Well?
Well?
honestly, all depends. I could see any age guy dating a 21 year old if the girl is 'mature' enough.
Under 28 = Green
28-31 = Yellow
Over 31 = Red
(21-7)*2 = 28
ayo wrote:
honestly, all depends. I could see any age guy dating a 21 year old if the girl is 'mature' enough.
Yeah, usually women in today's society hit "maturity" in this sense (knowing what they want from life, etc.) at about 25, though with prolonged adoloscence and unending reality-delaying (education, internships), in many milieus 30 is almost becoming the norm. And LA/NYC angst has perpetual ungrownups even into their 40s. But I digress..
Probably 50 is a realistic upper number with a (mature) 21yo if you have any hope of an actual relationship/marriage and (especially) children, as it becomes a real burden for kids to have a father whose living is age-limited in various ways. (again, 50 is a general guide, and a 30+yo woman who wants children NOW might be diff).
Bottom line: Typical 21yo today: I'd say 30 or so (x/2 + 7 is the formula?), while for a typical 25yo, a guy in his (lower) 40s isn't that anomalous if there's a connection, and a typical 30yo, well, whatever floats it (with my above comment in mind). But of course, not everyone is "typical"...
easy arithmetic wrote:
(21-7)*2 = 28
^science
28 max
It's like 28 on Tinder wrote:
ayo wrote:
honestly, all depends. I could see any age guy dating a 21 year old if the girl is 'mature' enough.
Probably 50 is a realistic upper number with a (mature) 21yo if you have any hope of an actual relationship/marriage
I dated a 21 year old when I was in my 40s. Relationship, yes. Marriage, no. In this type of situation, as long as you both know you are having fun and this is what you both want right now, and are not trying to fool each other with silly talk of long-term/marriage stuff, it's okay. Somehow the idea of marrying someone half your age seems very selfish for the guy (in my instance I would be 70 before she hit 50; don't think she would want to be stuck with that, and might not even fully think of what that would entail).
easy arithmetic wrote:
(21-7)*2 = 28
This. So simple, yet so reliable. A truly remarkable contribution to the world of science.
thinking clearly wrote:
It's like 28 on Tinder wrote:
Probably 50 is a realistic upper number with a (mature) 21yo if you have any hope of an actual relationship/marriage
I dated a 21 year old when I was in my 40s. Relationship, yes. Marriage, no. In this type of situation, as long as you both know you are having fun and this is what you both want right now, and are not trying to fool each other with silly talk of long-term/marriage stuff, it's okay. Somehow the idea of marrying someone half your age seems very selfish for the guy (in my instance I would be 70 before she hit 50; don't think she would want to be stuck with that, and might not even fully think of what that would entail).
Totally agree with this. If everybody involved understands there is no future, the upper age limit really doesnt exist. If she is willing, knock yourself out. If you want a "real" relationship, my opinion is that upper 30s is the limit for a 21 year old woman or man.
thinking clearly wrote:
I dated a 21 year old when I was in my 40s. Relationship, yes. Marriage, no. In this type of situation, as long as you both know you are having fun and this is what you both want right now, and are not trying to fool each other with silly talk of long-term/marriage stuff, it's okay. Somehow the idea of marrying someone half your age seems very selfish for the guy (in my instance I would be 70 before she hit 50; don't think she would want to be stuck with that, and might not even fully think of what that would entail).
How do you even meet someone that young when you are in your 40s?
Not a scientist though wrote:
Under 28 = Green
28-31 = Yellow
Over 31 = Red
Pretty sure it becomes ok again at some point. Maybe 60 or 70? Not sure the exact formula
General Howe wrote:
How do you even meet someone that young when you are in your 40s?
Hang out in shopping malls, chat up pretty girls working at stores... ?
It's very easy to meet younger people if you're in a metropolitan area. And it helps if you follow these two rules:
1. Be attractive or have something to offer
2. Don't be unattractive.
For instance, I'm a 38 year old, twice-divorced guy, 3 kids, not a ton of spending cash, but I'm stable, halfway decent looking, have a good career and hobbies, and I'm generally a likable person. With apps like Bumble and Tinder, I have been able to meet a wide variety of women and many couldn't give two craps about my baggage.
thinking clearly is a good example of what you can do when you're upfront with the other person. Who cares what the age difference is if both people are honest about their intentions and upfront with what they want.
As long as I can maintain my health and looks into my 50's, I'll still be dating women in their early 20's and technology will help me do that.
No upper age limit, but if you can't get it up you're an immoral pig. A 21 yo DESERVES great sex.
General Howe wrote:
thinking clearly wrote:
I dated a 21 year old when I was in my 40s. Relationship, yes. Marriage, no. In this type of situation, as long as you both know you are having fun and this is what you both want right now, and are not trying to fool each other with silly talk of long-term/marriage stuff, it's okay. Somehow the idea of marrying someone half your age seems very selfish for the guy (in my instance I would be 70 before she hit 50; don't think she would want to be stuck with that, and might not even fully think of what that would entail).
How do you even meet someone that young when you are in your 40s?
Seriously, what a stupid question. It's like you're trying too hard to find something wrong. Uptight, much?
70!
Almost40anddateyounger wrote:
It's very easy to meet younger people if you're in a metropolitan area. And it helps if you follow these two rules:
1. Be attractive or have something to offer
2. Don't be unattractive.
For instance, I'm a 38 year old, twice-divorced guy, 3 kids, not a ton of spending cash, but I'm stable, halfway decent looking, have a good career and hobbies, and I'm generally a likable person. With apps like Bumble and Tinder, I have been able to meet a wide variety of women and many couldn't give two craps about my baggage.
thinking clearly is a good example of what you can do when you're upfront with the other person. Who cares what the age difference is if both people are honest about their intentions and upfront with what they want.
As long as I can maintain my health and looks into my 50's, I'll still be dating women in their early 20's and technology will help me do that.
Uh, yeah, sounds like an amazing success story you have going on there.
Or maybe a cautionary tale?
Whatever she says.
thinking clearly wrote:
General Howe wrote:
How do you even meet someone that young when you are in your 40s?
Seriously, what a stupid question. It's like you're trying too hard to find something wrong. Uptight, much?
Lol you seem pretty touchy about it. I am also curious to know how those kind of things come about. I feel like any girl that young who's into 40 year olds would be too much of a headcase to even be worth it. Seems like the perfect blend of guy-in-midlife-crisis and girl-with-daddy-issues coming together to sooth their insecurities to me. I can see banging a 21 year old at that age but dating one does seem a tad odd.