I just started dating this girl and it looks like it will be headed into the direction of a serious relationship. Is it bad to ask about her previous relationships or is it better not to judge them?
I just started dating this girl and it looks like it will be headed into the direction of a serious relationship. Is it bad to ask about her previous relationships or is it better not to judge them?
Just don't be wierd about it when it comes up. You already seem like you are, so stop that. Is there something you are afraid to find out? Is there something that if you did find out you would break it off? My suggestion is that it is inevitable that you will talk about this at some time, but judge the chick on YOUR experiences with her. That doesn't mean put the blinders on. Watch for warning signs, be attentive. I would tell you to "write that down" but it seems as if I already did if for you. Good luck.
It will probably come up eventually, but you said you "just started dating" her, so now is not the time for the conversation. Also, is there something she might have done in the past that would prohibit you from dating her? If so, you should wait until you've dated a bit longer and then ask her straight up about it. Otherwise, why does her past matter to you? True, you are dating her, and her past is part of her, but as long as it's not something like an STD that might come back and affect you I really wouldn't worry about it too much. Don't worry about living up to past standards, which is what it seems you might be worried about- if she likes you, she'll go out with you. Being paranoid about her past will only hinder your relationship. Good luck@