Anyone marry someone who is far less "successful" than you? Why?

Degree and major does not signify intelligence, just work ethic. What’s her IQ and SAT score? As far as eugenics go, your work ethic and intelligence alone should be enough to make up for low work ethic on maternal side assuming the raw intellect component is there.

Better person.

To think is easy, to act is difficult, to act as one thinks is most difficult of all. You know the answer. Now act!!!!

Hard place to be.

I dont know how i’d choose if it ever came to that, God forbid I’d need to find another.

Currently I have my equal, big mind, big published researcher.

Clever

And humorous

And witty

But she has small ‘problems ‘, not trained well as young person

A little selfish

Maybe were it doesn’t matter much

Like not opening front door

Not taking initiative to help

But a problem solver she is

Fearless

Bold

But a dumb girl would be nice if she had muscles enough to weekly do my laundry

And change and iron bed sheets

And take joy in cooking

And take joy in sitting home contentedly taking care of kids

But the dumb one would need to be humble to learn

Not be crass

Not be obnoxious

Not embarrass me

Be obedient

Follow my lead

My brainiac follows my lead and all but her conversion took literally an act of God, no joke

Brainiac quit her once in a life time job for me and the kids.

M*GA

This comment reads like a stream-of-consciousness narration. Complete gibberish. Incoherent and evident of room-temperature IQ. Well done, friend.

6/10.

Marriage is not about "success" or finding someone that challenges you. That is what coworkers and friends are for. Marriage is about finding someone who you love and loves you. Marriage is that simple.

Lovers wrote:

Marriage is not about "success" or finding someone that challenges you. That is what coworkers and friends are for. Marriage is about finding someone who you love and loves you. Marriage is that simple.

Marriage is about finding someone who will produce successful children, though. Sorry to burst your bubble.

This might seem foreign to you, but it’s actually perfectly natural and common. For example, if you were 5’6”, would you really want to marry a girl under 5’00 instead of a 5’2”-5’5” girl with equal qualifications? No. You wouldn’t. That’s because you’re wired to seek out a girl who will help your seed progress to the mean.

I think it depends on your future aspirations of being a cuckold. As a behavioural psychologist, your hidden tendencies to be subjucated and embarrassed by a powerful female is very evident to me by the way you write.

Hence, I'd suggest sticking with the more intelligent woman, as such specimen are much more likely to mold you into the obidient cuckold you strife to be. It would also be advisable to ask your friends in academia for advice, since academia is what good old Sigmund Froid called "The Fortress of Cuckoldry" ("Your anal self revealed", p. 43-69).

Marriage is about finding someone who will produce successful children, though

W H A T !!???

This thread is useless without pics.

Power Player wrote:

Older guys have any advice?

My advice is that anyone who has weighed up how less or more successful their partner is than them, has gotten married for the wrong reasons. I'm probably objectively more successful than my partner, but the thought has never crossed my mind.

If you connect emotionally and intellectually, that's all that matters.

Trump_wins wrote:

Brainiac quit her once in a life time job for me and the kids.

Ouch. You'll be really lucky if that doesn't come back to bite you.

Lovers wrote:

Marriage is not about "success" or finding someone that challenges you. That is what coworkers and friends are for.

This.

What if they're driven in other ways? What if your goal is to become a MD and theirs is to be the best Starbucks barista in the world? What if they constantly refine their craft and keep making amazing coffee and get recognized for it (not just by customers, but by Starbucks corporate?).

Expert on Genetics wrote:

Lovers wrote:

Marriage is not about "success" or finding someone that challenges you. That is what coworkers and friends are for. Marriage is about finding someone who you love and loves you. Marriage is that simple.

Marriage is about finding someone who will produce successful children, though. Sorry to burst your bubble.

This might seem foreign to you, but it’s actually perfectly natural and common. For example, if you were 5’6”, would you really want to marry a girl under 5’00 instead of a 5’2”-5’5” girl with equal qualifications? No. You wouldn’t. That’s because you’re wired to seek out a girl who will help your seed progress to the mean.

This is idiotic. I am 5'11", my wife is 5'0". I can honestly say I've never thought about it at the level of detail that you just did. Our kids are amazing.

Yup.

Because I love him. He’s a great guy, solid in his field, very kind and attentive. I’m blessed to be with him.

He makes about $130,000 a year less than I do but he still does pretty well.

Alright, Sheldon, you sound like a troll. But I'm bored and don't care.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that smart=technical.

I don't like being with women who match up too closely with my own strengths and weaknesses. I find myself annoying, why would I want to marry someone exactly like me? I want someone who will provide balance. I'm very analytical and logical, but I have a lower social IQ, for lack of a better term. Lower empathy, for example.

I consider the woman I married my equal, though her intelligence is in social/written/oral aspects rather than analytical/technical. She is phenomenal with organization, which is one of my biggest weaknesses. It would be a mistake to think that because I studied science and she studied journalism that I am somehow superior.

this happens all the time.

for tiger woods married his nanny.

cam newton married a stripper.

First, don't get married. There is very little positive in marriage for a guy, and lots of downside.

Second, if you absolutely think you must get married - and really - that should be because you want children - fast forward ten years. Marriage has ups and downs, and you can easily end up paying a lot of money to a vindictive ex-spouse who limits access to the children or otherwise extorts you for that access (the most common way guys get schooled in divorce). I would absolutely choose the person who is less likely to do that to you, although negative events occur with even the best of people.

Third, you are evaluating the merits of one over the other. I would think differently. Who can handle conflict and yet still not be insecure? Most people in marriage handle conflict horribly, or don't address it all. This is the reason affairs are so prevalent. It is much easier for either party just to act out rather than deal with a problem directly. Act out, get a little excitement in the process, and events start to take care of themselves, never mind that this leaves a mess for children and that if you don't leave the relationship through the front door in a direct way first you are ill prepared for the next one.

This is all from experience. The foremost goal is to be happy on your own, and only get committed if the relationship absolutely makes you happier.

It depends, of course, on how you measure success. I'd consider myself lucky to have a partner whose conversations displayed decency and depth. On the other side, I don't consider hedge fund managers and certain other Wall Street types to be any kind of success, no matter how many millions they make.