Why can't some people grow up?

"Act their age"?

Hey, pal. Shut the f*** up and quit worrying about other people. Do what makes you happy and leave other people alone. If they're happy, don't be going around pissing on their lives.

Douche-bag.

He sounds like a free spirited type of guy. He probably doesn't want the responsibility of owning a home, and if he can by without paying a car payment, all the better. A crap job is low stress, leaving him plenty of time to party and run.

As you get older, you'll realize that some people define success in a different way than you. Not everyone wants to be saddled with a wife, kids, dog, 2 suvs, and a big mortgage. Some people prefer to live life day to day, just getting by. I have found these people tend to be far happier than the driven types.

If he's happy with his life, & is not breaking any laws or hurting anyone, why should it bother a soul?

Yes, too, if he can keep up with 20-somethings, that says something about the 20-somethings.

Hymnal No. 2 wrote:

Not everyone wants to be saddled with a wife, kids, dog, 2 suvs, and a big mortgage. Some people prefer to live life day to day, just getting by. I have found these people tend to be far happier than the driven types.

Until they turn 70 and have no savings, no family, get fired because a monkey can do their job, and have zero earning power. Then they waste away in public housing and pick aluminum cans out of the trash, while suckling on the public's teat.

Unsuccessful people rarely stay happy too long.....

Are you sure you know everything about this guy? Life isn't always the fairy tale you think it'll be. Maybe he's divorced. Maybe his wife and kid were killed in a car accident when he was in his mid-twenties. Maybe his mom died of cancer when he was young.

On the other hand, he could be more successful than you realize. Maybe he's retired early or inherited a big sum of money and is living the good life. Mind your own business and don't be quick to make assumptions.

ghost of christmas past wrote:

Maybe he's retired early or inherited a big sum of money and is living the good life.

Good point. My 30-something years old friend down the street comes from a very successful family of developers. He doesn't really do anything aside from managing his investments, giving out a scholarship, and climbing. He didn't go to college and he lives in a very modest house with his wife.

Great guy. He's what most people would call "liberal" and if he didn't have a wife I could easily see him being a "free-spirit" like the first guy. An interesting thing is that he's usually decrying how the new developers in our state are building ugly neighborhoods of McMansions and the people living in those have an SUV for every family member.

Champ Kind wrote:

Until they turn 70 and have no savings, no family, get fired because a monkey can do their job, and have zero earning power. Then they waste away in public housing and pick aluminum cans out of the trash, while suckling on the public's teat.

Nice job remembering to change your posting name this time OP dkerr. You forgot one thing though: you still sound like an overly judgemental late teen/ early twenties guy with little life experience but is still quick to tell people how they should lead their life.

Champ Kind wrote:

Hymnal No. 2 wrote:

Not everyone wants to be saddled with a wife, kids, dog, 2 suvs, and a big mortgage. Some people prefer to live life day to day, just getting by. I have found these people tend to be far happier than the driven types.

Until they turn 70 and have no savings, no family, get fired because a monkey can do their job, and have zero earning power. Then they waste away in public housing and pick aluminum cans out of the trash, while suckling on the public's teat.

Unsuccessful people rarely stay happy too long.....

More than a few hard working ambitious types end up in the same situation because they spend everything they earn or their reward for all of their hard work is to be pushed out the door because they now have a big salary and the company wants someone younger and cheaper or their pension plan goes in the tank.

If the guy has a job he's likely paying into social security and if he's learned to get by with very little he'll likely know how to do that when he's 70.

You need to grow up, man. Oh, wait, that might mean you have to stop ass-essing people by agist stereotypes, and that would deprive you of YOUR fun in judging people.

Never mind: carry on: you make the playing field that much sportier for those of us who not only don't know or want to know what your type MEANS by "gronw up," but we know we are better off not knowing....

71 next week so I don't have time to explain....too much to do.

jim

imagine how pissed the OP would be if Ed Whitlock trained with him

Me and my friends are in our 40s, go to bars, chat up women, etc. We do because WE CAN. We have the time and the $ - two things necessary to attract birds.

I think the only reason you loathe this guy is because you do not enjoy doing what he does. He still has fun doing it. So why not?

If you're not married, why act single?

I admire older men (and women) who can be cool enough to hang out with people in their 20's as long as they don't come off as immature.

Actually, I think that's the dream. Be cool enough when you're 40 that 25 year olds like you.

livecrag wrote:

Good point. My 30-something years old friend down the street comes from a very successful family of developers. He doesn't really do anything aside from managing his investments, giving out a scholarship, and climbing.

That's my dream!

Ironic: A 20+ Guy complaining about a 40+ Guy not growing up.

One question dkerr :Do you still live with your parents?

My doctor cousin bought a Mercedes while he was living with his parents before he bought the 4000 sq ft McMansion (identical to the other houses in his neighborhood with only five feet of space separating the houses) and another Mercedes. He still has to pay off his student loans. And from what I hear, he and his stay-at-home wife spend like crazy on all kinds of crap.

His net worth will probably be a negative number for a long time with all the debt so that means I'm richer than he is, even though I don't have all those fancy toys. Is he successful? Perhaps yes. Is he grown up? No. He's good at what he does but he's gotten fat and doesn't take care of his own health. I wouldn't be surprised if he dies before 40. I'd rather hang out with the running bum. Perhaps people who live beyond their means should also grow up because it'll catch up to them, eventually. But who cares? It's not my problem.

Hymnal No. 2 wrote:

He sounds like a free spirited type of guy. He probably doesn't want the responsibility of owning a home, and if he can by without paying a car payment, all the better. A crap job is low stress, leaving him plenty of time to party and run.

As you get older, you'll realize that some people define success in a different way than you. Not everyone wants to be saddled with a wife, kids, dog, 2 suvs, and a big mortgage. Some people prefer to live life day to day, just getting by. I have found these people tend to be far happier than the driven types.

How many people would want to live "just getting by". This guy sounds like he's a 42 year old OVERGROWN KID. Who probably still gets picked up by his Mom to come home every month for a hot meal and shower.

It is PATHETIC for a 42 year old in general to not have enough money to own a car and have to be sponging off people for rides.

The guy will have zero saved for retirement and when he's 65 years old still be running with a bunch of 20somethings chasing young girls.

Are we talking about that Pope guy in the article about trails and hunters?

Real Winner wrote:

Are we talking about that Pope guy in the article about trails and hunters?

No, Pope doesn't hang out with anyone.

Real Winner wrote:

Are we talking about that Pope guy in the article about trails and hunters?

What you talking about Willis? Link to article please.