brother-in-law keeps calling my sister,his wife.

I don't quite know what just happened but I think you deserve a standing ovation. Not a real 1000-strong standing ovation, but an individual, you-left-the-coffee-pot-on-and-burned-down-half-the-office-kitchen, nice job genius, ovation. Brilliant...

This past earthly solar cycle was one to be remembered. A year of change. A year of hope. Pitiful, misplaced hope! But by far, the single most important issue of the year was that of the environment. For in the miserable annals of the Earth, this shall forever be remembered as the year I, Gorzo, destroyed your planetary environment once and for all!

What an insignificant little planet. Weak. Defenseless. Hanging there in the void just begging to be conquered! But before blasting your puny homeworld into smithereens with the Atomic Radio Ray and condemning your populace to bondage in the Gorzonian empire, I had to chuckle to myself with evil glee, "I think I'll toy with it a while!" And that is exactly what I did!

First, I wrung my long-fingernailed, bejeweled hands together in delight and pondered which sadistic whim I would satisfy first! "How," I asked myself, "should I pummel this little world into oblivion? With my Automatic Weather Controller, I can wreak havoc upon their global climate…and they will be helpless to resist!

"Should I activate the HOT HAIL button, and bombard them with burning chunks of ice? Imagine them scurrying to and fro as doom falls upon them from above!

"Should I trigger a series of earthquakes by altering the course of their moon? They will scatter like frightened ants as the very land beneath their primitive feet quivers and crumbles in obedience to the commands of…Gorzo the Mighty, Overlord of the Seven Suns of Solaria, the greatest tyrant the galaxy has ever known!

"Should I set off tidal waves? Vast, inexplicable electrical storms? Terrifying swirls of poisonous gas in the upper atmosphere, appearing as if from nowhere to terrify unsuspecting onlookers? Shall I rip apart their homes with ferocious winds?"

And then, pathetic Earthlings, I made my decision…and decided to do all of these things…and more! I wreaked havoc upon you! And you quaked with fear at my might! Ha ha ha! Such pleasure it gave me! Such repetitive, maniacal laughter! And there was nothing any of you could do! And what's more, your pathetic champion, Crash Comet, Space Commander from the Year 2000, was nowhere to be found!

Now all that remains is to finish the job! All I need to do now is activate the full destructive power of my Automatic Weather Controller and watch in delight as your puny Earth is destroyed at last! As soon as I pull this conspicuous, oversized lever….

What!?

The Spaceship Gallant? Emerging in an attack formation from a concealed orbit behind your Moon? Flanked by the accursed Prince Kazak and his Rocket Squad!? Firing full Nucleo-Engines as it speeds to the rescue in one last-ditch attempt to save the world?

FOOLS! Don't they know they can never breach the Impenetron Field?

NO! The Dynamo-Generator has been blasted by a surprise attack from Wotanus and his Valkyrie War-Jet Platoon! My Robo-Legionnaires are no match for them! The Energy Barrier is down! The forces of Gorzo are helpless!

But how could they get the secret location of the Dynamo-Generator, unless…. Princess Sultrania! My treacherous daughter! I should have known I could not trust her! I…wait. Wait! By all the galaxies! It cannot be!

The Star of Freedom IV! Blasting through the atmosphere! Opening fire upon my impenetrable Stratofortress! I…am…undone!

Crash Comet, Space Commander from the Year 2000—curse you! You have defeated me once again!

But this is not the end, no! I will be back! Mark my words, Earth: Gorzo the Mighty Shall return...in 2009!

I do not eat Cookie!

oops beat

go talk to your sister.......ask how she is doing.......what she is happy about (or unhappy about)

a little add on here.......don't spend alot of time

evaluating your b/law. Spend more time..now...seeing how your sister is doing.

I've got to agree with this. If you're worried about your sister, ask her directly. Don't imply from what your brother in law says or doesn't say.

I barely understand what is happening here. At first I thought it was a logic puzzle: Carl is married to Carol, but OP is Carl's brothers' sisters' second cousin...".

I think you need to go back and read what you wrote.

Cookie's twin needs to let go of Cookie

The Cast in order of appearance

OP= Carols twin

Carl= Carols husband who is also the OPs Brother-in-law

various uncreditd waitstaff.

A friend of mine had a crush on a girl, but that girl had a boyfriend. My buddy said he knew she loved her boyfriend because she always referred to him as Robert, not as "my boyfriend". I always took notice of that after the conversation, and made an effort to refer to my SO by name rather than refer to her as a title. Your b-in-law sounds a little odd, but if he's really good to your sister and truly loves her, just let it slide.

One of my best friends has been dating a girl for the last month. All I know her as is "the redhead". I've never heard him say her name. I don't think the relationship is going to last.

Definitely a mountain out of a molehill here. It's not compulsive, it's just the habit he has. She is your twin, and always will be. But HE is the man in her life now, not her brother. That's what happens when women grow up. Brothers and fathers get left behind to an extent for husbands, just like sisters and mothers get left behind for wives. It's bittersweet, but it's natural.

If anything, you're the possessive one here, because it seems like you're trying to maintain your position as the #1 man in your sister's life, and you're not, her husband is.

themanontherun wrote:

But HE is the man in her life now

Ummm...ever heard of Evan Jager?

The OP does have...well...some kind of a point here. When speaking to my wife's family members, I do not refer to her as "my wife," I use her name. When she speaks to my family members, she does not call me "my husband" but by my real name. So, I do find it strange that this guy refers to her as "my wife" while speaking to the woman's own brother.

Does it indicate abuse? not necessarily, but it is strange.

Again, to the OP: ask your sister directly. If you're as close as we might assume you are/were (after all, you did emphasize she is your twin), she'll probably tell you if something is not right.

Yes-- your sister is now chattel.

Cookie is about to be sold to a sheik for three cows and a goat.

oversensitive much?

campana wrote:

A friend of mine had a crush on a girl, but that girl had a boyfriend. My buddy said he knew she loved her boyfriend because she always referred to him as Robert, not as "my boyfriend". I always took notice of that after the conversation, and made an effort to refer to my SO by name rather than refer to her as a title. Your b-in-law sounds a little odd, but if he's really good to your sister and truly loves her, just let it slide.

One of my best friends has been dating a girl for the last month. All I know her as is "the redhead". I've never heard him say her name. I don't think the relationship is going to last.

Thinking about my friends most do refer to gf/spouse by name

but a couple use the possessive my wife form and those marriages are not all that great as far as I can tell.

OP sees it as an abuse sign but I think it is just that women still have a way to go to be really seen as equal partners.

good advise to OP given above-Talk to your sister about your concerns.

4runner wrote:

Yes-- your sister is now chattel.

Cookie is about to be sold to a sheik for three cows and a goat.

This mindset is why I worry.

Female here. How long have they been married? If they've been married less than a year, he might just be stoked to have a wife and likes the sound of "my wife." If they've been married a while, it's kind of creepy. CREEPY. Talk to Cookie. If you two are as close as you think/say, she'll let you know what's really going on.