Girl Wants to Workout out With Me. Please Translate.

Haha...I have been in your situation, and I mean literally an identical situation, except it was with a girl 2 years younger than myself who I met in high school through this religous youth group thing, and we stayed friends after high school. She was damn cute, but it turned out she viewed it all as completely platonic. And we would do this sort of thing often (bike rides, beach runs, gym sessions), and every time, she would always be the one initiating contact, asking if I wanted to engage in said activities with her. And then she would let me pay for lunch, smoothies, movie tickets, snacks at movies, etc., even though she probably knew perfectly well nothing would come of this. I never even kissed the girl. ****ing tease.

Objectively speaking however, she was much more attractive than myself. Do not let this sway you though. This girl is obviously interested in your company and is not completely repulsed by you. Thus, I would say at this point, there is absolutely not reason why you can't get some.

ALH359 wrote:

Dude you are retarded. Not everything has to be sexual.

You should get your testosterone levels checked.

I'm doing just fine.

Dude, same here. I have been in that EXACT SAME situation. Except the girl wasn't a girl. And except it wasn't in high school. Oh, and it really wasn't about bike rides and such. But other than that EXACTLY THE F'ING SAME.

Has to be said wrote:

Dude, same here. I have been in that EXACT SAME situation. Except the girl wasn't a girl. And except it wasn't in high school. Oh, and it really wasn't about bike rides and such. But other than that EXACTLY THE F'ING SAME.

You forgot that it was also LITERALLY exactly the same. LITERALLY!

I didn't say it happened it high school. I said it happened after, and that we met in high school. Ass.

She thinks of you as a good training partner, someone to push her a little bit and someone she can push and boost her confidence by beating you in some training runs.

I'm doing just fine.[/quote]

No really, get them checked.

Thanks for the replies.

I ran in college and she is on the swim team at the grad school I am attending. This may sound egotistical but I believe myself to be comparatively more attractive than her (me being a dude and her being a chick, obviously).

I am totally prepared to be teased but I guess that is a risk of doing business with this girl. I am pretty athletic and have transitioned to doing tris. I see her at the pool/gym everyday but don't really go out of my way to speak with her.

Honestly, I can't believe I was put in the friend zone/ friend ladder this quickly. The people's stories which mirror this have been helpful!

Take it slow- it could happen but she doesn't want to have sex in the shower after your workout. But, she just might want to get something going.

This is pretty nuts. This situation is "happening" to me as we speak. She initiated, a week ago mind you, that we should go for a run. We have a mutual friend but I have never really hung out with her. Five days later, we've been texting and making jabs at eachother (teasing...or flirting??). This girl is gorgeous and just the girl I could see myself with and don't want to screw this up...she has had serious relationships so I don't know what what to do here. I ran with her from her apartment the other day if this helps and we got ice cream after. I'll keep it cool for a while but keep this thread going because I really could use some advice! Should I make a move sometime soon? We're 24 so no high school teasing bull shit (hopefully).

YoYo21 wrote:

This is pretty nuts. This situation is "happening" to me as we speak. She initiated, a week ago mind you, that we should go for a run. We have a mutual friend but I have never really hung out with her. Five days later, we've been texting and making jabs at eachother (teasing...or flirting??). This girl is gorgeous and just the girl I could see myself with and don't want to screw this up...she has had serious relationships so I don't know what what to do here. I ran with her from her apartment the other day if this helps and we got ice cream after. I'll keep it cool for a while but keep this thread going because I really could use some advice! Should I make a move sometime soon? We're 24 so no high school teasing bull shit (hopefully).

You're 24 and you made this post? lulz@nub

YoYo21 wrote:

This is pretty nuts. This situation is "happening" to me as we speak. She initiated, a week ago mind you, that we should go for a run. We have a mutual friend but I have never really hung out with her. Five days later, we've been texting and making jabs at eachother (teasing...or flirting??). This girl is gorgeous and just the girl I could see myself with and don't want to screw this up...she has had serious relationships so I don't know what what to do here. I ran with her from her apartment the other day if this helps and we got ice cream after. I'll keep it cool for a while but keep this thread going because I really could use some advice! Should I make a move sometime soon? We're 24 so no high school teasing bull shit (hopefully).

Looks like I am a few days behind you. My feeling is that this is a delicate situation because you could really put yourself in the friend zone quick. There is the possibility for sexual tension since both of you are doing physical stuff, but you need to make sure you haven't crossed into "training partner" status. The way I feel about it, unless she is a total b*tch attempting to lead you on she has genuine interest in you. Just make sure you aren't being made an intellectual whore. Also be prepared to cut bait or put her on the backburner if its getting too friendly, i.e., not banging her friendly.

I only got this txt two days ago so I was going to hit her up maybe tomorrow or monday. Best of luck. If things go favorably for me I'll gladly keep the thread alive.

Happy days you must be living. Live it for all of us, for me that doesn't have such experiences.

I am a girl. I have been the girl in these "situations" before. Here's whats up.

Either:

a) you guys just met and/or just started talking, she knows you have similar interests in running/swimming, she is suggesting that you do these things together to feel you out and see what you are like without going on a true "date"...this way if things don't work, or she doesn't end up liking you, or she starts seeing the giant red flags with you, or you end up being a giant douchebag, etc., she can just say that you are "training partners." No loss on our end. We get a training buddy who is likely faster than us and we get to keep looking for a different dude who is better than you.

b) You are already in friend zone. She just needs a training partner.

c) she already has a boyfriend who does not do workouts, she has not mentioned him yet because she wants a training partner.

have fun!

I had a similar situation, where the girl asked me to pace her for a 20-miler and then we went out for lunch afterwards. A few days later she emailed to meet up for drinks to talk about training. When we said goodbye I kissed her hand as charmingly as I could. A few days later she asked to meet up again and then she made the move. She said later that she thought it was going to just be a friend zone situation but that when I kissed her hand goodbye she realized she was interested. Try it, it works.

Girl wants to workout with guy.

Translation - Girl wants to workout with guy

Guy wants to workout with girl.

Translation - Guy wants to have sex with girl