So, as your typical LRC male, I have some worries about my date tonight. Background info, it a first date is with a female.
I am just wondering, what is the current norm for ending the date? When I drop her off, should I be a gentleman and walk her in? Or should I be a gentleman and stay in the car, so that she doesn’t feel pressured to kiss me, ect.
What you y’all think?
Decide: Do you want to kiss?
If you answered yes, get to the doorstep.
If you answered no, just cancel the date and instead get in a double. 30 minutes at 8:00min pace will be of more benefit.
Walk her to the door.
Do not assume a good night kiss
By then you should have a feel for how the evening has gone
Oh wait, if you are asking this question you might not have that skill
Be a gentleman and keep your filthy puckers to yourself.
Do you want to risk her husband seeing you with her? If not, then drop her off a block away from the house. If you want a threesome, ask her if she thinks he's cool with it first.
OK, serious advice, step by step:
Park the car. As you’re putting it in park, say, “Let me grab your door,” and get out of the car before she gets a chance to say it’s not necessary (I wouldn’t, but some women will). This eliminates the chance for the awkward “So...” moment if you’re both shy.
If she’s gotten out of your car before you get to her side, say, “Let me walk you up,” and start walking. The only reasons for her to say no would be (1) the date had gone very badly and/or you were grabby (don’t be), or (2) she’s confusing gentlemanly behavior for that ridiculous “male microaggression” notion that comes from a crappy education.
If (1) or (2) are true, you can get back in your car knowing you didn’t miss out on anything.
When you get to her door, you tell her you had a very nice time, whether it’s tru or not. If it is true, tell her why (enjoyed the conversation, her sense of humor, her running stats, etc.)
Step back, open your arms for a hug, and give her a big smile. A hug is non threatening. So is a kiss on the cheek. So is asking whether you can see her again.
Trying to kiss her is OK if her body language says she’d like you to (trying to kiss her is OK, period, because most women will find a polite way to let you down if you’d misread the signals, but I’m assuming you’re shy).
If you are completely at sea as to whether she likes you or not, stick with the hug and the kiss on the cheek. If you like her and she likes you, you’ll see her again, and by then you’ll read her better.
If you get an asshat treatment despite being a gentleman, remember - that’s not on you. We women can get nervous, too, even if we’re assertive - especially if we like you. But it’s never OK to be an ass to a guy unless he seriously, in-your-face earns it. And if a guy earns it, a real woman Ubers it home immediately and that’s that.
You sound like a nice guy. You’ll be OK.
Máquina elite wrote:
So, as your typical LRC male, I have some worries about my date tonight. Background info, it a first date as a female.
I am just wondering, what is the current norm for ending the date? When I drop her off, should I be a gentleman and walk her in? Or should I be a gentleman and stay in the car, so that she doesn’t feel pressured to kiss me, ect.
What you y’all think?
I think it all comes down to faking orgasms. As a former male, I'm sure you heard the saying "good guys finish last"? Try to make this guy comfortable when you're sleeping with him, even if you need to fake it.
As it's your first date with a female do the same as on your other dates with males
Walking her to the door is the right course of action. Don't pressure her for anything following the walk, but let her know that you had a great time and would really like to see her again. One important thing that must not be forgotten is to make sure that you take off your pants and underwear before you walk her to the door. Women like to have a man naked from the waist down escort them to the door. If you are fairly well endowed you will, most likely, get an invitation to 'come on in'. If you are 'lacking' down there, you will just get a polite 'goodnight'. Good Luck, Tiger!!
Give her the old Mario Test.
Shoot, I’m somewhere between a tootsie roll and a tic tac
Máquina elite wrote:
So, as your typical LRC male, I have some worries about my date tonight. Background info, it a first date is with a female.
I am just wondering, what is the current norm for ending the date? When I drop her off, should I be a gentleman and walk her in? Or should I be a gentleman and stay in the car, so that she doesn’t feel pressured to kiss me, ect.
What you y’all think?
A kiss on the cheek is half-way. Maybe now-a-days that's what you are required to do.
OP, depends if you’re a sloppy kisser or not...
Well, the results are in: walked to the doorstep, mild hug, and that’s it. Mission (mostly) accomplished.