How long before you said "I love you"

2 months. She said it first. College

dont say it first....cause if you do and she leaves your ass you wont be happy, good rule of thumb is say it about a week after she does

I know you are in an interesting position. If you say it too soon she might start wonder about you. If you wait too late she might think you are playing her. Like all relationships timing is everything. I would start to tell her that you really care for her you really adore her. Things like that. See how she responds. If she gives a upbeat response you know that it may be getting to that time.

For example situation A

you: Hey sweetie I just wanted to tell you I really care for you

her: Awww thats so cute of you,

she leens and gives you a kiss.

Then you know you're on the right the path and I wouldn't wait too long to tell her

Situation B

You: you: Hey sweetie I just wanted to tell you I really care for you

Her: awwww thank you

If she gives a response like that, then I would wait, she might not yet be ready.

If worse comes to worse think of what Van Hagar said

How do I know when it's love?

I can't tell you but it lasts forever

Oh! How does it feel when it's love?

It's just somethin' you feel together

When it's love

Quote of the Day.. The Van Halen reference made me laugh

'If you wait too late she might think you are playing her'

If she was dating Brad Pitt would she dump him for not saying I Love You?

Actions speak louder than words. A better question might before: how long before you consistently treat that person lovingly?

Usually on the first date.

Now be sure that you are "in position" meaning that you are making out and you want to go all the way.

If there is any hesitation, that's when you drop the "L" word, then it's panties off and you score!

People put way to much emphasis on this word. Many people feel like its some monumental step in a relationship. Does saying change the way you feel about her? My advice to any guy is don't say it at all just be ready when she says it say it back right away. This will make her feel that you do and you were just being the strong silent type. You just look like a loser when you say it fist. Women are supposed to be more in touch with their emotions so let her make the move. In then end how you feel about her is irrelevent if you want to stay with her this is your best play.

Took her 3 months, me 6 months. I just wanted to be absolutely sure. We been dating 13 months now

AMRunner800 wrote:

Took her 3 months, me 6 months. I just wanted to be absolutely sure. We been dating 13 months now

Out of curiosity, how did those 3 months between when she said it and when you said it go? What was your reaction when she said it? (and what was her reaction to you at that time, and also when you did eventually say it?)

it was over a year in, I asked if she enjoyed backdoor, she responded she had never tried i asked if it was ok she said sure, i said i love you, she said do you really.....in mid stroke i stopped and i thought about it and said ya i think i do, 5 years later we are still going strong and engaged

somemidageperv wrote:

it was over a year in, I asked if she enjoyed backdoor, she responded she had never tried i asked if it was ok she said sure, i said i love you, she said do you really.....in mid stroke i stopped and i thought about it and said ya i think i do, 5 years later we are still going strong and engaged

Five years and you still don't get to come through the front?

I said it three weeks after the first date. I didn't consciously say it, apparently I was asleep and said, "I love you. I think I'm gonna make you tater tot casserole."

I guess it worked because we've been together 10 years, married seven of those, have a house and two kids.

The tater tot casserole I made must have clinched it.

My girlfriend (now my wife) said it to me first. I suppose it was 3 months or so?

An ex that I ended up dating for about a year and a half said it like, a few weeks in which I thought was bizarre and off-putting. I was 18 and thought he was super hot though so apparently it wasn't off-putting enough for me to break up with him.

The boyfriend before that brought it up maybe a month and a half into dating, by saying "do you love me?" WTF what a cop-out! I totally didn't -- I think I told him something along the lines of "Um, I feel really close to you..."

In my current relationship, I said it first and before we even started dating. I said it after about three or four months of talking to and getting really close to my boyfriend. We've been together for almost two years now.

Here is my rule:

Do you think you could marry her? If you answer yes then it's appropriate to say I love you.

Otherwise, your just two people that hang out a lot and have sex.

I told my wife to be I love her about three months into dating.

She said "thank you."

She said "I love you" a couple months later.

I didn't get an immediate yes to my proposal either.

Been married 8 years now.

Do not say it unless you 100% mean it. For starters, I would say to her: "I really, really like you too." If she isn't afraid to be the first to say she really likes you, then she probably won't be afraid to be the first to say that she loves you when time is right as long as she trusts you with her feelings knows that you're really into her. If you honestly love her by the time she says it to you (don't you dare say it until she says it first!), then tell her you love her back.

I said it the moment my bf announced his inheritance of a large sum of money.