I need to end my relationship to move for a job... Am I being reasonable?

Yes you are reasonable.

Money or a girl. Easy choice.

But really, if she's the one you shouldn't even have to think about it.

She knew the score. You stated your goals clearly. Would she follow you? That is for her to figure out. I am in a similar situation, but we have an agreement to break it off if either of us moves.

You could marry her, then she could leave with you while you support her and her kid. Let me ask an uncomfortable but important question. Have you been shoplifting the pootie? I hope not. That would be a bad move, especially with a single mom. Can you imagine marrying her? If not, why did you shoplift the Pootie?

You don’t see it working so it’s gotta end. It sucks but that’s life. I’m going through a similar situation so I know how much it sucks

You're mid 30s dude. That's middle aged. You leave this girl and you might not ever find another one and you will just end up another bitter, sad LRC poster.

There are plenty of jobs out there.

Rookie.

Long, rambly post to say I have a gf, ok to drop her? She totally knew it was temporary.

Yes, you’re being reasonable, but you just need to put on your big boy pants and decide whether you value the woman you’re dating more than your immediate job opportunity.

It’s that simple, make a decision. Don’t use “but…but…we talked about it early on” as an excuse. You’ll break her heart regardless if you leave, and that’s just the cost of following this job offer. Welcome to being in an adult relationship.

Mid 30s and only now graduating with an MSc? This smells like total beta.

Only you can decide this. While it can be good to ask for advice, don't be swayed by other people!

I hope that it works out for you, whichever direction you choose to go in.

Got any photos of her?

You're not exactly split apart by wartime or a natural disaster. People move around for jobs all the time and take their relationships with them. And men (and it is only men) marry women from Thailand, the Filipines, etc all the time

You just don't sound very determined. Possibly that's why in your mid thirties you are only now graduating with a masters degree and not married. You sound directionless and ambivalent

I agree with the poster above.

This is good feedback. Thank you. I agree with some of what you said. However, if I moved away, it would very likely be to somewhere 6+ hours away, and my lady friend's entire family is in this area, her son was born here, and the kid's dad also lives here. So asking her to follow me is a pretty big deal that has a lot of consequences for other people too.

As for the mid 30s and just now getting an MS, that seems like a pretty random judgement. I have friends who finished their PhDs by age 29 who ended up with jobs making less than what I was making by age 26 with just a bachelors, and even with only a bachelor's and being in a field that isn't extremely lucrative (my undergrad degrees are not in data science), my net wealth puts me above the 85th percentile for my age bracket, so I'm doing okay. Income is only one metric of "success" in life also.

All that being said, I definitely do leave relationships easier than most. That is something I have reflected on.

What if she was willing to move? That is the question. Because if yes, they you're dumping her either way.