Is there any advantage to being extremely introverted?

You don't have to deal with planning/attending social gatherings with friends.

can't change even if I tried wrote:

I'm 30 and am just now coming to the realization that I can never do sales, teaching, or management because dealing with people makes me miserable. I am no misanthrope or anything I just am extremely not a people person. It's clear to me that outgoing extroverts have it better in general, but Is there any advantage to this shit at all?

Plenty of advantages. People don't know you as well because you keep to yourself, but you'll be respected as someone who...

1. ...listens and learns rather than yacks all the time.

2. ...ACTUALLY works instead of NETworks.

3. ...thinks first, speaks second.

4. ...is honest rather than smooth-talking and obtuse.

The list goes on. I never trust an extrovert. They're always trying to sell you something or deceive you for their own benefit.

YES! I am a 24 yo introverted woman. Read the book Quiet, and you will not feel bad about being an introvert at all. Many of the worlds greatest discoveries were made by people who actually took the time to do it on their own. I love my family and a small group of friends, but still need alone time. The result? I listen well and invest quality time with people when I am with them. When I am by myself I write poetry, or run, or read. I have a rich inner life, and I wouldnt change this. STAY INTROVERTED. the world needs more of them.

Everything these people said. I feel like so many people just run there mouth without even thinking things through...or in Letsrun's case, they mindlessly troll.

Plus, women like guys who listen, so there is that.

can't change even if I tried wrote:

I'm 30 and am just now coming to the realization that I can never do sales, teaching, or management because dealing with people makes me miserable. I am no misanthrope or anything I just am extremely not a people person. It's clear to me that outgoing extroverts have it better in general, but Is there any advantage to this shit at all?

My mom and I are both introverts and she says that many great leaders are introverts. It makes sense if you think about it, you would become skillful at delegating all of the things you aren't comfortable doing.

Introverts, especially at a young age, tend to learn to succeed through hard work, performance, and items of substance/achievement. This compares to extroverts who learn attention-getting behavior is the way to get noticed. This is obviously a generalization but seems to hold true in most cases. Over time either behavior manifests into a major part of the person's personality, how they view themselves, and how they attempt to succeed in life.

How are you with the ladies?

How are you with the ladies?

I have noticed women like men who are outgoing... its literally all they even seem to care about. I hate being introverted and shy I think its hell I wish I was different I feel like outgoing people get everything they want at any second

There's a motivational talk on the TED web site about introverts - google it; it's worth listening too.

Read "Introvert Advantage". Interesting stuff about what an introvert really is. Not exactly the same as being shy.

introvertFTW wrote:

YES! I am a 24 yo introverted woman. Read the book Quiet, and you will not feel bad about being an introvert at all. Many of the worlds greatest discoveries were made by people who actually took the time to do it on their own. I love my family and a small group of friends, but still need alone time. The result? I listen well and invest quality time with people when I am with them. When I am by myself I write poetry, or run, or read. I have a rich inner life, and I wouldnt change this. STAY INTROVERTED. the world needs more of them.

So what do you call everybody who Is starring at their smartphones on public transit?

The people looking at their smart phones while on public transit may likely be extroverts. They are too worried about missing out that they have to be hyperconnected. The introverts, are fine with some time to themselves, their thoughts, or the people around them.

I'm definitely an introvert by nature - but most people I know now wouldn't ever think about describing me that way. I used to stay at home, read books and watch TV while everyone else was out partying, and I still like to do that a lot but I managed to "overcome" it in a lot of ways. I'm never going to be a "sales" guy, but I enjoy interacting with people, and I really learned to enjoy life by putting myself out there.

Basically, I was in my mid-20s and moved overseas, and going outside of my comfort zone made my really want to get the most out of life. I ended up meeting a bunch of very sociable people, and became one of the most outgoing among them. It's a great feeling, and even though being super extroverted is really against my nature it's how I feel most comfortable sometimes.

I look back upon my introverted days with a wistful fondness - but am very grateful I made an attempt to see how the other half lives. You only live once, make it count.

try to improve your communication skills. boost your confidence. talk to pleople on various topics.

Being the only guy in the room who listens, thinks and calculates before taking action is an attribute that will not immediately bring you praise in your job. But after the extroverts go out and cause all kinds of problems doing everything on the fly because they never shut up and think about what they are doing or listen to what people are telling them, you will find that people will quickly begin to value your work in a very meaningful way and see you as indispensable. Most jobs do not require a lot of social interaction. In fact, many jobs are very short on social interaction. Sales is the land of the extroverts, but it is also one of the most miserable professions out there.

Start drinking.

Love being an Introvert!! Don't need to be around a lot of people... love being single - living by myself. Still have friends - but small group and stay to myself mostly. Just makes me happier... Life is easier,,, believe me... i tried to be more extrovert.... not for me... Need time alone... People respect you more.... not loud and obnoxious like a lot are. Think more instead of mouth off... I think we are happier in general because we dont NEED other people around us and the feedback from others like extroverts.. I feel sorry for them to be honest.... Most of them bug me... Ha Enjoy being chill - and happy with yourself... Heck I sure do... I didn't think so when i was younger... but 46 now and really appreciate my introvert personality! It's great Takes very little for me to be happy... If you can't be happy by yourself - what's the point.. Be proud of who you are