"Faux Paw"? What is she a furry?
"Faux Paw"? What is she a furry?
Poor Form wrote:
Would like some input on this. This is a third date. First date was just drinks and later hanging out with her group of friends. I paid for the drinks for her and myself.
How would you read this?
Never pay more than 50% if you are not willing to hangaround with prostitutes. You made a rookie mistake.
Poor Form wrote:
Would like some input on this. This is a third date. First date was just drinks and later hanging out with her group of friends. I paid for the drinks for her and myself. Second date was a movie and sleep over at her place... Things have been low key and casual, and I have no serious intentions with her at this point. I did tell her I would take her to dinner though and asked if she had a preference, and she gave a list of the three places in town that are the only ones in their price tier, the top tier for here (about $30/plate, more if you order a drink). I thought it was a pretty bad faux paw, especially considering she is basically broke, and I, while very financially comfortable, am not what I would consider wealthy by any means. There are many restaurants here with all different kinds of ethnic food. Two new places have opened up in the last year, yet all three of her suggestions are the three most expensive places. Honestly made me think about cancelling and not going out with her again.
How would you read this?
If you were "financially comfortable" you wouldn't be asking this question.
That's my read.
Nothing wrong with suggesting a nice meal. Also, she may not know any of the smaller cheaper ethnic restaurants if she doesn’t have money and is less likely to search those kinds of places out on her own. Take her to the nice place, then suggest a more modest ethnic place for next time. If she’s open minded then great, you didn’t drop a good girl over nothing. If she turns up her nose, then you’ve learned something valuable about her.
Poor Form wrote:
Second date was a movie and sleep over at her place...
$60-$80 for a sleep over is a good deal, even if she is a fattie. That's a fair price assuming she doesn't have crabs.
#paythegirl
Pics?
Poor Form wrote:
Would like some input on this. This is a third date. First date was just drinks and later hanging out with her group of friends. I paid for the drinks for her and myself. Second date was a movie and sleep over at her place... Things have been low key and casual, and I have no serious intentions with her at this point. I did tell her I would take her to dinner though and asked if she had a preference, and she gave a list of the three places in town that are the only ones in their price tier, the top tier for here (about $30/plate, more if you order a drink). I thought it was a pretty bad faux paw, especially considering she is basically broke, and I, while very financially comfortable, am not what I would consider wealthy by any means. There are many restaurants here with all different kinds of ethnic food. Two new places have opened up in the last year, yet all three of her suggestions are the three most expensive places. Honestly made me think about cancelling and not going out with her again.
How would you read this?
I feel sorry for her. But at least she has a group of friends she can return to after this thing runs its course.
Poor Form wrote:
Would like some input on this. This is a third date. First date was just drinks and later hanging out with her group of friends. I paid for the drinks for her and myself. Second date was a movie and sleep over at her place... Things have been low key and casual, and I have no serious intentions with her at this point. I did tell her I would take her to dinner though and asked if she had a preference, and she gave a list of the three places in town that are the only ones in their price tier, the top tier for here (about $30/plate, more if you order a drink). I thought it was a pretty bad faux paw, especially considering she is basically broke, and I, while very financially comfortable, am not what I would consider wealthy by any means. There are many restaurants here with all different kinds of ethnic food. Two new places have opened up in the last year, yet all three of her suggestions are the three most expensive places. Honestly made me think about cancelling and not going out with her again.
How would you read this?
4/10
nice try
My guess is that you're giving signals that you're really not into her and she may be subconsciously testing that hypothesis. Fish or cut bait.
You asked her to go to dinner...you asked her for suggestions on a place...and you are complaining that she suggested some place nice? What's your deal? This is how dating works: you do something nicer than you usually would because you are enjoying the special event with a potential romantic partner. Wait until you get deep into the relationship and are tired and busy and bored and it's all you can do to find time to sit down together and heat up some leftovers. You should loosen up and enjoy the opportunity to do something nice.
0/10
Wannabe incel
You guys are funny. I normally don't even pay anything and get laid, so yeah, spending $70+ on a night is more than what I'm used to or care to spend. And I don't know where you guys live, but no town of 50,000 people or less has restaurants with plates of $100. Not everyone lives in Manhattan, SF, etc.
FWIW, I have multiple friends who make $130,000/year (92nd percentile in the US) or more who literally never spend the kind of money that has been mentioned in this thread on dinner as they see that to be a very stupid use of money for what they value. I'm of the same mindset.
Poor Form wrote:
(about $30/plate, more if you order a drink).
How would you read this?
1/10 for making me respond.
$30? Come on, man. Did she pick Outback, Red Lobster, and TGI Fridays?
If $30 is a lot for you, take her and share an entree, bro. Or cook for her instead.
Also, next time don’t offer to take her out to a place of her choosing if you are going to whine about what she picks.
Poor Form wrote:
You guys are funny. I normally don't even pay anything and get laid, so yeah, spending $70+ on a night is more than what I'm used to or care to spend. And I don't know where you guys live, but no town of 50,000 people or less has restaurants with plates of $100. Not everyone lives in Manhattan, SF, etc.
FWIW, I have multiple friends who make $130,000/year (92nd percentile in the US) or more who literally never spend the kind of money that has been mentioned in this thread on dinner as they see that to be a very stupid use of money for what they value. I'm of the same mindset.
Aren’t you a catch?
Is it outback? wrote:
Poor Form wrote:
(about $30/plate, more if you order a drink).
How would you read this?
1/10 for making me respond.
$30? Come on, man. Did she pick Outback, Red Lobster, and TGI Fridays?
If $30 is a lot for you, take her and share an entree, bro. Or cook for her instead.
Also, next time don’t offer to take her out to a place of her choosing if you are going to whine about what she picks.
So, $30/plate means $60 combined. Then there are drinks (let's say $4 each), tax, and a 20% tip, so it's more like $85 for the evening. Sorry. Didn't think I anyone would need that worked out for them.
Tell her you want to take her Between The Buns - very organic experience, including a2m and full recycling.
A plate would be no more than $30.
Welcome to the real world, bud. Women are EXPENSIVE.
*faux pas
Poor Form wrote:
Is it outback? wrote:
1/10 for making me respond.
$30? Come on, man. Did she pick Outback, Red Lobster, and TGI Fridays?
If $30 is a lot for you, take her and share an entree, bro. Or cook for her instead.
Also, next time don’t offer to take her out to a place of her choosing if you are going to whine about what she picks.
So, $30/plate means $60 combined. Then there are drinks (let's say $4 each), tax, and a 20% tip, so it's more like $85 for the evening. Sorry. Didn't think I anyone would need that worked out for them.
You sound like a cheapskate.
Spending 100 on a dinner out isn’t anything extravagant
Only fat chicks want to eat out all the time.
The real fit, health conscious ones like a cooked meal at home.
Cook her something vegetarian.
Don’t allow fatness. It’s not cool.
Women eat way too much anyways.
No excuse for that unless you’re in HS.
Let me recap ... You asked her if she had a preference, and she gave you 3 places that she likes. She communicated with you openly and honestly, and you immediately twisted that into some kind of "warning sign" and made it about money. I'll give you a hint. If you're not going to consider the other person's input, don't ask in the first place.
Also, someone who is "very financially comfortable" is not going to be think too hard about spending $30 on anything, much less a night out with someone they are attracted to.