Anyone get a divorce and regret it?

D. EZ Nuts wrote:

Lots of pro divorce stuff on the board. But it really makes me wonder... Does anyone here regret getting divorced.

Y'all sounding like a bunch of Phil Collins fans. Face value. Or Graceland Paul Simon. "If leaving me is easy ..."

Ain't nobody got time for regret. Too many instagram pictures to pose for. As good as it gets, Diane Keaton. Jaykay

I might be divorced in a few months. My wife has cheated on me. Despite that, right now I still hope we can work things out and that our best days as a couple are still ahead. I truly believe that, but it won't happen unless she chooses to love me again. I'm still eager to fully love her again despite what she did. We used to have a good marriage. If we do divorce, I think what I'll regret is not so much the divorce but the fact that she chose not to rebuild our marriage. But that's not in my hands right now. I'm doing everything I can do to fight for our marriage, but she is doing nothing recipricol. So if we divorce, in some ways it will be a relief to me. The regret I will feel is that she remained bitter and was unwilling to choose love.

Wish you all the best! You will never regret giving it your all. Deep down she knows she did wrong...give her time.

You can only control yourself. We are not living in the 1890s.

After second kid was born wife went full tilt bipolar manic depressive.

Divorce followed two years later per her request. No regrets. Kids all grown. She finally leaves me alone.

She loves you anyway, she just wants her fun on the side because you aren't doing it for her any more. This is far more usual than you readers imagine. So chillax and get with the program. Send her out for a good cucking and drink your shot, troll LR, wait for her to cVm home happy, now she will do what you want, everything is cool.

The divorce was regrettable.

But in the grand scheme of things, it was preferable to the seven to ten years of orange jumpsuits, cafeteria food and long nights spooning with a 400lb. armed robber named Big Floyd if I'd stayed married to that miserable goblin, and things naturally progressed to their logical conclusion.

I know my mom regrets divorcing my dad.

They were together for over 30 years and had some good arguments near the end.

My mom made a dramatic scene that lead to their separation.

I think she hoped it would change my dad and it would work out.

They stayed separated and officially divorced 5 years later.

It's now been 20 years since the initial separation and it's still hard to get through a conversation with my mom without her crying about the divorce.

My dad has remarried.

My mother was destroyed by this.

And it's been hard on me and my siblings as adults.

It's most often women who initiate a divorce. OTOH men remarry more often than women.

A friend of mine got married young - he was 18, she was 17. Perhaps inevitably, about 10 years later they divorced - she said she no longer loved him and wasn't sure if she ever did. A few years after that he was stopped at a traffic light next to a popular city park and, while watching the women in their summer dresses pass in front of him on the crosswalk, began musing to himself about his divorce and despair about finding another woman to love. "Someone like her" he thought to himself as one particular woman passed his field of view. He then realized it was his ex-wife, who'd remarried by then. A few years later they run into one another and she says she regrets divorcing him. 10 more years go by and he meets a woman 17 years younger than him who he eventually marries and they are happily married to this day, 20 years later.

The divorce isn't necessarily regrettable, but what one does with ones life afterwards can and often is. She regretted her choices while he persevered and eventually found the love of his life.

EugenetheCarefulAxeWielder wrote:

but what one does with ones life afterwards can and often is.

Wise words.

I regret my actions that led to my divorce, but from there it was out of my hands (meaning she initiated the divorce). I regret not being able to find forgiveness from her in time.

I remarried and have 2 kids. My 2nd wife is a better match for me than my 1st was, but that doesn't mean I couldn't have been happy the first time around. I've made good decisions since my divorce and am really happy.

Good post, Star. I don't know if my wife will regret divorce if we do split. Part of me says, yeah, she'll realize she had a good thing with me and failed to recognize it. Another part of me says, she'll find another man and start a whole new life.

For myself, if we do split, I don't think I'll regret the divorce, only that she chose not to rebuild our relationship. I don't think that even if I remarry another woman (as great as she might be), it will ever be the same. After you've been married to someone else for years, your lives are inseparably entangled. You can never move completely on and forget the past as much as you try. Especially when you share kids together.

wife went ape shit wrote:

After second kid was born wife went full tilt bipolar manic depressive.

Divorce followed two years later per her request. No regrets. Kids all grown. She finally leaves me alone.

Add 1 extra kid in there and possibly infidelity on her part and that is my story. Although, I still have many many years until she leaves me alone :(

Divorced wrote:

wife went ape shit wrote:

After second kid was born wife went full tilt bipolar manic depressive.

Divorce followed two years later per her request. No regrets. Kids all grown. She finally leaves me alone.

Add 1 extra kid in there and possibly infidelity on her part and that is my story. Although, I still have many many years until she leaves me alone :(

piracu wrote:

She loves you anyway, she just wants her fun on the side because you aren't doing it for her any more. This is far more usual than you readers imagine. So chillax and get with the program. Send her out for a good cucking and drink your shot, troll LR, wait for her to cVm home happy, now she will do what you want, everything is cool.

You posted on the other thread about divorce. You got some serious daddy issues to get sorted.

John Clendon wrote: You posted on the other thread about divorce. You got some serious daddy issues to get sorted.

dude no s$$t! he's been posting here for more than ten years... welcome to the program! he'll explain more about "daddy issues" than you can imagine.

D. EZ Nuts wrote:

Lots of pro divorce stuff on the board. But it really makes me wonder... Does anyone here regret getting divorced.

There are probably many people who did not want to get divorced but the partner did. If one party wants the divorce there is really nothing the other person can do (short of dragging it out and just wasting money).

Even then you might be married on paper, but she moves out and takes up with someone else. So you are not really married then either are you.

Every now and then a couple will re-marry.

Hi. Many couples get divorced every year and few of them regret it. However, my sister chose to take divorce with the help of a well known lawyer. The lawyer Bechara Tarabay is a known lawyer of France. After the divorce, my sister is very happy and she is living her life independently. She has no regret that she took divorce from her husband.

My aunt and uncle got divorced waited a decade and remarried.