XC Coach Comment- Inappropriate?

Yes. You are overreacting. Bigly.

The truth hurts.

Americans are soft. They don't take running seriously enough.

Yes - you are over reacting. “Less fit” means “less fit” and isn’t about thighs or weight. Is it possible your daughter speaks to you that way because of how you act?

The coach saying those less fit, isn't the same as if he said those who are overweight. He is not fat shaming the slower runners. You can easily be very skinny and not fit. You are reading way too much into it. Chill out.

If trolling: 6/10.

If not, you do realize that 'fit' in real runner terms has nothing to do with weight and everything to do with physical condition and what sort of shape or form the athlete is in at that very time. You should stop being so offended and sensitive and let coach do his job- making your daughter better at running.

XCMomma wrote:I have read in numerous articles on the proper fuel and nutrition for cross country girls racing in high school. I have tried, desperately, to impart to my daughter. However, she comments that she will eat what the coach says she can.

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I thinkoh, that my daughter Twisted her ankle in the first K of the race but still finished, hobbling all the way. I have shared with my daughter multiple articles from women's Runner's World and she still refuses because it isn't anything the coach has instilled in them. I'm just a mom oh, so what do I know?

Your daughter is involved in a cult. The coach is the cult leader. You are not a part of the team so therefore you are an outsider. Your daughter will do whatever she needs to please said cult leader (i.e. coach) including running on a painful ankle to receive his praise.

You need to stage an intervention with your daughter and persuade her to leave. Now.

Honestly, it sounds like the person with the unhealthy relationship with food is the OP.

I would love to see the article he handed out about how to be a good cross country parent. There's got to be a lot of great fodder in that to keep this troll thread alive.

Wow, I never expected to be bashed and insulted. My daughter trains extremely hard, throughout the summer and the winter. I just expressed to you that instead of leaving the race, with her ankle in such bad shape, she continued on so that she could finish. She loves running. I have only ever tried to impart to her what's important to put into her body for fuel. I am not anything like the other moms on the team who are constantly comparing their daughters to others. I am so sorry that asking for your opinion led to such negativity.

And, rice krispie treats? The top state contenders, on both the boys and girls team, refused them because they know they're garbage for their bodies, in the recovery stage after a race.

You are obviously not a distance runner.

Speaks what way to me? How I act? By sharing multiple articles with her about the best foods to put in her body, for fueling her runs and extreme workouts?

That is the most that I ever do and I don't see that as traumatic or overzealous. There are parents on the team that scream at their athletes because they were two seconds over their previous time. I would never do such a thing.

The truth hurts? I'm not sure what you mean by that but I am thankful for your honest response. Obviously, I was doubting myself and looking for informed, intelligent opinions.

XCMomma wrote:

Wow, I never expected to be bashed and insulted. My daughter trains extremely hard, throughout the summer and the winter. I just expressed to you that instead of leaving the race, with her ankle in such bad shape, she continued on so that she could finish. She loves running. I have only ever tried to impart to her what's important to put into her body for fuel. I am not anything like the other moms on the team who are constantly comparing their daughters to others. I am so sorry that asking for your opinion led to such negativity.

And, rice krispie treats? The top state contenders, on both the boys and girls team, refused them because they know they're garbage for their bodies, in the recovery stage after a race.

You are obviously not a distance runner.

This must be your first time posting on letsrun.....

Rice Krispie treats never undid anyones training, so lets not hate on the post race treats now.

XCMomma wrote:

Wow, I never expected to be bashed and insulted. My daughter trains extremely hard, throughout the summer and the winter. I just expressed to you that instead of leaving the race, with her ankle in such bad shape, she continued on so that she could finish. She loves running. I have only ever tried to impart to her what's important to put into her body for fuel. I am not anything like the other moms on the team who are constantly comparing their daughters to others. I am so sorry that asking for your opinion led to such negativity.

And, rice krispie treats? The top state contenders, on both the boys and girls team, refused them because they know they're garbage for their bodies, in the recovery stage after a race.

You are obviously not a distance runner.

I'm sure you're nothing like the other moms on the team in that you have whiskers on your face and live in yo mama's basement.

You obviously don't comprehend what you read. My daughter runs summer, fall, the entire winter, and spring. She ran Varsity for the middle school when she was just a sixth grader in elementary.

I didn't have any questions regarding my daughter's performance. She is one tough cookie. I was just asking about the coach's comment, because obviously, I was doubting myself. If you are not a distance runner, or a coach of distance runners, you should not share your uneducated thoughts and words.

XCMomma wrote:

The truth hurts? I'm not sure what you mean by that but I am thankful for your honest response. Obviously, I was doubting myself and looking for informed, intelligent opinions.

Were you really looking for “informed intelligent opinions” or looking for people to agree with you - interestingly enough (and in varying respectful and disrespectful ways) 100% of replies have disagreed with you. So perhaps the best informed and intelligent thing to do would be to think about what’s happened and to re frame how you could have reacted. It’s always dangerous to ask a question that you might not like the answer to ....

Don't be THAT parent. You are the one encouraging the eating disorders. I am sure the girls are working hard so they can eat everything in moderation. Don't under mind the coach, that's sure not helping the situation either. So he didn't make the best comment, it wasn't something horrible. Stay out of it.

XCMomma wrote:

You obviously don't comprehend what you read. My daughter runs summer, fall, the entire winter, and spring. She ran Varsity for the middle school when she was just a sixth grader in elementary.

I didn't have any questions regarding my daughter's performance. She is one tough cookie.

In spite of you

Snow plow parent? My lazy a** kid? She works her tail off, 12 months out of the year. I was mostly concerned with the other team members, who already have body image issues, because they compare themselves to the top runners, who look anorexic.

I don't know what a snowplow parent is but I can tell you that I am one of the only parents who does not yell at their child, before or after a race. Never. I've witnessed some terrible things being said to (and yelled at) athletes by their parents. I always tell her to just go out and do her personal best.

I have considered suicide as of late. I suppose I have been more sensitive. Your insults will stay with me. I never expected to be genuinely hurt by the responses of heartless people like you.

The coach apparently didn't say a word about weight. You, however, did. Do the kids believe in his program and improve under his tutelage? If so, let the man do his job. Keep your magazine articles to yourself unless your daughter specifically asks for your input. You obviously came on here looking for validation and are upset that you didn't get it.