Had to be said.... wrote:
TrackCoach wrote:My daughter's coach texted her at night on a couple occasions......her coach was young and new to coaching and was super excited about my daughter's potential and the upcoming season.
Clearly she was (or still is) banging him.
Good job, pops.
Just to be clear, there were only a couple of texts on perhaps 2 or 3 occasions and he called her a couple of times as well. My daughter did have a very good relationship with this particular coach, but so did the other girls on the team. There was nothing secretive about it, the coach also spoke to me at night a couple of times. My daughter was involved in anther activity which prevented her from attending all of the track practices and he had her working out twice a week on her own and was just checking in on her workouts. My daughter was a member of a national caliber relay and he was just making sure his star athlete stayed in shape.
As a former coach, he reminded me of myself in my early years of H.S. coaching in that I was singularly focused on coaching and naïve about appearances and what other people thought. I would sometimes give jumpers and hurlers a ride home when they stayed late at practice late; I went on weekend long runs with certain athletes; I sometimes paid for spikes and meet entry fees; met with teachers about athlete's grades, tutored athletes and assisted with the recruiting process. I develops friendships with a few athletes and their parents, etc. We didn't text back then, but if we did I can myself texting an athlete in the evening if the situation required it. In my mind I was treating coaching the same way I treated being an athletes and that was doing everything I could to be successful. I kind of got away from some of that over time as I became more familiar with school rules and regulations and saw a couple situations were coaches got themselves in trouble for doing the same things. I am friends with some of my ex athletes to this very day because they say I cared about them as a person and not just an athlete. My H.S. coaching was a long time ago and I know things have changed, but I hope they have not changed to the point where a coach cannot befriend an athlete.
I believe 99% of coaches would never be inappropriate with an athlete. With that said, I think as a parent you need to be aware that the 1% exist and if something does not seem right with a coach/athlete relationship, you need to act. However, knowing the potential negative impact of wrongly accusing a young coach of something, my first course of action would not be to directly confront the AD, the coach or my daughter as some have suggested. I would get involved with the training and try to figure out what's going on and even secretly read my daughter's texts. If I determined the coach is being inappropriate, the truth is, the AD and his job would be the least of his worries.