U of Colorado investigating running program over weight management program.

I think something has changed in North America. Many cultures totally and completely permit and accept discussion about one’s size.

You are too skinny, come eat or you have fattened up, is common language elsewhere.

personally, when I gain weight and someone points it out, I agree and care less about the comment.

should know whether your athlete can handle the discussion

Competitive running is OK if athlete, male or female, maintains energy through enough caloric intake (and maybe every NCAA team should be equipped with a registered dietitian to monitor and coach all athletes on the roster), but American football should really be banned. At least distance running (assuming healthy body maintained) is a sport that encourages lifelong physical activity for longevity and heart health etc. On the other hand, in American football, the players bash brains causing permanent damage and it’s disgusting. But because $ we support it. At least we don’t see over/under bets being made on cross country/track events (or at least I dont) . But thanks to major political lobbying from the gambling industry in the last 5 years or so, NCAA football and NCAA basketball now have these under/over gambling marks for DraftKings sports and other scumbag shtrigged games marketed to losers on the couch, and the same industry markets to these suckers to place bets on the worthless shtcoins (crypto) via companies like FTX (now bankrupt) and Coinbase.

Found the adult who cries at Disney movies.

You're on a website with the tagline "where dreams become reality" who crushed your dreams?

You should be glad my dreams haven’t become reality. Had a doosey myself last night.

this man gets it

You really can't see that there are different ways of saying and doing things, and where and how you say them, where one way would be abusive and harmful? Honestly? You are that thick? The issue isn't that everyone knows weight matters, this is no secret, the issue is how a coach/program goes about discussing that issue with the athlete. That you can't believe there is a way that a coach could possibly go about this issue in a way that is abusive is just the pinnacle of stupidity. Of course they can.

Note: I have no idea if this coach was abusive and I am not saying he was, that's what the investigation is for. I am just saying that outright denying that it is possible a coach was abusive is just dumb. You can absolutely psychological break down another human being with words.

This. I don’t know why some can’t understand this simple concept.

Sometimes you just have to say it— you aren’t fast enough, you aren’t small/big enough, you aren’t __________. It’s tough to swallow some times, especially if you were born after ~ 1990.

Frankly, if you care about your appearance too much then you need to check your values. If you are devastated about a comment on your personal superficial appearance then you need to check your values.

Do you want to live in a world were everyone is so soft and hyper-sensitive that you can't have basic common sense discussions?

the middle road is almost always the right way

Sure, you don't yell at a young woman and call her a fat pig (that's not evening happening so it's really a moot point). But you also don't want to drive into the other ditch where common sense is ignored. Be an adult. Have adult conversations.

Skobuffs is correct. I ran DI at a school where the men's and women's cross country and track teams shared the same coach. Only the women's team was weighed. Even worse, I found out from one of the guys that the coach would openly share the women's weight information with the men's team. Wrong on so many levels.