• o978
      • In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:10PM
      • o978
      • Trying to make an online dating profile. I notice that in general, a lot of people will say that they are "very outdoorsy" or "love running/cycling/hiking, etc." but there's a wide range between people who are serious about it and out every day and people who do this once every two weeks. Unfortunately it seems like the latter happens a lot.

        I don't want to come across as someone who takes myself too seriously... but I would prefer to date someone who is similarly passionate about something related to fitness. It doesn't have to be running necessarily.

        In my profile, how do I come across showing that running is very important to me without looking too one dimensional?
    • PRsAreEverything
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:13PM - in reply to o978
      • PRsAreEverything
      • Just list your PRs so they know how serious you are.
    • Describer of Dems
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:13PM - in reply to o978
      • Describer of Dems
      • Enjoy many interests, running among them.
    • o978
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:15PM - in reply to PRsAreEverything
      • o978
      • That seems like I'd be trying too hard.

        Also the "enjoy many interests, running among them" is what so many people have listed. I'd venture that a lot of these people run maybe once every two weeks or even less.

        Maybe I can include something about how running is important to me and I run every day? What's the best way to word that?
    • here's how
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:17PM - in reply to o978
      • here's how
      • They key is to make it sound like it's coming from someone else. So say something like this: "I'm a serious runner. Most people I know say that I have a better chance of making the Olympic Trials than I do of getting laid."
    • boomheadshot
      registered
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:19PM - in reply to o978
      • boomheadshot
        registered
      • Say "avid runner" if you really feel the need to get it across. But don't go into too much depth in the profile. Can talk more about it in the first date if it comes up and if you make it that far. And maybe have one of your pictures be of you from a race where you look particularly fit and without pain-face.
    • multiple choice
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:21PM - in reply to o978
      • multiple choice
      • Hi Jamin!

        Good to see you're actually getting serious about this dating stuff!
    • Jkoo7
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:22PM - in reply to here's how
      • Jkoo7
      • Do you do races? Say something like "I am and avid runner or I enjoy running and have done many half marathons/marathons (or whatever race you do). Or could say "I try to make sure I do something active everyday-usually running. Then it doesn't sound over the top, but shows you are more than just a here and there exerciser.
    • lazy bitch
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:25PM - in reply to multiple choice
      • lazy bitch
      • Jamin is afraid of women and would never have a dating profile.
    • Never Online Dated
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:27PM - in reply to o978
      • Never Online Dated
      • Why in the world do you need to add this to your online dating profile? In all seriousness, I am not being a jerk. Wouldn't this only limit your chances of finding a match?

        Just say you're a runner so you attract a like minded person. Any attempt to make yourself look like a "more serious" runner are just going to drive people away. If you only want to date runners, go join a few running clubs or introduce yourself to some people after races.
    • I'll bite
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:32PM - in reply to o978
      • I'll bite
      • Post a pic of your finish medals and a screenshot of lrc message board
    • o978
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:32PM - in reply to Never Online Dated
      • o978
      • Because being active is one of the values I find important and I would prefer to find someone like that too. They don't have to be a runner necessarily but someone who understands that fitness is important, is okay with it being a part of the lifestyle, and so on.

        I'm younger and for some reason a lot of the local races and running clubs seem to be older people. There were some threads on here recently that talked about that and I can empathize given what I have seen.
    • Never Online Dated
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 2:41PM - in reply to o978
      • Never Online Dated
      • o978 wrote:
        Because being active is one of the values I find important and I would prefer to find someone like that too. They don't have to be a runner necessarily but someone who understands that fitness is important, is okay with it being a part of the lifestyle, and so on.

        I'm younger and for some reason a lot of the local races and running clubs seem to be older people. There were some threads on here recently that talked about that and I can empathize given what I have seen.
        Okay, I can understand that. I am/was the same way, but I am 37 and married with kids so I never had to deal with online dating. Do profiles have a timeline or picture gallery? You could easily be subtle and post information in those without having it in text on your main profile.

        If not, I would just say that you're "a lifelong runner who enjoys racing, being active and staying fit." Sure, other people might say it too but you can't do much about that. If you say anything like, "running is my top priority," you'll just come across as a weirdo. That is for anything, not just running. I would think most people would shy away from someone's profile if it were too extreme in anything (music, religion, beer brewing, day trading). As another poster stated, let that come up in person when they can see that you're a cool, laid back guy that has other interests aside from running.
    • TRAMPLE THE WEAK
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 3:09PM - in reply to o978
      • TRAMPLE THE WEAK
      • Write down your weekly running schedule & daily mileage.
    • Sasha Pachev
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 3:37PM - in reply to o978
      • Sasha Pachev
      • Maybe online is the wrong place to meet girls in your situation. Just go to a big race, run your best time, and talk to girls afterwards. If you are shy or awkward, that can be overcome with practice - just need to have thick skin and not give up easily.

        Do not know about every girl, but from what my wife tells me (we have been married almost 20 years and have 10 children) she was attracted to men that had confidence and were not afraid to move forward. BTW, she was not a runner when we got married, but she became one - now runs even pregnant almost to the day she delivers. So maybe just find a good girl, runner or not, and she will appreciate your talents and support you in pursuing them.
    • A good profile
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 3:52PM - in reply to o978
      • A good profile
      • List your times for 10x400, and be precise with the recoveries that you took.

        This will impress the women with your attentiveness.
    • Too Dang Funny!
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 4:03PM - in reply to here's how
      • Too Dang Funny!
      • here's how wrote:
        They key is to make it sound like it's coming from someone else. So say something like this: "I'm a serious runner. Most people I know say that I have a better chance of making the Olympic Trials than I do of getting laid."
        😃
    • Hark the Harold banjo sing
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 4:33PM - in reply to Too Dang Funny!
      • Hark the Harold banjo sing
      • Too Dang Funny! wrote:
        here's how wrote:
        They key is to make it sound like it's coming from someone else. So say something like this: "I'm a serious runner. Most people I know say that I have a better chance of making the Olympic Trials than I do of getting laid."
        😃
        One of the day's best. Oh, that's damning with faint praise but too damned funny
    • o978
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 5:02PM - in reply to o978
      • o978
      • What about something like "Running is a big part of my life and I'm out on the roads and trails every day. It's not uncommon for me to be running over 70 miles a week during peak training."

        Is that too much?
    • mypredictor
      registered
      • RE: In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk? 11/14/2016 5:10PM - in reply to o978
      • mypredictor
        registered
      • Let's be clear here:

        "Avid runner, enjoys exercise and being outdoors." - This will be seen as a good thing by every woman.

        "Intensely interested in running. 80 miles per week. Marathon PR of 2:42." - This will be a turn off for more women than not.

        Just be casual about it. If a woman expresses interest in running on your date, don't go into it with great detail. Let her talk and your accomplishments will be that much more impressive when she realizes how fast you are.