Dating opportunities for straight men are diminishing as ‘healthy relationship standards increase’

...but will you ever be a varsity athlete? ...

I never watched the Sopranos, so I don't exactly get the reference, but I will choose to take it as a compliment!

No, not 20, ideally you're looking for barely legal 18. In those two years from 18 to 20, odds a young woman may have gone from virgin to jaded/broken from miles of ****. No, you don't need money, you don't need a house, what you need is to put babies in her. As far as unrealistic, I managed it, and it should be everyman's "plan A," these guys talking about "You'll hit your stride in your 30s/40s or beyond, that's "plan C or D" at best.

They obviously had more looks, charm and talent than most of the incels here.

In reference to the cute woman you helped with her video camera system - did you follow-up with her on that Monday?

How about the two hot chicks that you changed the flat tire for - did you call or text either one of them & arrange a date?

I don't why you're so critical of the incel problem. There's a very concerning growing number of sexless young men with many of them already into their 30s! And not all of them are two-bit bums living in their parent's basement playing video games all day:

"Just Be First" theory, the instinctual strategy men have employed throughout history:

it's all about looks.

either the government pays for plastic surgery or they'll die virgins.

I don't even want to hear about therapy or employment: the reason they're virgins is they aren't good looking enough, so women don't want to sleep with them.

If they were good looking they would be having sex.

Unfortunately it won't happen.

The government will never help ugly men.

They might start a war so they can send ugly men to die.

It's going to be funny when ugly men realize only uggos were sent to war.

little question: what is going to happen when 70% of men realize they are a genetic dead end and will never have sex, a wife or children?

The goverment tried to tell men lies in the past 20 years (PUA Forums, red pill, MGTOW) but guess what? Men got older and realised it was all lie. All those anti-women discourse was COPE.

"Men get more attractive as they get older"

"Women lose value as they age"

"Women just care about money"

"Just be a nice person and you'll find a nice girl"

"Things will turn out fine soon"

"Focus on your career now, think about women later"

"40s are the new 20s"

"Women like dad bods"

"Women like when you show your sensitive side"

and so on and so forth.

I think I have the answer, but let's wait and see.

Of course appearance matters. But that’s clearly not your only problem. Your philosophy/outlook on life is also holding you back. Anyone who can off-the-cuff reference dozens of dumb “black pill” YouTube videos are demonstrating that they would have personality issues in connecting with women. It’s just more convenient to chalk it all up to physical attributes.

At my university there are more guys then girls and more guys got in then girls did, so your argument is pointless. The thing is the main and most obvious reason you are single is because of your personality, maybe work on that a little more then try again and reach out to girls. You have such Incel traits and tendencies that make girls want to run away from you. Change that and act like you don't care and you will eventually get the girl. Most guys don't even finish their degree and they drop out and quit before they finish compared to women, so it makes sense as to why more girls are earning college degrees and advancing further in life while guys are staying behind and wasting their time and energy.

It's interesting to me how seriously incel types take dating apps/online dating. I use Bumble, but really just consider it to be low-key fun. I chat with a few girls at a time. Most of the conversations fizzle out. Maybe once every other month or so I end up actually asking one of my matches out and grabbing drinks/coffee with her. Probably won't meet the love of my life on Bumble. Probably won't even end up in a longterm relationship from online dating. But it's a fun, low pressure way to meet people.

I swipe right on women I find to be very attractive. If any like me back and turn out to be reasonably normal human beings, great! If not, nothing lost. I look through the women who have liked me, and match with anyone I'm interested in. If all my likes this week are from girls I'm not into, again, nothing lost.

But Jebus, these incel types act like online dating is something to be taken SO seriously. Like signing up for Tinder/Bumble and NOT getting dates immediately is some kind of damn personal tragedy. First of all, if you're putting that much pressure on a social situation, you are almost certainly going to come across as desperate, creepy, weird, or all of the above. And anyway who wants to date the kind of guy who takes fun, lighthearted activities and turns them into miserable experiences. What will a weekend vacation be like with a guy who can't even swipe profiles on a silly app without becoming rageful/suicidal/self-loathing?

Hey dude...do you even comprehend anything I say? Let's try this again:

I'm an ultra-short, average-looking (at best) manlet (slang for a muscular, short guy trying to compensate by gym maxing). Newsflash: This does NOT attract Stacey's (slang for hot women). I attract overweight/obese unattractive women because guys like me are their backup plan & 2nd choice since they can't get any of the "Chads" - and they're not interested in overweight/obese guys that are similar to them. And of course, most of the Stacey's out there want the "Chads" as their first choice anyway. (geez...imagine that).

And if you think those black pill YouTube channels are "dumb - go set up a debate with one of them and see how far you get. Lol. They debate blue pillars like you all the time. The author of "48 laws of dating" will educate you very quickly (his YouTube channel is Smash TV) 😉

You stayed with the first girl you met when you were a teenager. Good for you but let's not pretend you employed any strategy to this 😂

A self deprecating sense of humor can be valuable in attracting women, but the fact that you call yourself a "manlet" is really telling here. You need to work on your self esteem. No doubt you are broadcasting your anxiety and self-loathing in a way that every woman you come into contact with immediately wants nothing to do with you. Work on that first. Then work on how to flirt and talk to women and make them laugh and see you for more than your height.

Letsrun posters generally do not make good partners because they do not respect women and gender expression, libertarian Trumpers, believe conspiracies, think they know more than public health authorities, and have very little $. So It is just best for society that they play with themselves

Judging from your posts, it’s entirely likely that your problem isn’t that you are short or ugly.
It is that you seem to enjoy this defeatist attitude. That because you aren’t attracting ‘hot’ women, it must be something you cannot fix.

Don’t know what to tell you. Seems like you find it easier to whine than to listen to the advice most of us have given you. 🤷‍♀️

Hey ADuck2022! Good to see you here! You’re branching out into relationship counceling?

No, I was in my twenties, she was younger, the way it is supposed to work. The idea is the lock down a virgin, or least experienced, best looking, youngest legal girl you can. A man gains experience, a woman gains mileage/baggage/damage. Otherwise, you're competing for the used leftovers.

Lolllll this is hilarious !
Most grown ass men I know are the damaged ones (incl myself in this) And that whole ‘virgin ideal’ is some funny ass Victorian stuff right here.