I'm a 24 year old guy and i'm a virgin. I have never dated anyone or kissed anyone. It's not that i've tried and failed at it i have never considering dating and casual sex disgusts me. I've been focused on my studies (just finished my masters) and my running. Any others in the same boat?
45 here. 25 is nothing!
24yo virgin wrote:
I'm a 24 year old guy and i'm a virgin. I have never dated anyone or kissed anyone. It's not that i've tried and failed at it i have never considering dating and casual sex disgusts me. I've been focused on my studies (just finished my masters) and my running. Any others in the same boat?
This is extremely abnormal. Not you being a virgin, but you having no interest whatsoever. Sex is an evolutionary reproductive need.
Are you asexual?
Lol i'm interested but i want to love and care the person i sleep with, not to have the person gasp and run away if i say i love them. I understand that may take time or may not happen at all but i don't know if there's anyone my age still holding out hope and still being a virgin. I just don't yearn for it or regret my decision is all i can occupy myself with other things in the meantime i was just asking to see if this isn't uncommon in endurance athletes and runners.
The not liking casual sex is a good thing but not having any interest in a relationship is definitely uncommon
How do you know that casual sex disgusts you?
It's the idea of casual sex i don't doubt it would feel good but i'm not a no strings attached kind of guy so the whole scenario puts me off if i'm not a in a relationship. I'm also hyperaware of STD prevalence and talk about it a lot in my field, im a biologist, so its the first thing that pops in my head when i think sex and stranger.
Go rent and watch the 40 year old virgin movie.
At least this dude is honest unlike most of the LRBF here. Problem being, you might find sex disgusts you but normal women will find it - you - very strange and be very turned off. They smell virgin fail on you from miles away.
Being a virgin at 24 is plausible
But not even a kiss that sounds strange, have you led a sheltered life? No parties, circle of friends into that kind of thing?
Well i grew up in a country where it was frowned upon to be in a premarital relationship and i didn't feel like i was missing out then when i left for college i just focused on studying and running. I was never the type to go to frat parties and am a social drinker at best.
It is still know by some of us as the "marital" act.
My wife of 35 years and I have had a great life together. We pledged ourselves to each other at our marriage and the fact that we've only been with each other makes that pledge more complete.
If it's OK to have multiple partners before marriage,there's more difficulty remaining faithful in marriage. And there's more difficulty trusting a spouse's faithfulness if they had been promiscuous before marriage.
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Don't feel bad. This guy is a 64 year-old Virgin and will stay one until the day he dies:
If you wear a condom, you will not get an std. That's in part what they are for. Saying you're worried about an std while using a condom is the same as saying you're worried about getting her pregnant while using a condom. There is nothing to worry about. For what it's worth I've banged over 150 girls including about 100 escorts or strippers. Never had an std and get checked regularly. I wrap it up and it works. As a side note I once had a friend who was gay but tried to hide it. He would always talk about wanting to bang girl but when he had a chance he would retreat and say something like, 'I know she has STDs.' Again, he was a closet homosexual.
On about the same ship as you, although a year younger. Kissless, hugless, but really haven't tried at all. A bit different mindset for me, as I am not "disgusted" by hookups and dating seems like it could be a good time if approached the right way. And the reason is definitely not for "focusing on my studies and my running" as I've had plenty of fun and reckless times not tied to either. (unrelated, but the use of the term "my running" should be banned, I'll save the rest for another time).
This expectedly goes with other patterns in my life, where I have always been slow to make "real" friends or have connections with other people. I didn't feel like I had made new friends in undergrad until my junior year. It took me about a year to actually feel like I know the other folks in my research group. I've always been on the odd side, and increasingly so as I've grown up : growing-into it rather than growing-out of it.
For me I think there are several factors that go into it. Maybe most dominant is that I am really picky. I can think of maybe 4 people I've had an actual attraction to throughout my life, and 2 of those are in hindsight! I don't necessarily have super high standards, just different ones that are compatible with who I am.
The other main factor is that I have a terrible fear of "settling" with anything in life. I feel as though it would be easy to settle on the wrong person if things got going, or I wouldn't have the heart to end something just for the reason that I'm not satisfied. Of course this is ironic as my own inaction is also a form of settling, albeit with more options left open.
Family and friends have thought of I've just had confidence issues, but it's assuredly not that. I think highly of myself, but at the same time being critical of actions and inactions. This confidence is probably justified, as I've had friends, male and female, ask how I've never been in any sort of relationship in a serious but flattering ways. I've been hit-on, flirted-with by random people and acquaintances alike; girls have thrown themselves at me at parties (sometimes I didn't notice, sometimes I didn't care).
Of course this has begun to weigh on me more heavily with the corona lockdown, as I see friends of mine engaged in more serious relationships, and pondering the complete lack of any romantic experience on my part. Of course I'm still optimistic that if I keep doing interesting things (which I do) , and never settle, I'll eventually find someone, although things aren't getting any more promising.
yes. it is weird. not necessarily the virgin part, but the part of you not be interested in dating and/or sex. there is nothing normal with that. humans, like all animals, are born with a drive to pro-create. to not have that drive is to deny something essential about the human experience, which is weird.
No it's not weird and it can easily happen if you don't have a social circle. One of my friends was very handsome (like well above average), tall and muscular and he didn't lose it until his late 20s. He studied for many years.
The 7aji wrote:
Well i grew up in a country where it was frowned upon to be in a premarital relationship and i didn't feel like i was missing out then when i left for college i just focused on studying and running. I was never the type to go to frat parties and am a social drinker at best.
Are you attracted to women?
If you are, don't you want to go talk to them? Spend time with them? Go on dates with them? Doing all of those things is a far cry from having casual sex with someone. Surely people in this small town didn't frown on teenagers going on dates or going to prom or high school homecoming or anything like that? Taking a girl out to dinner doesn't mean you have to have sex with her. Dating and making a connection with someone is intrinsically enjoyable even before someone initiates physical touch.
If you haven't even kissed a girl before it sounds like you have no interest whatsoever. Typical teenagers have raging hormones and incredible feelings of anxiety, euphoria, fear, and obsession around the opposite sex. Teenagers have huge crushes on each other. ESPECIALLY teenage boys. I'm shocked that you were around girls as a teenager and you just completely ignored them. This is very out of the ordinary which makes me thing you are asexual. If that's the case there's nothing wrong with that at all, just be you!
Yea its all weird and most people on here posting about it are. Dude you should have punched that V-card by the time you were 18. At least heavy petting and finger play!!!!!!
How do you judge a situation unless you have dabbled a little?
Maybe there is some history of sexual abuse and you dont remember it.
