anyone have problems with girlfriend about running

you should find a woman who runs or something. i urn, and my boyfriend does too. so it makes sense.

Rent the movie "Leaving Las Vegas" with Nicholas Cage and Elisabeth Shue. Fast forward to the scene in which Cage is laying down the groundrules for him to live with her. He has only one condition: "You can never ask me to stop drinking. EVER".

Then turn to her and point out that yours is a much better habit and it won't kill you so isn't she happy about that?

Or maybe you could start drinking.

Drop the chick. If you were straight with her from the beginning then she's being totally selfish. "Why does she have to whine so much? Can't she take a day off from whining? She always has to whine." Find someone who will support you and encourage you to run.

Being involved with or married to a runner is NOT easy simply because runners are a different breed. The saying "My sport is other sports' punishment" is true. Some folks just don't understand what it means to run. When my husband doesn't run, life is miserable.

If you were a cop or a fireman or someone who could be called out at a moment's notice would your girlfriend whine about that?

My girlfriend is a runner and ran in college with me and she still drills me about runnning. She always wants me to take days off or quit running. I do not know why she does not understand that I have set a huge goal for myself, and if it takes 90 minutes out of my day, everday, to achieve it, then it is worth it. Girls just don't understand desire.

MSUalum wrote:

My girlfriend is a runner and ran in college with me and she still drills me about runnning. She always wants me to take days off or quit running. I do not know why she does not understand that I have set a huge goal for myself, and if it takes 90 minutes out of my day, everday, to achieve it, then it is worth it. Girls just don't understand desire.

Maybe she likes fat guys. Put on a couple pounds and see if things improve.

Bang her so hard she falls into a 2 hour coma. Then get your run in during that time. By the time you are back, she won't even know you were gone.

whatever you do, DO NOT give up your running for a woman. You will regret it if you do.

You need to make it crystal clear that an average of 1.5-2hrs per day are yours to train with as you please. If she is unable to allow you that personal time, the relationship will be poisoned, or you will quit running and start hating yourself. Be kind, communicate, but be crystal freakin' clear about it.

Your other option is to get up while she's still in bed and get it done before she knows your gone.

Check out an earlier thread from a henpecked guy on this topic.

i really don't understand why running is such a problem

c o m p r o m i s e is a lovely word -

if she knows how to do this

Ditto to what the others are saying man. She knew this from the beginning, and she obviously wants to try to change you. Running is of great importance to you, and look how she treats it. If you stay with her longer, imagine what else she's gonna try to change (basically everything).

Honest question? Are needy women the only ones you are attracted to? Dump her, and don't date from the same gene pool for now on.

I have had the same issues with my running - it's actually what ended my last relationship when I tried taking my running to the next level. My boyfriend would give me such a hard time about all the time I spent training. He felt second best to my running, but if you date someone who is on the same page, running is a priority for both of you. Best advice...Don't date someone who isn't a runner (and I'm not talking a recreational runner). Date someone who is commited to achieving something great ie. in cycling, triathlons, running.

When I was younger I liked needy women, as Ive gotten older I try and avoid it. I thought I had done well this time. She doesnt seem overly needy or even needy at all most of the time, but the running thing is driving me nuts. I bring it up then she is quiet-but all guys know that pissed off quiet-its the same thing.

Date a woman from another country like a Spanish woman they seem to be more understanding..after 4 years of dating i just married her not once have i heard her say take time off..she gets out and pushes me everyday...

If she's like most women, she spends a good two hours of her waking day doing complete inane, unproductive shit: watching "Sex in the City" or similar garbage (the chief time-waster), looking at her ass in the mirror, poring over J.C. Penney catalogs, contemplating her gash, and so on. Ask her only to arrange her day so that she does all of these things in a single 120-minute time block. That way you can run as much as you want and she'll have no reason at all to complain.

The issue isn't whether to date someone who runs (although I concur that often helps), it is to date someone who is secure and mature enough to understand that the activity of self-realization that we choose (running) is part and parcel of who we are. No one should be that dependent and insecure as to a partner that they frustrate that partner in taking a hour or two a day running. (At the same time, one can't use running as an excuse for not being a helpful and cooperative partner. I know lots of women who would do backflips of joy if their husbands/boyfriends were that interested in exercise. Dating someone who complains about running is probably an indication of someone needy, insecure, and not comfortable with their own skin, so to speak. Unless that person is manifestly committed to self improvment and maturity, I would be very cautious about committing to a serious relationship. Sounds cynical? Maybe. But everyone should be happy with themselves first and only commit to relationships that enhance their lives.

I have friends that are golf bums. They spend 4-6 hours every weekend playing golf with their "buddies" and drop $100 a pop. Some of them also go the the range during the week and spend a couple hours doing that.

I always bring that up saying would you rather I be a runner or into golf?

Another thing you can do that I found helps. I found that my wife likes to "cuddle" in bed in the morning and she hates how my morning run ruins this. On a Sat or Sun morning, wake-up a little earlier and get into a little "fun". When done, go on your run. She will feel a bit more satisfied.

Good Luck