hurtful. I'm not being supported for my feelings and aspirations of helping people. You all are NOT here for the athlete but you are here to hurt me and that is a sign that bullies have no place in this sport!!! Stop being mean and realize that my mental health matters! STOP OBJECTIVIFYING me!!!!
coachingProbs wrote:
yup, that's true wrote:
that's a lot of "I" and 'me". You sound bitter and selfish, and seem to have forgotten that the coach is there to serve the athletes. They'll be better off without you.
I feel like this is hurtful. I'm not being supported for my feelings and aspirations of helping people. You all are NOT here for the athlete but you are here to hurt me and that is a sign that bullies have no place in this sport!!! Stop being mean and realize that my mental health matters! STOP OBJECTIVIFYING me!!!!
you sound like Urban Meyer.
If you have been coaching that long, you know that it is not easy. There are beautiful highs, and dark lows.
When the net result is negative for you as a coach walk away. But do not blame it on the athletes, especially if it is "all" of them that are hopeless.
There will be other coaches that will step in and be equipped to handle the new wave. Those coaches will be able to steer success into what you label as weak minded, distracted, and lazy.
But it also just may be you growing stale or stuck in your ways. As long as I have coached, I can fall victim to myself at times. I have felt that the sky is falling, or even that my athletes are uncoachable. But often it helps me grow as a coach! It forces me to reflect and meet them where they are. Or it can make me realize that my path is correct and all the athlete needed was consistency from me.
You need to continue to grow as a coach. Grow your knowledge or the sport. Grow your understanding of the athletes you are coaching. Grow your patience in dealing with their BS. Grow your ability to discern when they need a heavy hand and when they need a trustworthy figure.
If any of that is beyond you, or you do not have the desire to do it, then walk away. Coaching is not glamorous and can be thankless to begin with. Maybe you just need a break to find the desire again. Even if it is just to guide those few on your team that truly want it.
RedorGreen wrote:
If you have been coaching that long, you know that it is not easy. There are beautiful highs, and dark lows.
When the net result is negative for you as a coach walk away. But do not blame it on the athletes, especially if it is "all" of them that are hopeless.
There will be other coaches that will step in and be equipped to handle the new wave. Those coaches will be able to steer success into what you label as weak minded, distracted, and lazy.
But it also just may be you growing stale or stuck in your ways. As long as I have coached, I can fall victim to myself at times. I have felt that the sky is falling, or even that my athletes are uncoachable. But often it helps me grow as a coach! It forces me to reflect and meet them where they are. Or it can make me realize that my path is correct and all the athlete needed was consistency from me.
You need to continue to grow as a coach. Grow your knowledge or the sport. Grow your understanding of the athletes you are coaching. Grow your patience in dealing with their BS. Grow your ability to discern when they need a heavy hand and when they need a trustworthy figure.
If any of that is beyond you, or you do not have the desire to do it, then walk away. Coaching is not glamorous and can be thankless to begin with. Maybe you just need a break to find the desire again. Even if it is just to guide those few on your team that truly want it.
I never labeled anyone as weak minded or lazy. Where did I say that? Also I have a GREAT relationship with about 85% of the kids.... it's the 15% who take control who have no desire to be good who only find ways to be important so they make fake LRC posts like this to make a difference.
coachingProbs wrote:
I feel like this is hurtful. I'm not being supported for my feelings and aspirations of helping people. You all are NOT here for the athlete but you are here to hurt me and that is a sign that bullies have no place in this sport!!! Stop being mean and realize that my mental health matters! STOP OBJECTIVIFYING me!!!!
You clearly lack the maturity to be an average coach, let alone a good one.
RedorGreen wrote:
If you have been coaching that long, you know that it is not easy. There are beautiful highs, and dark lows.
When the net result is negative for you as a coach walk away. But do not blame it on the athletes, especially if it is "all" of them that are hopeless.
There will be other coaches that will step in and be equipped to handle the new wave. Those coaches will be able to steer success into what you label as weak minded, distracted, and lazy.
But it also just may be you growing stale or stuck in your ways. As long as I have coached, I can fall victim to myself at times. I have felt that the sky is falling, or even that my athletes are uncoachable. But often it helps me grow as a coach! It forces me to reflect and meet them where they are. Or it can make me realize that my path is correct and all the athlete needed was consistency from me.
