So, I just got done moving a refrigerator out of my old house. I have been divorced from my ex-wife for nearly 5 years and we are actually great friends now. I left her the house, which she subsequently lost to a loan default/short-sale, I have since been struggling financially. She met a guy who makes bank, and simply moved into a brand new beautiful house on the hill.
On the top of the refrigerator was a stack of pictures that she had left for me. Pictures of me on my wedding day, a picture of me holding my son the first day we brought him home, a picture of my grandfather and I(he has since passed), pictures of my best friend's wedding(my best friend was with me). The pictures, coupled with my last walk through what once represented my dream home, just left me a mess. I'm prepared for all the "you're a pussy comments," and I'm sure my day will pale in comparison to others' saddest days, but I'd love to hear some stories.....yes, I know this is a running board, but these are often the best threads...
Saddest/Toughest Day of your life?
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You're not a pussy at all, and if any fanboys log in and say that, ignore them. They have no life experience.
I'm also divorced, and things like that are tough. You see things from the past and remember how much you and your ex worked towards something and looked forward to something, and it is sad. I'm actually happily divorced, but things like that still get me all of the time. -
The day my father came home and told me that he was diagnosed with terminal cancer was tougher to get through than the day he died, his funeral, my parents divorce, and any portion of my failed marriage, but I think that was because of my age when it happened.
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That is a rough situation.
For me it was my 28th birthday. My wife and I lost twins in utero on that day. -
why do people get upset over an unborn embryo. just make another!
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asdfqwer wrote:
why do people get upset over an unborn embryo. just make another!
Why do people get upset over a lost child? Just make another!
Why do people get upset over a divorce? Just find another! -
I am 23, so mine might seem a little juvenile, but it was a horrible day nonetheless. The following is 100% true, and not exagerated in anyway.
In Fall '08 I was working on getting back together with a girl that I had dated on and off for ~3 years (Alicia). It was a terrible relationship looking back, but it was one of those where you just beat yourself into the ground trying to fix everything and not seeing the bigger picture. She broke up with me in the summer so I called up one of my high school GF and we had sex that night (Jamie). Being the asshole that I was, I completely dropped Jamie with and started to try to get back together with Alicia.
Jamie transferred to the school that both Alicia and I attended a month later. One day, after not talking to her for a month after the sex, Jamie sees me walking through a building on campus and gives me a go to hell look. Not thinking anything of it, I walk back to my dorm expected to see Alicia (she stayed the night at my place, and I had given her my cell phone to use as an alarm because hers was dead).
Alicia was not in my dorm and I figured she was in class. Since I did not have a phone on me, I got onto Ip-Relay.com and used a deaf call service to call Alicia. When she answers the phone, I see the operator type *sounds like crying in background* and I see the words come up on the screen..
"You got Jamie pregnant?"
I run from my dorm across campus to the other dorm and run 6 flights of stairs up to where Alicia's room was and she isn't there. I frantically ask to use a bystander's phone and find out that she is back at my place.
When I get to my place, she is sobbing on the coach, head in my roommate's chest (who I had known for a whopping 2 weeks). We go into my room and she asks me to get her ice cream from our freezer. I had no idea what to do, so I went to the freezer and got her ice cream and watched her stuff her face while I tried to explain what happened. Jamie had sent me a text that said "You got me pregnant, but don't worry, I took care of it." Alicia had my phone... and they actually texted back and forth while Alicia pretended to be me.
She ignored me for a week and I found out that she had sex with my roommate's best friend in spite of me and I still tried to get back with her. I was an idiot. That following year, she tried to smooth things over with me, but I had found someone else. The months following that incident were terrible and it is something that I will never forget.
I haven't talked to Alicia in over a year and currently work with Jamie on campus.
Some people say that Jamie was lying about the pregnancy, but knowing her I really do think that she was, seeing that I did not wear protection (she was on the pill).
I'm an asshole, I know. -
asdfqwer wrote:
why do people get upset over an unborn embryo. just make another!
Typical LetsRun garbage. No perspective on real life or reality. -
Your Son is still alive and you have him. Your friends with your wife now, as opposed to the relationship you had that caused a divorce. You can see other Women now, do what you want etc.
Hey I feel bad about my life now -
There are many different kinds of grief, and all manner of worst days in anyone's life. Personally, mine was losing my youngest son (age 13 years old) almost 5 years ago. I can only hope that this will continue to be the worst day of my life - I will not let myself imagine anything worse. Hold your loved ones close to you every day, and never take them for granted.
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Mick D. wrote:
There are many different kinds of grief, and all manner of worst days in anyone's life. Personally, mine was losing my youngest son (age 13 years old) almost 5 years ago. I can only hope that this will continue to be the worst day of my life - I will not let myself imagine anything worse. Hold your loved ones close to you every day, and never take them for granted.
I'm so sorry to hear that Mick. God bless you and your family and stay strong. -
At 23 I was working my first job out in the sticks, about a year out of college. Out of the blue the phone rang at 6 AM and I thought this might not be good. It was my mom, who said "your dad had another heart attack last night." (his first had been 3 or 4 years earlier).
"He's okay, isn't he?" I asked.
"No. He's dead."
