I got a dilemma. I have a girlfriend of almost two years whom I love dearly. She's great. She understands my needs and and I understand hers. She wants me to have my own life rather than both of us secluding ourselves within a tiny bubble. It's very healthy and I'm very happy with her.
However, I do have one problem which is driving me nuts. Her background: she's thin to average size (not runner thin, but average hips with thin waist) and a C chest. Her parents are overweight, but not by much. One of her parents is a diabetic. We live in a city where I do much running and swimming. She "values" exercise, but basically always makes excuses like she can't run on trails in the area because she'll get raped, she's so tired after work that she can't go to the gym, etc.
I tried telling her that I want her to exercise for her health. She eats well, but I know how important that routine is for exercising. She just told me she's going to cancel her gym membership that she never uses.I tried to motivate her telling her how healthy it is to get out and do things, but she's just this and that. She walks a fair amount in the city, which is good, but is not enough for her own health. She got mad at me for trying to push it on her. She said that I enjoy it, which makes it easy for me. I do enjoy running, but I don't enjoy stretching, or doing ab work, etc... but I do it.
Any suggestions as to how to motivate her without her getting mad at me? I honestly just want her to be health as she gets older, regardless if she's with me or someone else. Oh and she ran (supposedly) 3-4 times a week two years or so ago, but can't really now because of the city. She claims it's different working out at the gym and wouldnt mind getting a machine at home. A machine that I guarantee she wouldnt use.