My girlfriend's mental health is completely out of control and I don't know what to do.

I know what you can do... You can go literally anywhere else besides a running forum for help. Come on man post this somewhere else

Do you want the rest of your life to be like this?

I am really sorry to hear that you are in this situation. I give you a lot of credit for caring about her as much as you do and for being empathetic to her situation. With all that is going on with you, I worry about your own health and well being as you try to work through this. It sounds like you are conflicted about what to do? Can you take a step back from her and all that she is dealing with, to regroup and figure out your next step? Perhaps even seek out some professional help? Long term, I worry that you would probably always have to deal with the greater issues she has been dealing with, whatever degree of magnitude that may be. Short term, it sounds like she just needs to find stability. More than anything, I would say take care of yourself! I hope that helps and hang in there!

Thank you so much. I do need to do me. I do find myself attracted to other men now and then. Maybe it is time for me to do me. Her issues are overwhelming. Sometimes when she and I are intimate I close my eyes and think of Jamin. I love her though. I am at my wit's end. I wonder if I am drawn to screwed up women. Like they need me and I want to be needed.

Get the hell out.

Distraught wrote:

Thank you so much. I do need to do me. I do find myself attracted to other men now and then. Maybe it is time for me to do me. Her issues are overwhelming. Sometimes when she and I are intimate I close my eyes and think of Jamin. I love her though. I am at my wit's end. I wonder if I am drawn to screwed up women. Like they need me and I want to be needed.

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BigJinDaHouse wrote:

I know what you can do... You can go literally anywhere else besides a running forum for help. Come on man post this somewhere else

Come on. This forum covers a great many topics aside from running. There are people here with a wide range of experiences and opinions. The OP needs advice, be helpful. Or say nothing.

Get her the help she needs before something happens to her (or you). If you love her and want to be with her- you will figure out a away to financially afford it.

If you really have dealt with it personally, as you say you have- you already know the right step(s) to take. Getting validation one way or another from anon. message board posters is not going to cut it.

Try different medications. Even in the same class, they can have different effects on you- I tried about a dozen crazy pills before I found which ones worked (Lithium and Wellbutrin with Valium on the side).

Leave her immediately. Want to spend the rest of your life with a psycho thot? Women like this end up cheating too, of course.

If you are as familiar with mental health as you say you are then you know that, professional help or not, this doesn't go away. Being a pleasant person, to flipping her sht, to crying into your shoulder, is the classic endless cycle of a mentally unstable person. Get out of it now, it will only get harder over time.

Find a local community mental health center. They should have help available on a sliding scale.

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No, let me makes this simple for you both: Hys·ter·ec·to·my

She should never procreate.

get out.

this is the 'good part' of the relationship.

How is she performing at work? This is important. Methinks she hides her behaviors at work, because she hasn't been fired.

Sorry to hear about your situation, man. Well, if she's agreed to get help and she's serious about it, my opinion is your best bet would be to seek out a mental healthcare and get her into counseling.

If she's on an SSRI already, you guys presumably have been talking to a psychiatrist, then, right? Isn't it normal for there to be regular, semi-regular follow ups every couple months to check on status, see if medication is working?Look into and talk to healthcare financial assistance professional for advice on funding treatment, if you haven't already.

If she refuses to get help, I would send up a flare and call for an extraction from the relationship. Don't tolerate verbal or physical abuse from her if it comes to that and don't resign yourself to life with an energy vampire if she's depressed/miserable all the time. It's your time, energy, happiness, and money - i.e. your life - too, man.

Mikeh33 wrote:

BigJinDaHouse wrote:

I know what you can do... You can go literally anywhere else besides a running forum for help. Come on man post this somewhere else

Come on. This forum covers a great many topics aside from running. There are people here with a wide range of experiences and opinions. The OP needs advice, be helpful. Or say nothing.

He's already decided he wants to leave her, that's why he posted it on here.

You would only post a 'relationship advice' thread on letsrun if deep down you want hear unpleasant characters say nasty things about the woman in question and suggest you leave her straight away, otherwise you'd look for advice somewhere a little less predictable.

Is your name Jack? If so, hit the road.

Distraught wrote:

I know a lot about mental health due to having had serious depression in the past and having a family member with severe bipolar I, but I am still feeling way out of my depth. Just keeping my girlfriend from imploding, losing her job, whatever, has felt like a full-time job lately. I can't go on like this, nor can she.

You know more than >99% of the posters on letsrun. We probably won't be able to give you better advice than you'd get at a professional.

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Do you want the rest of your life to be like this?

Ya, OP, these kind of mental health issues tend to last forever. It may get to the point where your gf may not be able to hold down a job. I've heard stories where with treatment and therapy, people have been able to manage their problems and function in society and others where they can not. You've got to consider a) are her conditions manageable to the point where you both can have fairly normal lives b) if not - do you walk away? or live with it?