Has anyone done this? What are the pros and cons?
Has anyone done this? What are the pros and cons?
runjm wrote:
Has anyone done this? What are the pros and cons?
nope, this is a totally original idea.
Well, speaking from experience I was married for a long time to a non runner and he totally did not get it, he was, to his credit quietly supportive of my racing throughout the marriage, however sadly it went belly up..
I ended up marrying my now coach and "training pony" and that has also been both great and challenging... Its very important to be knit together in the issues of life and what you believe..... Life is a journey, there is no greater joy than a true companion on that road, just my 2 cents worth :o)
Sarah wrote:
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I ended up marrying my now coach and "training pony" and that has also been both great and challenging...
Sarah Schwald and Peter Tegen are married???
You have the wrong Sarah..........
6packabs wrote:
Sarah wrote:W
I ended up marrying my now coach and "training pony" and that has also been both great and challenging...
Sarah Schwald and Peter Tegen are married???
I met my boyfriend from my cross country team my freshman year in high school. We'll be running in college together next year, too... it's great.
Pros:
they understand how crazy runners are
you have a lot to talk about
you can go on runs together
your friends are mostly all runners
you agree more on what to do for fun
Cons:
dont really have any... maybe competitiveness?? idk
but... all in all... I couldnt imagine not being with a runner anymore cus no one else understands my mind better.
I'd rather date a 6-6, 300 pound racist football player from Texas.
It's great because you can understand and support each other.
I can't really think of any cons.
dean moriarty wrote:
I'd rather date a 6-6, 300 pound racist football player from Texas.
Sounds deee lichous. Me too.
I'm dating a runner, and it's great! I say don't bother with non-runners, unless you can get them to start running.
jrm wrote:
It's great because you can understand and support each other.
I can't really think of any cons.
Yeah, I'm dating a runner and it's just the greatest thing ever! And she's the cutiest!
Hey Runner girl, you're looking pretty cutie!
Not as cute as you!
I have dated runners and non runners. I think it is important to date an athlete, but runner or non runner, there are far more important things than running in a relationship.
I've never dated a runner. It's not that I wouldn't date a runner but it's just never happened. Nobody in my family runs, except my junior high cousin, and none of my best friends have ever been runners. Sure, I was close with the team in high school and I chat with people on group runs and at races, chat with other high school coaches at meets and meetings but that's about the extent of hanging out. So, not dating a runner is not weird to me because I've never found myself spending the majority of my social time with other runners.
I've been with my boyfriend for two years and he is completely understanding and supportive. People sometimes seem to think nonrunners won't or don't understand their running. I don't find that to be true. My family, friends, and co-workers always ask about my running and races and occasionally come to watch. My family and boyfriend understand specific aspects of running, speedwork, tempo runs, long runs, etc. I can have a good conversation with them about running. If you are close with people and they care about you, they will hopefully be interested in what you're doing if you just share with them. Don't be a snob about running and don't assume they know nothing or everything. You'll probably have to teach some running concepts but that's just another way for them to get to know you. Plus, if someone has a passion in their life, they will understand even more.
For women, an added bonus is that a lot of guys out there appreciate a fit girl and will encourage you to keep it going for that reason alone, even though they might not say it that way. :)
That being said, I am definitely not against dating runners! Just sharing my experience...
My experience has been that runner girls often do not like to date runner guys. Part of this may be that most runner guys are fairly scrawny, and women tend to gravitate towards men who they feel can "protect" them, even though this may happen subconsciously (one of those evolutionary behavior things).
In addition to that, a lot of runner guys (but certainly not all of them) tend to be somewhat neurotic, which is an obvious turn off to most girls, and runner girls don't want someone as neurotic as they often tend to be themselves. Those types of girls need stability in their life to counter their running-related neuroses.
From a personal standpoint, I find myself much happier as a non-runner, as I now mostly lift and only occasionally go for jogs. I'm by no means fat, but have bulked up more and feel more comfortable around females as I no longer feel small and weak.
I don't mean to demean guys who run at all here, and obviously if you enjoy running, keep doing it. These are just my own personal observations.
I tried dating another runner. Didn't work out. Now I'm stricktly on a diet of fat, overweight football players who get blown out 100-6 in their last two games.
I am married to this runner chick, she wouldn't let me in the sack until I married her.
Sarah:
Do you ride this training pony and put it away wet?
been married to a Artisit for 17 years.... dating skinny tooth-pick, pscho running chicks was out of the question.