I'm 29, I have a great career, a great family that I love, and a great life. I have no problems meeting women, and I date a lot. However, I possess a few qualities that I've now realized will prevent me from ever meeting a woman who would be interested in marrying me. These are not the types of things that come up during the first few dates, but they are the types of things that DO come up eventually. I have yet to meet a woman who does not have a major problem with at least one of them:
- I do not drink alcohol
- I do not want children
- I'm an atheist
- I'm a libertarian
Again, these are not things about myself that I put out there for women to see, nor do I push my lifestyle onto others. However, these ARE aspects of personality that I am not willing to change. I like who I am. And although I would not have a problem dating or marrying a woman on the opposite end of the spectrum with any of the items listed above (excepts for the children one, obviously), the same cannot be said of the women I've met. I'm in no rush to get married, but it is something I would have liked to have done eventually. I just don't think it's a possibility.
I've realized that I'm never going to get married
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- I do not drink alcohol (I'm too cool to drink)
- I do not want children (I don't want financial responsibilities nor dependents)
- I'm an atheist (I am god of my domain)
- I'm a libertarian (I am responsible for me and only me)
- I will never get married (I don't wanna someone else access to my finances) -
I'm 26 and have never met anyone I want to marry, and I don't think I ever will. I'm too independent and solitary. Some people just aren't meant for marriage and I'm one of them. Plus I hate my family and am not excited about starting my own.
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markm wrote:
- I do not drink alcohol (I'm too cool to drink)
- I do not want children (I don't want financial responsibilities nor dependents)
- I'm an atheist (I am god of my domain)
- I'm a libertarian (I am responsible for me and only me)
- I will never get married (I don't wanna someone else access to my finances)
Well, I can respect your reasons for having similar views, but I have different reasons for my choices. -
Go climb Mount Everest or do something badass like that.
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If you wait long enough (30 years more) you can have your pick with any of the widowed women who already killed their husbands with nagging
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Steven R wrote:
1) I do not drink alcohol
2) I do not want children
3) I'm an atheist
4) I'm a libertarian
1) number one prevents you from seeing very few people, and the older you get the less likely a person will care if you are into drinking.
2) Once you get into your mid 30's the woman you are meeting will either have children already or have realized that they do not want children. So that one wont matter much longer.
3) This one will always bother a devout religious person. But it seems like there are plenty of atheists out there and numerous agnostics, and only getting more.
4) Your are and forever will be loathed by woman. -
Steven R wrote:
- I do not drink alcohol
- I do not want children
- I'm an atheist
- I'm a libertarian
This is just like me, but I'd add:
- I smoke pot
I went back to school for an MS at age 31, and met so many like-minded or non-judgmental chicks that I finally realized that this kind of crap doesn't matter. Not all chicks want the same thing. -
None of those things seem like that big of a deal to me: Want to get married?
I am a dude, but you never qualified that standard so...WTF? -
I could have written that post at age 26, except for the part about having no problems meeting women. Now, I'm a few years older and very happily married. My wife and I match up on all 4 except #3. Life happens fast. It just takes one. You'll be fine.
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Wait until you're at least 45 before believing you'll never meet someone who is cool with all the important facets of your personality you listed. Never say never.....
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damn man, you sound like my dad...
no wonder i'm so f'ed up.
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Steven R wrote:
markm wrote:
- I do not drink alcohol (I'm too cool to drink)
- I do not want children (I don't want financial responsibilities nor dependents)
- I'm an atheist (I am god of my domain)
- I'm a libertarian (I am responsible for me and only me)
- I will never get married (I don't wanna someone else access to my finances)
Well, I can respect your reasons for having similar views, but I have different reasons for my choices.
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markm wrote:
- I do not drink alcohol (I'm too cool to drink)
- I do not want children (I don't want financial responsibilities nor dependents)
- I'm an atheist (I am god of my domain)
- I'm a libertarian (I am responsible for me and only me)
- I will never get married (I don't wanna someone else access to my finances)
Great post. -
Stop lying OP. I bet you rarely get laid. Sucks to be you.
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Marriage is a sham in the US anymore, anyway. Most of them fail, so it's not like it's really that important.
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markm wrote:
- I do not drink alcohol (I'm too cool to drink)
- I do not want children (I don't want financial responsibilities nor dependents)
- I'm an atheist (I am god of my domain)
- I'm a libertarian (I am responsible for me and only me)
- I will never get married (I don't wanna someone else access to my finances)
Lame post. -
I'm 21 and have not been in even a somewhat serious relationship ever. Being an atheist pretty much kills my chances with most girls around the two areas of this country I've lived. There are two big reasons why. 1) Christian girls (not so sure about pagan believer girls) don't want to date an atheist, and 2) a lot of baggage often comes with being a believer that makes it hard for our personalities to mesh. Atheism is on the rise, but it's still pretty low and seems to be a bit more common for males than females. I've met way more christian fundamentalist women than atheist women.
I don't really drink either, and I don't plan on having kids anytime soon (maybe when I'm 30-40).
Overall I don't have a real hard time meeting women, though not drinking definitely hampers me. The problem I have is that virtually every good looking girl already has a boyfriend, usually one they've been dating for several years.
Idk... I know there are women out there like me, but they must be very rare. I just hope I'm not still having this problem in 15 years. OP, you're 29. That's not too bad. Getting married is overrated anyway, and there's still time. If you're reasonably fit, you don't have to start worrying your chances are over for at least another 10 years. -
Sorry to be the voice of reality but look deeper and stop rationalizing.
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Besides the children part, how many women out there really give a crap about the other 3 things? Especially your political views. If you do see a lot of women the reason you aren't getting married is most certainly not a result of the reasons you listed. You might just not want to get married, which is fine, or you might have other reasons why women don't want to marry you.
