Dropped a casual jogger who wanted to run with me randomly, was this a rude move?

Seriously?! You really needed to type all that out to get reassurance that you didn't do anything wrong? No, you didn't do the wrong this. Yes, your friend is an idiot.

She would probably feel worse knowing she is holding you back. Only a non-runner would find what you did rude.

you're fine. If ppl can't keep up, they shouldn't try to run with you. The only ppl you need to slow for are friends that you establish that you are gonna run with beforehand.

Thing. You didn't do the wrong thing. Apparently your friend isn't the only idiot...

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Seriously?! You really needed to type all that out to get reassurance that you didn't do anything wrong? No, you didn't do the wrong this. Yes, your friend is an idiot.

You handled it very well, particularly by going back to wish her luck. That was kind and very "relational" - much more so than most of the males here could imagine doing.

Did you do wrong? If you were wearing shoes, yes. But I forgive you.

Sounds like you did fine. The only thing you could have possibly done would have been if you'd noticed at the time she was falling back and had the opportunity to say something like "hey, great running a bit with you, but I'm going to get going here..." But you didn't notice at the time, so no harm done. She might have felt slighted for a short time until you came back, but I think you handled it perfectly.

Of course, slowing down for 1 or 2 loops would have been .75-1.5mi, which probably wouldn't have compromised your run too much.

Maybe by dropping her, you provided the "push" she needed to keep training and get faster.

If you slowed down to match her pace, she wouldn't have gotten any benefit from it. She probably had a great workout trying to keep up.

I had this same thing happen to me about a year and a half ago.

Out enjoying a good recovery run when some lady asked if she could run with me for a few minutes since she was tired. I was doing a pretty slow pace that day so I figured whatever. Well, after about half a mile she looks at me and says "This is way too slow for me" and before I realize or comprehend what she said, she was 3 steps ahead of me.

My first thought was "Oh, you want to play that game. Okay!"

Probably 1/4 of a mile later, she has about 10 steps on me...She is probably thinking how awesome she is that she dropped someone. I said to myself "okay, lets go" and opened it up. I caught up to her, slowed down, looked over and said "Next time you say something like that make sure the person you do it to can't run faster and further than you" and I kept going at that faster pace.

I have never seen her on my normal running route again. It may have been a jerk thing to say, but she deserved it.

Maybe she'd seen you before on a faster-paced run and was surprised at your recovery pace. She might not have been thinking "how awesome she is that she dropped someone"; she might have been thinking that she was enjoying her run. And yes, it was a jerk thing to say. And no, she didn't deserve it. Why don't you learn some humility?

You did a terrible thing: You didn't drop her as hard as you could. You've got to let them know.

No one cares who you dropped and as a D1 female pretty much any marginally talented male is faster than you anyway.

10/10 nice troll

Since when is "dropping" someone on an easy run considered 10ft? 10ft is like 3 strides tops, you two were in spitting distance.

male troll pretending to be female syndrome again

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Anyway I keep running and then I realize that shes fallen back and Ive put a distance on her.

BS.

By your own statement, you obviously found it notable that this person joined you.

And now you're saying that you just found yourself having dropped her in mid-conversation?

Troll.

Your friend is an idiot. You can't disrupt your workout to accommodate someone else. You did the right thing by going back. You seem like a nice person- the way you handled it and by your concern. That's good Karma.

Yes, it was rude. Get over it. You needed to work on your game, she needed to work on hers and the two were miles apart. There's nothing wrong with being rude, though. You need to read a bit more Ayn Rand. Someone else's workout is of no more importance than yours.

If you were rude for that, then so was the 4 minute miler that left me after lap one in HS is really a douchebag.

Come on, she wanted to see if she could keep up and couldn't. It is not your fault.

MeHereYouWhere epitomizes the rude way to handle it. OP did quite well. Running back to say farewell took a lot of class. The "lady" also tried to keep up knowing that it was going to be difficult for her, so you doing your own thing seems like the correct terms of the contract.

If I saw Solinsky run by me, tried to keep up with him, and then he left me in the dust, I would not call him rude or a jerk. He's better than I am and it was my decision to try and keep up. If he came back to say farewell, I would instead find that amazingly humanitarian. That lady probably looks up to you as a good runner and you treated her far better than she expected.