Let us be real here. Everyone should accept others and their sexuality for sure. But does having a male who is attracted to other males, for example, change the locker room scene at all? Please treat this subject with respect.
Let us be real here. Everyone should accept others and their sexuality for sure. But does having a male who is attracted to other males, for example, change the locker room scene at all? Please treat this subject with respect.
Let us be real here. Everyone should accept others and their sexuality for sure. But does having a male who is attracted to other males, for example, change the locker room scene at all? Please treat this subject with respect.
Surely you know it doesn’t. Having the same genitals as everyone else is not considered a threat even if they are attracted to their kind. Only the physically weaker sex is considered threatened by the presence of someone of the opposite sex in locker rooms, understandably because they are more vulnerable compared to all other combinations of co-occupancy.
Let us be real here. Everyone should accept others and their sexuality for sure. But does having a male who is attracted to other males, for example, change the locker room scene at all? Please treat this subject with respect.
Surely you know it doesn’t. Having the same genitals as everyone else is not considered a threat even if they are attracted to their kind. Only the physically weaker sex is considered threatened by the presence of someone of the opposite sex in locker rooms, understandably because they are more vulnerable compared to all other combinations of co-occupancy.
I am not talking about a threat. I just mean like did you act the same in the shower with the gay teammate or maybe you were a little quick to get out when he was in there?
?What do you mean? I experienced it as my post stated, that's how I know.
Well there could have been subtle alterations in terms of group dynamics which of course you might not have been attuned to but in general it sounds as if they were not seismic fluctuations in interaction. This is good news in terms of progress one would think.
This is back in late 80s and early 90s. There was one gay guy who basically lived in men's locker room at my college's gymnasium. A very creepy looking person. Read in a newspaper decades later that he was convicted of reckless manslaughter as a state trooper. He ran somebody over or something while in chase.
Surely you know it doesn’t. Having the same genitals as everyone else is not considered a threat even if they are attracted to their kind. Only the physically weaker sex is considered threatened by the presence of someone of the opposite sex in locker rooms, understandably because they are more vulnerable compared to all other combinations of co-occupancy.
So if the men's and women's locker rooms were divided by a transparent wall the women would be completely comfortable being naked since they are physically separated from the men? And aren't there varying degrees of physical strength within the male population with some men very strong and some men very weak?
To the OPs question, I've showered in locker rooms with gay men and it wasn't a problem for me. Been hit on in bars by men too with no problems. Perhaps because I was always pretty secure in my sexuality.
?What do you mean? I experienced it as my post stated, that's how I know.
Well there could have been subtle alterations in terms of group dynamics which of course you might not have been attuned to but in general it sounds as if they were not seismic fluctuations in interaction. This is good news in terms of progress one would think.
Absolutely it does. Anyone believing it doesn’t is delusional. But in this age, would anyone actually say something or will they just quietly skip showering?
Well there could have been subtle alterations in terms of group dynamics which of course you might not have been attuned to but in general it sounds as if they were not seismic fluctuations in interaction. This is good news in terms of progress one would think.
Absolutely it does. Anyone believing it doesn’t is delusional. But in this age, would anyone actually say something or will they just quietly skip showering?
But does having a male who is attracted to other males, for example, change the locker room scene at all? Please treat this subject with respect.
I played college soccer at a small D3 school. Nobody was "out" on the team for my first two seasons. During my junior year, one of the sophomores came out as gay. After that, the locker room experience got less gay, because the guys on the team wanted to be respectful to our teammate.
During my first two seasons (when everyone thought everyone was straight), the locker room had a lot of nudity with guys walking around completely naked (doing helicopters, dancing around naked, whipping each other with towels, etc.). Comments about penises and pubic hair occurred with some regularity. One upperclassman was known to comment "nice dick, bro" to freshmen in the showers as a form of mild hazing, to see how the freshman would react. It was kind of gay, in retrospect.
During my final two seasons (when we knew a teammate was gay), the locker room had less 'out there' nudity and was more respectful. Guys stopped running around completely naked and instead changed in front of their lockers, took towels to the showers, and didn't get up to any shenanigans in the showers. The locker room vibe felt like more of a "business as usual" vibe rather than a "rampant debauchery" vibe. It was cleaner too. It was a much better overall experience than my first two years.
I had a gay teammate back in the 80's and he was about as open as anyone was about such things back then.
If anything we were a bit defensive of him when others in school would say something. You run with people, you get to know them and the "threat" of it all fades away. So for me, not a big deal.
Surely you know it doesn’t. Having the same genitals as everyone else is not considered a threat even if they are attracted to their kind. Only the physically weaker sex is considered threatened by the presence of someone of the opposite sex in locker rooms, understandably because they are more vulnerable compared to all other combinations of co-occupancy.
I am not talking about a threat. I just mean like did you act the same in the shower with the gay teammate or maybe you were a little quick to get out when he was in there?
I don't understand this thought process. Do you think people are afraid the gay teammate will rape them in the shower? I just don't understand why anything would change. Personally, I'd walk around naked if we didn't have laws that say I can't. I don't care who sees me naked, men or women.
this is nothing new. had gay teammates back in the 70s; made no difference. Also, only the men's locker room had a sauna. Women athletes occasionally came over to use it at the same time we did. all naked. no big deal. I'm sure college athletes are more progressive now also.
Surely you know it doesn’t. Having the same genitals as everyone else is not considered a threat even if they are attracted to their kind. Only the physically weaker sex is considered threatened by the presence of someone of the opposite sex in locker rooms, understandably because they are more vulnerable compared to all other combinations of co-occupancy.
I am not talking about a threat. I just mean like did you act the same in the shower with the gay teammate or maybe you were a little quick to get out when he was in there?
I don’t feel any reason to act different in the locker room in the presence of someone I know is gay, but I can only imagine that they might internally feel something like how I would feel in a locker room in the presence of a lesbian, a person whose sex I’m attracted to but know that their sexuality makes them utterly uninterested in me, but I really can’t imagine it affecting my overt behavior in any way.
of course it would. As yourself would the dynamics change if the male and female team would be together in one locker room. the dynamics does not change because of different genitals but because there is sexual attraction.