You need to continue to grow as a coach. Grow your knowledge or the sport. Grow your understanding of the athletes you are coaching. Grow your patience in dealing with their BS. Grow your ability to discern when they need a heavy hand and when they need a trustworthy figure.
If any of that is beyond you, or you do not have the desire to do it, then walk away. Coaching is not glamorous and can be thankless to begin with. Maybe you just need a break to find the desire again. Even if it is just to guide those few on your team that truly want it.
10 years isn't that long to be doing something. Let's not pretend he's some Hall of Famer having trouble with the new generation; he's just not cut out to be around young athletes.
I get it, most kids are great. Keep doing those letters of recommendation keep pushing for them to be successful because the ones that do care are worth all of it. The ones that don’t, or like you said they’re only the 15% so keep on keeping on! Don’t mind the haters on this thread, it seems like you do care you just want the best for the ones that are here for the right reasons!
You're right. You did not specifically say weak or lazy.
What I meant was that you may label some as athletes that have no desire, or "take control", or are this/that. Being a coach for many years has provided me with the insight that some athletes (hs/college/pro) are difficult. You will not reach them all. Nor do you have to have the absolute best relationship with them all to help them as athletes.
If you have a team of 40, and 34 of them (85% by your estimation) are great then you are in a great position.
Simply put, if you are unwilling to deal with the remaining., find a way to build rapport/trust, or establish a culture, then you should move on. I bet at one point you were very successful at all of it. Times change and so do the athletes. But respect is constant. Yes, the younger gen may lack what previous generations labeled respect. Or have a far different modus operandi than before.
But a great coach knows when to be rigid, but also how to relate with the next gen
get out wrote:
I get it, most kids are great. Keep doing those letters of recommendation keep pushing for them to be successful because the ones that do care are worth all of it. The ones that don’t, or like you said they’re only the 15% so keep on keeping on! Don’t mind the haters on this thread, it seems like you do care you just want the best for the ones that are here for the right reasons!
This dude is right… the good kids that want to be good will be good; just babysit the losers, keep them happy and let them do what they do and let the winners win. You only need one or two good kids to make the whole job fun.
Football if you have the best qb and a bunch of losers your team sucks… in track/xc you have one amazing kid and a bunch of losers and you get to have fun coaching a winner!
Stoppit Smith wrote:
coachingProbs wrote:
I've been coaching for over a decade at the D1 level. It has become clear that only a few really want to be the best and creating a team where the goal is to be the best they can be is dwarfed by woke vampires who find every way possible to take the focus off winning and shine the light on "winning isn't important"
They do this through IG posts that seem legit- like "My voice counts!" well of course it does. your voice counts. but it didn't say "you are right!" yet the implication is that "No matter what I say is right and F- You coaches you are WRONG" It's a lose lose because you can rattle off how many coaches who have been fired over the last 5 years from IG social justice warriors without due process.
I feel the most bad for the kids who really want to be good who are often distracted by these kids who grow in number each year. In the recruiting process we do a lot to find the kids who are wanting an experience based on competition with teamwork and supportive atmosphere...yet we end up getting snakes who claim to be this way, but then when they get to campus decide "I don't like running actually... so I'm going to show my worth through tearing the Fing department and team apart by exposing it for being abusive and yada yada yada."
They pretty much have no athletic value anymore and want to gain value by "exposing the horrid nature of the sport!" which is sadly taking advantage of all the real problems out there.
It's too much to deal with. I mentored a former runner who is now a coach and he is part of the woke movement and sent me a text complaining about kids trying to get out of practice because of "weather" even though it was harmless. hahaha Anyway. I think I'd rather mow lawns and make more than this crappy job.
vent sessions complete.
To paraphrase and adapt a quote from Roald Dahl (as relayed in Matilda (1996): we want good coaches daddy...why can't you give people good coaches.
If you can't adapt, you're just a trunchbull.
In my student-teaching practicum, which I passed well a wise teacher ..Mr. Mark Bauer...told me...you can be right or a good teacher .
Would you rather be right or a great coach?
One can be both. Tough love is love. But the woke mob fails to realize this and merely values their own gloating sense of self-entitlement, victimization, & martyrdom.
You sound like part of this woke mob. Or mentally ill. Or something. Were your feelings hurt by a coach or something? For real?
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