I'm upset with my husband and our running club

Running from Trouble wrote:

I’ve been married to my second husband for almost five years. We belong to a running group that is more about having beers together than actually running for fitness.

Some of the female members have taken a liking to him. One started sending him text messages, up to five times a day. He said he didn’t know how to tell her not to message him, even though she’d asked if they could share a tent on a group trip that I wasn’t going on.

Every fall our group has a campout. Some of the things that take place are just not for me. As soon as it gets dark, everybody takes all of their clothes off, stands around in a circle goofing around and comparing each other, and then goes for a short run naked. I worked the weekend of the campout and didn’t go. When he got back, I asked him if he had participated in the naked run. He had and he also won an activity that they do that involves running around naked with a trail of toilet paper that’s on fire stuck to your butt.

I was extremely hurt and felt like he disrespected our boundaries. Married men don’t have that kind of fun when their wife isn’t around and women who have expressed interest are. He blamed me for working so many hours. Then he told me that he’s looking into seeing a therapist because he doesn’t know why he keeps doing activities like this.

Am I just being difficult for not having any pity for him? How do we resolve this? Is this normal for a running club? I could use some Letsrun wisdom.

Running from Trouble wrote:

I’ve been married to my second husband for almost five years. We belong to a running group that is more about having beers together than actually running for fitness.

Some of the female members have taken a liking to him. One started sending him text messages, up to five times a day. He said he didn’t know how to tell her not to message him, even though she’d asked if they could share a tent on a group trip that I wasn’t going on.

Every fall our group has a campout. Some of the things that take place are just not for me. As soon as it gets dark, everybody takes all of their clothes off, stands around in a circle goofing around and comparing each other, and then goes for a short run naked. I worked the weekend of the campout and didn’t go. When he got back, I asked him if he had participated in the naked run. He had and he also won an activity that they do that involves running around naked with a trail of toilet paper that’s on fire stuck to your butt.

I was extremely hurt and felt like he disrespected our boundaries. Married men don’t have that kind of fun when their wife isn’t around and women who have expressed interest are. He blamed me for working so many hours. Then he told me that he’s looking into seeing a therapist because he doesn’t know why he keeps doing activities like this.

Am I just being difficult for not having any pity for him? How do we resolve this? Is this normal for a running club? I could use some Letsrun wisdom.

Running from Trouble wrote:

I’ve been married to my second husband for almost five years. We belong to a running group that is more about having beers together than actually running for fitness.

Some of the female members have taken a liking to him. One started sending him text messages, up to five times a day. He said he didn’t know how to tell her not to message him, even though she’d asked if they could share a tent on a group trip that I wasn’t going on.

Every fall our group has a campout. Some of the things that take place are just not for me. As soon as it gets dark, everybody takes all of their clothes off, stands around in a circle goofing around and comparing each other, and then goes for a short run naked. I worked the weekend of the campout and didn’t go. When he got back, I asked him if he had participated in the naked run. He had and he also won an activity that they do that involves running around naked with a trail of toilet paper that’s on fire stuck to your butt.

I was extremely hurt and felt like he disrespected our boundaries. Married men don’t have that kind of fun when their wife isn’t around and women who have expressed interest are. He blamed me for working so many hours. Then he told me that he’s looking into seeing a therapist because he doesn’t know why he keeps doing activities like this.

Am I just being difficult for not having any pity for him? How do we resolve this? Is this normal for a running club? I could use some Letsrun wisdom.

Running from Trouble wrote:

I’ve been married to my second husband for almost five years. We belong to a running group that is more about having beers together than actually running for fitness.

Some of the female members have taken a liking to him. One started sending him text messages, up to five times a day. He said he didn’t know how to tell her not to message him, even though she’d asked if they could share a tent on a group trip that I wasn’t going on.

Every fall our group has a campout. Some of the things that take place are just not for me. As soon as it gets dark, everybody takes all of their clothes off, stands around in a circle goofing around and comparing each other, and then goes for a short run naked. I worked the weekend of the campout and didn’t go. When he got back, I asked him if he had participated in the naked run. He had and he also won an activity that they do that involves running around naked with a trail of toilet paper that’s on fire stuck to your butt.

I was extremely hurt and felt like he disrespected our boundaries. Married men don’t have that kind of fun when their wife isn’t around and women who have expressed interest are. He blamed me for working so many hours. Then he told me that he’s looking into seeing a therapist because he doesn’t know why he keeps doing activities like this.

Am I just being difficult for not having any pity for him? How do we resolve this? Is this normal for a running club? I could use some Letsrun wisdom.

Running from Trouble wrote:

I’ve been married to my second husband for almost five years. We belong to a running group that is more about having beers together than actually running for fitness.

Some of the female members have taken a liking to him. One started sending him text messages, up to five times a day. He said he didn’t know how to tell her not to message him, even though she’d asked if they could share a tent on a group trip that I wasn’t going on.

Every fall our group has a campout. Some of the things that take place are just not for me. As soon as it gets dark, everybody takes all of their clothes off, stands around in a circle goofing around and comparing each other, and then goes for a short run naked. I worked the weekend of the campout and didn’t go. When he got back, I asked him if he had participated in the naked run. He had and he also won an activity that they do that involves running around naked with a trail of toilet paper that’s on fire stuck to your butt.

I was extremely hurt and felt like he disrespected our boundaries. Married men don’t have that kind of fun when their wife isn’t around and women who have expressed interest are. He blamed me for working so many hours. Then he told me that he’s looking into seeing a therapist because he doesn’t know why he keeps doing activities like this.

Am I just being difficult for not having any pity for him? How do we resolve this? Is this normal for a running club? I could use some Letsrun wisdom.