Anyone else curious which one of these posters is the BroJos Parents?
Anyone else curious which one of these posters is the BroJos Parents?
What you need to ask yourself is, are they happy? I'm a parent of 4 , and what I've learned is that +/-, they are going to be who they are.
So you propping them up, gifting, say. Will that make them happier? Will buying them a house be a way to jump start them?
If no for any of those questions, then you're making yourself feel better, and not helping them.
Ghost of lgloi wrote:
My 35 year old son still lives at home. My wife cooks his dinner and washes his laundry. I pay fir his cable tv and WiFi.
Is he retarded?
Let them figure it out.
Btw, if you give them something like $1000/month like people are suggesting, you're going to be sabotaging their marriage. Not sure, whether you have a son or a daughter that is married that you're helping out, you will be undercutting the self-esteem of the husband to support his family and undercut the respect his wife should have for him.
I'm going to work in public utilities so that I can make a good salary. I'm in the interviewing process now and I'm pretty confident that I'll get the job. I'll be doing a dirty job, with probably not a lot of respect, but I'll be making a good salary in a couple of years. I found out about it by chance. I'll make more than a physical therapist, for example, with less schooling. More than what my parents were making at the top of their careers with their office jobs. My parents paid for me to go to university, but in the end I wish that I would have gone into the Air Force out of high school. What I majored in wasn't useful. I went from university straight into the recession. I taught English abroad for not that much money.
A lot of people just give up and accept their fate after high school or university. I work at the warehouse of a major retailer and I see this with the people here. I've been taking classes and moving around to get experience for the past two and a half years. I could have just stayed abroad and lived an easy, but probably poor and single person life.
Or I could have stayed at this warehouse. I saw how long it would take to work my way up to a decent income with this company. For me, it was too long and there was little job security. But I'm lucky that found out about this career and I think that it will be ok. I've told so many people about this career and the money, but nobody that I've told has been interested enough to try.
el salvador wrote:
We made 300k+ per year for most years of their lives, so they wanted for nothing.
No offence, but the last part of this statement is probably a big part of your perceived problem. It's not healthy to have everything and "want for nothing". Now you intend to supplement their income so they can continue to not learn how to live?
And by the way, 300k is filthy rich, bro. 50k for a young career is normal. Just because someone drives a used car or doesn't eat out every day doesn't mean they have a miserable life. I for one have chosen not to pursue a 300k job so that I can enjoy my wife and kids daily instead of being a slave to my boss.
Money isn't everything. Just a thought.
Denzel wrote:
Ghost of lgloi wrote:
My 35 year old son still lives at home. My wife cooks his dinner and washes his laundry. I pay fir his cable tv and WiFi.
Is he retarded?
His parents certainly are.
One way or another they will inherit your wealth. Help them now rather than later.