How to tell a girlfriend she can't run with you?

do ur cool down runs with her. tell her im gonna go run for x number of minutes so be ready and ill come back and get u and run ur cool down w her...win/win situation

"Honey, you can't run with me". That's how you tell her.

"It's not you, it's me."

Dump her.

"You are too slow, I can't run with you. Welcome to dump city population you."

Simple really.

Could you convince her that if she rode a bike with you it would help your pace, maybe she could carry some water for you? It has worked out for me in a VERY similar situation.

You're going to have to find a way to spend time with her outside of running, but first, you have to convince her that spending time with her cannot involve running because you run quite fast.

If you stand your ground and offer her the cool down runs, recovery runs and let her bike alongside you options, but don't agree to run less, then there is a risk you will end up without a girlfriend.

On the other hand, if you give into her and run less to please her, there is every likelihood the relationship will end anyway and then you'll be a pussy without a girlfriend.

She should f***ing know how much running is important to you. So, tell her that. If she still wants to hang out, get her a bike to ride next to you. It sounds like she doesn't f***ing exercise so it'll be good for her. I say get her a mountain bike. Since you're running, she can't get a road bike or something b/c it'll be uncomfortable riding a bike that fast. With a mountain bike, she can leisurely ride on the fat tires with comfort so she'll enjoy the ride. Problem solved.

Seriously, do doubles. Run a few miles in the morning with her, then do your workout or another 10 in the evening ( or the reverse) on your own. Simple, everyone's happy

My PBs are not that much slower than yours (5k 17:44). I'm a bit slower than that now, but I never had a problem running 10-15 miles a week out of 50 with friends at 10:00/mile pace. My easy days were between 8:00-9:00/mile. There's not much improvement you're going to get from running a few easy runs faster, and I don't see what you lose by running a minute per mile slower sometimes.

The suggestion for her to bike is a good one. It also sounds like she's insecure about your relationship, probably because you've been together for a while and she's worried that you're never going to pop the question. (I'm a girl, trust me, I'm probably right.)

But seriously, "I'm not that fast, only a 2:50 marathon"...OMFG that's like saying "I'm not very wealthy, I only own a few Rolls Royces"

Bike wrote:

The suggestion for her to bike is a good one. It also sounds like she's insecure about your relationship, probably because you've been together for a while and she's worried that you're never going to pop the question. (I'm a girl, trust me, I'm probably right.)

But seriously, "I'm not that fast, only a 2:50 marathon"...OMFG that's like saying "I'm not very wealthy, I only own a few Rolls Royces"

Around here you are a pauper if you only have two Rolls, so you have try to nip the issue in the bud.

Could be she is feeling a little jealous, both of your athletic ability, and the amount of time you are willing to devote to it. Perhaps she feels slighted that you would rather spend that time alone or with other better-trained people than with her.

She probably does not realize how much of an inconvenience it would be to force you to cut back, or she thinks time spent with her is more important than your running ability. It could be she is right, but that is not her decision to make for you. You need to find a way to tell her how difficult your type of running is and how much it means to you. This will require some very specific talk; don't get side-tracked by straw-man arguments she might use: you just don't want to spend time with me, you don't care about my feelings, you enjoy running more than being with me, etc. Obviously these are not true, and don't hesitate to affirm your true feelings, but don't get distracted. Deny any false accusations and bring the conversation back to what really matters: You must be able to train the way your fitness requires, otherwise there's no point. She cannot keep up with you on foot. It is not unreasonable, if she really wants to spend more time with you and she cares about your well-being also, to ride a bike alongside.

If she won't accept the bike option it could be she is not interested in spending time together, but instead wants you to sacrifice something you care about, or see if your willing to do it, to prove your feelings for her. If so, good luck to you. How you deal with those kind of head games is entirely your prerogative.

Why don't you just call her bluff and let her run with you? It wouldn't kill you to run a little slower occasionally and if she actually sticks with it and wants to run with you every day, there could be much worse things (alternatively, you could let her run with you and always run slightly faster and longer than she wants to run).

Not sure if you're a troll or not, but just tell her this, THE TRUTH!!! She can't get mad at you for that, so just at least for her sake tell her the truth and not a bunch of random online tools like us lol

Really dude just say what's on your mind she can't be too mad...

Bike wrote:

But seriously, "I'm not that fast, only a 2:50 marathon"...OMFG that's like saying "I'm not very wealthy, I only own a few Rolls Royces"

No, it's like saying "im not that wealthy, I only have a BMW 3 series". (Disclaimer: my PR is 2:54)

Anyways, I think you just need to relax a little and run with her a couple times a week, just run your recovery days with her.