I was in shock and my co-workers got me to a bus station, and helped me get a plane reservation within an hour. Took a bus for 2 hr to mid-sized city. I had never taken a cab before so I walked and tried to hitch hike the 6 or 8 miles from downtown to the airport. Somehow I got there in time to make the flight.
Made the connector and arrived at my parents' house at 6 or 7 PM. I was okay until I saw his jacket and briefcase sitting in his study. Toughest day and toughest week in my life. Decades later and I still miss him. -
I am told that the loss of a child is the most difficult of all loss. I have no trouble believing this.
Mick, I'll cross my fingers and my heart that you won't ever have to endure another worst day. -
My parents got divorced when I was little. It was an ugly, ugly divorce that went on for a decade with constant fights about visitation and money. They certainly should not have stayed together. But, they certainly did not have to make the divorce so miserable for so long.
I have a son and a very good marriage. My most miserable days are the days when I spend time with my kid and wonder how people could put a child through the kind of misery of a contentious divorce. It is hard enough to be a kid and hope that you don't get beat up at school or that the monsters stay under the bed at night.
I hope the OP puts his kid first and his life second. Whether you got the short end of the stick in the divorce is irrelevant in the big picture. It is all about making sure your kid has a good life. -
When a girl that I went out with(even though we told everyone we didnt go out) told me she never wanted to talk to me again. We already had some drama, and looking back, she wanted to end the relationship sooner. She was the first girl I truly loved.
I felt like a truck hit me. I was laying on the floor crying. She kept asking me if I was alright,( On the phone, I hung up before I startd crying ) But I couldn't reply to her or she'd have known I was crying.
I went running the next day and was uncontrollably crying. Got to wrestling practice and everyone could tell how sad I was. My coach was messing around and said "what you're GF broke up wiht you." Even though he had no idea I even had a GF, I sort of started crying in front of my whole team. I just walked off the mat and went home.
I'm just a kid! -
Im 19 years old wrote:
When a girl that I went out with(even though we told everyone we didnt go out) told me she never wanted to talk to me again. We already had some drama, and looking back, she wanted to end the relationship sooner. She was the first girl I truly loved.
I felt like a truck hit me. I was laying on the floor crying. She kept asking me if I was alright,( On the phone, I hung up before I startd crying ) But I couldn't reply to her or she'd have known I was crying.
I went running the next day and was uncontrollably crying. Got to wrestling practice and everyone could tell how sad I was. My coach was messing around and said "what you're GF broke up wiht you." Even though he had no idea I even had a GF, I sort of started crying in front of my whole team. I just walked off the mat and went home.
I'm just a kid!
What happened to make her all of sudden "never want to talk to you again." -
Precious Roy,
My ex-wife and I are so serious about putting our kids first that many of the people in our town don't realize we are even divorced. We make parenting decisions together, we are there at almost every event our kids take part in, and there is NEVER an ill word spoken about each other in front of our children. Our kids are amazingly well adjusted and feel like we to a large degree are still very much a family. It certainly is not always easy, but we are the only divorced couple I know that truly backs up the statement "our kids come first."
The reason for our divorce, and the nature of our relationship and my life since would be an amazing book, but it will have to wait until my kids are grown.
There isn't a way possible to fix what was wrong with our marriage, but I still miss my wife every day. I miss her in so many ways, and she me. However, there is no possible solution to what split us up, not even love.
To the poster who lost his son, I am heart broken for you. My son is 13yo now, and my world would collapse if I lost him or my daughter. I hope that your pain will someday transform to gratitude for the time you had him, but realize that may just be too much to ask. -
Yep, you're also a puss. Did you read the other posts on this thread about people dying? Sack up and get some perspective kid.
Im 19 years old wrote:
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Mick D. wrote:
There are many different kinds of grief, and all manner of worst days in anyone's life. Personally, mine was losing my youngest son (age 13 years old) almost 5 years ago. I can only hope that this will continue to be the worst day of my life - I will not let myself imagine anything worse. Hold your loved ones close to you every day, and never take them for granted.
All the sad days combined in my life would not equate to your tragedy. God Bless you friend and I hope you've found some comfort in the days since. -
Divorced Guy wrote:
Precious Roy,
My ex-wife and I are so serious about putting our kids first that many of the people in our town don't realize we are even divorced. We make parenting decisions together, we are there at almost every event our kids take part in, and there is NEVER an ill word spoken about each other in front of our children. Our kids are amazingly well adjusted and feel like we to a large degree are still very much a family. It certainly is not always easy, but we are the only divorced couple I know that truly backs up the statement "our kids come first."
The reason for our divorce, and the nature of our relationship and my life since would be an amazing book, but it will have to wait until my kids are grown.
There isn't a way possible to fix what was wrong with our marriage, but I still miss my wife every day. I miss her in so many ways, and she me. However, there is no possible solution to what split us up, not even love.
To the poster who lost his son, I am heart broken for you. My son is 13yo now, and my world would collapse if I lost him or my daughter. I hope that your pain will someday transform to gratitude for the time you had him, but realize that may just be too much to ask.
I realize you are basically saying you cannot reveal what the issue was, but I am very curious as to what could have split you up that even love could not fix. Especially in light of the fact that you still care about one another and still miss one another.
