Horrible youth coaching experience today, belligerent coach, etc.

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I have no idea what kind of league (AAU, YMCA, Parks/Rec, Club) this is but you need to talk to the League Coordinator/Director. The officials and directors should be handling this situation. If that doesn't work find a different league next season.

Go straight to the league, and let them know what's going on. I'd go that immediately. I'd also draft a letter, and have it sent certified to the YMCA office/league/whatever to cover your backside. The behavior is not surprising. Generalizations and stereotypes are typically based on some semblance of fact.

Thanks, guys. I will also additionally be speaking with the league, and in fact I spent 20 minutes on the phone with the league supervisor after the game as did the other coach (I think).

Oh, and this is just city parks/rec league...volunteer coaches.

Good luck. This happens every year in our league. The parents get so riled up and intense that they now have a mandatory video the parents must view before their kids can play and still the refs have to pause the game to warn coaches and parents of inappropriate behavior.

The other coach should be severely warned and fired if he approches you post game like that again. He's adding fuel to the fire of anyone who witnessed his actions.

The best advice I give is not to volunteer as a coach unless you tell yourself this will happen and you will have to deal with it. Be prepared to stay calm when people act like idiots.

Typical wrote:

The best advice I give is not to volunteer as a coach unless you tell yourself this will happen and you will have to deal with it. Be prepared to stay calm when people act like idiots.

Sad but true. One of my parents had a comment like "at least we don't have to play that coach again". I said we might not play that coach again, but we'll all face one just like him some other year, some other sport, etc.

Not sure if race baiting or just honest story...

A coach who walks onto the court and approaches the opposing bench needs to be ejected immediately. No excuse for the official failing to do so. This should be a part of your correspondence with the league. Officials need to be told how to handle the situation.

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If your story is accurate, he should be fired yesterday. Should be plenty of witnesses so..

Also, have someone with a videocam at his subsequent games. Idiots like this don't do these things just once.

No advice, but please post the date/time and place of your next game. I'd like to be a spectator when you get some serious ass whooping.

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Not sure if race baiting or just honest story...

Honest story. Not baiting any particular race. Constructive thoughts from forum participants of all racial/ethnic backgrounds are appreciated.

fadsfdsf wrote:

Not sure if race baiting or just honest story...

That's what I wondered when I read it.

I lost some respect for you when you said the coaches "axes" me if I wanted to go. Feel free to quote his improper grammar but this wasn't a quote it was you trying to denigrate him by the way he talks. There is a huge racial overtone as well when you say World Star Hip Hop. The other coach was a jerk. You win there. You lose when you start to look like a racist.

It sounds like you are trying to teach your kids the right thing on the court. How about also teaching them you shouldn't mock someone else on how they talk? If he politely in proper english said he wanted to kick your ass it would still be wrong.

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I must admit I laughed when auto correct turned my 'to' into 'yo'.

"Axe" isn't improper English. It's just a dated word.

This is common in youth sports today. I see it in nearly every sport. Basketball is probably the worst.

This sounds crazy, man. I would honestly probably turn him in to whoever does the hiring. Sounds like the guy was totally out of line to the point it was not good for the children.

In all fairness, this stuff happens with all kinds of races, but I agree it's even more irritating when the person is poor-spoken and apparently uneducated.

Second graders should not be in sports leagues. They should be playing with friends in the neighborhood, with no adult coaches. No bleachers, no spectators, no uniforms, no fundraisers.

I think the vast expansion of 5 year old soccer, etc in the last 20 years is indicative of the decline and fall of western civilization.

wejo wrote:

I lost some respect for you when you said the coaches "axes" me if I wanted to go

That was simply an auto correct issue...ie. axes = asks.