When you first started dating your current girlfriend, what did first think about your running?

Current? Girlfriend?

Bwaaaaaaaahhhh

wrong website my man.

why would he bring it up? it doesnt impress anybody

my ex-gf originally didnt mind it and even thought it was a good thing for me to do. but she slowly disapproved more and more. it actually caused a lot of problems later on. wasnt the main reason it ended though

Sounds like he's lucky to have a date.

He should definitely bring it up. Especially a guy like him who is that serious about it. She might accept it at first but the real test will come when both lives start coming together and something has to give.

I would say that this will be a greater trial for him than it will be for her.

Just because you run all the time does not mean you have to talk about it all the time

Don't bore them about your running

Common question: "How much do you run, anyway?"

Good answer: "Oh, pretty much every day."

Most girls will be impressed by the commitment of a motivated guy, and anyone who has a problem with daily runs is NOT going to be a prospect for a runner.

Don't talk about miles - way too nerdy, unless she runs, too.

DON'T mention two-a-days on first date, as believe me the "normal world" sees this as crazy.

Oh, and have the balls to say this is about you and not a "training friend" mmKay?

She won't think he's "totally obsessed" unless it's all he talks about. One of the thing girls love to see in guys is "passion" for something they care about. They assume that such a display of devotion and passion can (via the transitive property) also be bestowed upon her one day.In terms of my current (and any past) GFs, they all have been impressed and supportive of my running. Nobody has ever expressed doubt as to my level of training (80+mpw, as you said) nor my performances. It's pretty easy to google a runner's name and see 59087102389 race results that verify it.I must emphasize that your friend must make the woman the focus of the date and conversation. Girls are 10X more impressed with what you do if it's something they find out about incidentally, as opposed to wearing it on your sleeve. It makes you interesting and mysterious and she will wonder "what other amazing things about him do I just not know yet?" Play your cards close to your chest. If she DOES ask, I would recommend he say "I love to run as it's great exercise and I get to compete from time to time" and downplay it as much as possible.For example: my current GF didn't know I was an All-American until 7 months into the relationship, nor that I was a lifelong sailor (when I took her out one day as a surprise) until 5 months in. Good luck to your friend.Over and out,MS2 Runner

RockyRococo wrote:

One of my training friends is about to go on a date this weekend with this girl and he thinks she won't believe him when he says that runs as much as he does. The guy has broken 15 on the road and takes it seriously...so he is worried that the girl will think he's totally obsessed with training and nothing else...

So what about you?

...did girls think you were crazy for running 80+ mpw and were turned off by it? Were they impressed? were they supportive or jealous? I'd like to know how those first dates went...

MS2 Runner wrote:

One of the thing girls love to see in guys is "passion" for something they care about.

And a fat wallet.

the smartest letsrunner wrote:

Common question: "How much do you run, anyway?"

Good answer: "Oh, pretty much every day."

Most girls will be impressed by the commitment of a motivated guy, and anyone who has a problem with daily runs is NOT going to be a prospect for a runner.

Don't talk about miles - way too nerdy, unless she runs, too.

DON'T mention two-a-days on first date, as believe me the "normal world" sees this as crazy.

Oh, and have the balls to say this is about you and not a "training friend" mmKay?

If he really wants to brag without turning her off with details, even go as far as answering "how much do you run, anyway?" with "Well I run pretty much every day. I'm competitive on the local racing scene and I like to stay in good shape."

Don't bore her with details, but make it clear that it's more than a casual hobby (if it is in fact more than a hobby). Don't mention any wins or prize money unless she specifically asks. Be as vague as possible without being sketchy. This doesn't just apply to running; keep an air of mystery, don't be an open book.

MS2 hit the nail on the head. I am seeing a girl tonight who is a little too intrigued with it. That's ok though, like he said I plan on making her the focus of conversation tonight

It'll come up no matter what. She'll ask about his life and it'll come up.

Unless she's a dedicated fitness/running person she'll be cool with it at first, but it'll slowly become the thing that takes precedence over her and she'll get jealous.

She'll try to find ways to get in the way of his scheduled runs and act like he isn't committed to her the way she deserves and start to act out by being unavailable or always making plans so she's busy when he's free. Just to show him how it feels and play games.

She will try to change him and show him how empty his life is without her. Running is what guys without real women in their lives do. Men with real women in their lives only do stuff with their woman.

I pointed out the other day that I am not everything to/for my girlfriend and she needs to spend time doing all the dumb crap I hate doing with her friends and let me be her boyfriend.

Just saying.

She thought it was admirable at first, but now thinks it's obsessive, and on some level is bothered that I can put so much effort into something that doesn't involve or benefit her...

This just in......I kick ass!

For me, even her family started saying things like - "Unless you're getting paid to do it, that's too much of a committment for minimal return."

orbitboy wrote:

She thought it was admirable at first, but now thinks it's obsessive, and on some level is bothered that I can put so much effort into something that doesn't involve or benefit her...

Isn't that what a family is?

mr. Toad RIP wrote:

For me, even her family started saying things like - "Unless you're getting paid to do it, that's too much of a committment for minimal return."

My girlfriend runs farther than I do. Good luck..talk about her more...they like that

Ha, my in-laws are so into my running, they question me when I don't run doubles and say stuff like "Back so soon? That was a short one" when I return from a run. Jeez, can't a girl take a break? Something to think about - it IS nice to get support for your running. I get lots. (But like the other poster said, don't talk about it too much and you know, try to act like a "normal" person. Or, you can just always hang out with someone just as obs... I mean passionate & driven about something)

mr. Toad RIP wrote:

For me, even her family started saying things like - "Unless you're getting paid to do it, that's too much of a committment for minimal return."

orbitboy wrote:

She thought it was admirable at first, but now thinks it's obsessive, and on some level is bothered that I can put so much effort into something that doesn't involve or benefit her...

[quote]RockyRococo wrote:

...so he is worried that the girl will think he's totally obsessed with training and nothing else...

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And she'd be right. What kind of road race warrior puts in that much time to running if they're not absolutely obsessed?

RockyRococo wrote:

One of my training friends is about to go on a date this weekend with this girl and he thinks she won't believe him when he says that runs as much as he does. The guy has broken 15 on the road and takes it seriously...so he is worried that the girl will think he's totally obsessed with training and nothing else...

Why does it need to come up on the first date? Do you really think that when you tell someone what your hobby is, they immediately want to know how much time you put into said hobby? If a girl tells you that she enjoys writing poetry or playing soccer, do you immediately ask her how many hours per week she spends writing poetry or playing soccer?

If it comes up that you're a runner, she is NOT going to immediately ask you how many miles per week you run (unless she's also a runner). Your weekly mileage will only come up if you bring it up on your own.