Interesting question. I got cheated on, most likely several times, by the love of ny life. I never really knew about cheating until then because i come from a stable family background and i didnt pay as much attention to the signs as i should have dome. He only ended the relationship with me when he thought it likely i would find out. I did a lot of thinking about this due to being so upset.
- men who get married later in life usually after 40 - they oftentimes have a history of ending relationships for no good reason and to them, love is cheap and meaningless. I wouldnt trust them to remain faithful once they are married, though some do. Often for lack of opportunity more than anything else.
- men with a history of using Tinder. Those men have a similar throwaway attitude to women. Once youve got down that route, its difficukt to be the same peson again.
- Manipulative liars, narcissists, etc. You can spot them if they are love bombers in the beginning of a relationship, are very self centred, especially if they had an unclear ending to their previous relationship before getting together with the next person (overlaps are a telltale sign), lack of empathy, lsck of conscience or very fake over emphasised displays of occasional conscience. Users who discard people, friends, etc.
- Good looking mem married to or formerly in a relationship with women who are much less attractive/older than they are and who have little career or outside interests. Again, tbis isnt normal. Most healthy relationships are formed between people who are relatively similar. This type like to have a homemaker to look after them at home while they cheat and figure that if they provide a decent house for her to live in, she wont leave. Id actually say this is the best predicter of all. Look at the previous girlfriend/wife. Several of my ex's friends tried to ask me on a date as soon as they found out we had split up and ALL of them had girlfriends/wives who fit into this category. It was disgusting.
- Secrecy or shyness (often tge same thing) in adult men. Often an act they have perfected to draw you in and not explain their actions. I wouldnt know my ex had got married if a male) friend hadnt found out and told me. Im guessing that would be the same for any woman doing online dating. Theres nothing on his sm, no couples or wedding photographs, no status change, etc.
- Men drawn to the limelight - actors, politicians, personal trainers, dancers, etc - too focussed on their appearance and have too many opportunities to cheat. This type of man needs constant stimulation and reassurance that he is still the star of his own show.
- often they will tell you - the opposite to secrecy, they want to avoid being accused of lying, so tell you all tge bad stuff at the start but not in a way that will put you off. Listen carefully to any guy who tells you they ended things with a former partner due to distance, etc. They are often telling you they cheated and if they've done it once, they have crossed a boundary and will do it again, even years later. Its like a type of innocence lost which can never be regained.
- men who have friends who are cheaters
- men who have fathers who cheated and got divorced as a result
- any past history of a double life through eg ldrs.
- men who go from relationship to telationship with no gaps.
- men who talk in detail about theit relationships, their approach to relationships, etc - this isnt normal, its self obsessed.
- tbose with obvious signs of some form of personality disorder. The majority of personality disorders are undiagnosed. Be particularly careful of anyone you suspect meets the criteria for borderline pd, aspd, ant form of psychotic pd, and obviously the dark triad includibg machiavellianism.
- non-masculine men - those who prefer female company, arent very interested in traditional male puruits, like to stay indoors, etc. Girly men cheat.
As i previously mentioned, i got cheated on and left by the love of my life. That guy then got married and sent me a message implying he wanted to cheat on his wife with me. That was the point i saw who he really was. But when youre in love, you cannot contemplate cheating.
Be careful with any guy who shows any red flags in the beginning, before you get sucked in, because cheaters dont only emotionally tear you to pieces, they devastate your life (i found going to my job really quite difficult for months afterwards and looking back, i dont know how i held it together).
Looking back, my ex displayed all of the signs above, but i overlooked them because i was young and innocent and met him through frirnds/hobby.