I never thought I would be asking the LetsRun message boards for insights on a topic like divorce, but here we go...
My wife and I have two elementary school aged kids and recently built a house together. After just a couple of months living in it, she claims to have never loved me, regrets marrying me, and wants a divorce. We've been together for 10 years and moved a couple of times. She claims to want to be civil, so I am pushing towards mediation but now she is stalling. She knows when we divorce, there is no way either of us can keep the house. I make about 73% of our combined income and the mortgage is in my name. She is not thinking this through because she wants to "share" the house and take turns living in it or her living in the basement for the short term. I need the space to heal and to move on and there is no way I want to continue to live under the same roof as her. I am concerned for the kids- we moved into a house they thought would be long term, but now it is going to most likely go. We've agreed on 50/50 for custody, but I'm concerned she's going to try to really hit me on child support now to retaliate for the house having to go. I honestly don't want the house and would love to downsize, especially with child support in my future.
Any insights on what I can do here? Who the hell is living with their ex after divorce? She clearly realizes she won't be able to afford a nice place to live on her own and is trying to delay. We've tried counseling, there is no going back now.