As a woman, I’m puzzled by feminists who claim they want equal treatment, but then turn around and expect men to pay for dinner, to open the door for them, to walk away from a fight, to make decisions for them, and to be rough with them in bed. At face value, they present their desired archetype of an emasculated male, but at night they dream of being swept off their feet by a strong and confident alternative. I guess I’m just confused by their loose definition of equality, and by their inconsistencies. I, for one, enjoy the differences between men and women, and I think that many of the modern ideas have made men more indecisive, fearful and unconfident, traits that we’ve valued in our families for millennia. Ultimately most confident and capable women want a man who’s more capable and confident, while those who don’t are probably keen to manipulate them for the benefit of their own insecurities. Also, I recently came across a woman who inadvertently lambasted her husband, Governor Newsom, on social media, claiming that her husband’s shortcomings as a father and husband represent a social problem. I want to reassure all the women out there that there are dedicated husbands out there, and your slouch of a partner doesn’t represent society. He more than likely represents your laziness in sticking up for yourself and your failure to appropriately negotiate the terms of your relationship. Stop blaming society for your problems. Those only form excuses for tolerating circumstances that you have the power to change.