Yoga, my wife, a dilemma, help me!

It is very important that you confess the previous relationship with your wife regardless if you intend to go do the silly yoga nonsense or not. It is also important that you show your wife the naked pictures of you ex and the crazy @ss sex videos you two were so into. It is equally important that you tell your wife that you have been frequenting the local prostitutes on a fairly regular basis. You should also disclose, as others have suggested, that you like to sample the homosexual side of the tracks. Hopefully she is okay with your heroin habit. You can do this and be a better man for it (possible a divorced man but better just the same).

not that there's anything wrong with that wrote:

Just go see him, sure it will be awkward when your wife first finds out you used to date the dude, but whatever it was almost 20 years ago. It will probably be good for you

Where is that post of the day button?

She doesn't know you had a man love phase?

It always gets you in the end

not that there's anything wrong with that wrote:

Just go see him, sure it will be awkward when your wife first finds out you used to date the dude, but whatever it was almost 20 years ago. It will probably be good for you

best possible response to the OP!

POTD

I think you should confess to your wife.

What happens if your wife becomes friends with the instructor and she says, "How's Rick? You must know that he and I briefly dated 16 years ago."

Now I'm assuming you weren't married 16 years ago.

Like many others on the thread, I'm baffled by the dilemma. Do you and your wife maintain some sort of elaborate make-believe that neither of you ever talked to members of the opposite sex until you met each other?! I don't understand how this becomes an issue unless (a) there's some sordid aspect to your interactions with the yoga teacher that you're rightly ashamed of or embarrassed about, or (b) you start treating it like some big secret and pretend you don't know this woman, then it later comes out that you do.

16 years ago? And you didn't even have intercourse?

Just tell your wife. Eventually she will find out (you sound like the time who won't be able to stay with a decision not to tell her, anyway) and then it will just be weird that you "neglected" to mention it.

or just quit complaining about your hammy

(hint: squats>yoga)

You’re going to have to level with us, did you knock this skirt up? I’m having a hard time believing this is just a stalker case.

Anyways just tell your gf that yoga pants is a friend of your exgf.

This seems like a perfect opportunity to get a threesome going.

I take it the mild, romantic involvement was before you met your wife.

If so, then tell your wife and decide together.

If not, I have not advice for you.

I don't understand what the big deal is. Were you single at the time? If so, then what is the problem?

What kind of crazy is your wife. As a man married over 15 years, a couple of them good, this is key. My wife is the kind more crazy about me listening to her ideas than my past. If your wife is a different kind of crazy proceed accordingly.

-Para

I have not counted the number, but a lot of people are obsessed with threesomes...

Rick Sanchez wrote:

So, the way I see it, I have 4 options:

1) don't go, don't disclose any past history

2) go, but don't disclose any past history

3) don't go but disclose the past history

4) go but disclose the past history

(4) is obviously the easiest way out except for people who really don't want to do yoga. I'm a tight distance runner dude so I understand: I'd do pretty much anything to avoid an hour-long yoga class. Being sensible the OP feels he should tell his wife that he dated the yoga instructor but he's worried that if he tells her then doesn't go to the yoga class, he will never convince her that it was because he hates stretching and not because of a fling that happened 16 years ago. I'd go with (1).

Rick Sanchez wrote:

not that there's anything wrong with that wrote:

Just go see him, sure it will be awkward when your wife first finds out you used to date the dude, but whatever it was almost 20 years ago. It will probably be good for you

I'm sure this will come as a shock. The yoga instructor is Female.

I know, geeze!

Please clarify the shock, cause it's not clear to me:

Either -

A - the instructor has always been female and you are just being sarcastic to a troll

B - the instructor always female but your wife is just your term for a male partner in male male marriage so it will shock him

C- the instructor used to be a male and is now a female so that will shock your wife

D - you, your wife, and the instructor are all female

I assume it is A but it is not clear.

Truth is the best.

1. Go to a class to try it out on your own without your wife

2 see if the instructor even remembers you, if so either rekindle the romance or tell her the truth so she'll be cool with it

3 either start attending with your wife or not if it is not to your liking

4 play it right and be open and truthful and you are likely to end up with a threesome

Play it wrong and the instructor will do your wife for revenge then frame you for rape and assault in the class

This may seem simple but this is THE pivotal moment in your life. Good luck

Luv2Run wrote:

I have not counted the number, but a lot of people are obsessed with threesomes...

At least 3

Easy solution wrote:

Truth is the best.

1. Go to a class to try it out on your own without your wife

2 see if the instructor even remembers you, if so either rekindle the romance or tell her the truth so she'll be cool with it

3 either start attending with your wife or not if it is not to your liking

4 play it right and be open and truthful and you are likely to end up with a threesome

Play it wrong and the instructor will do your wife for revenge then frame you for rape and assault in the class

This may seem simple but this is THE pivotal moment in your life. Good luck

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