my problem is that you still think that because you said the word to a white guy its not discriminatory.
it is.
its insulting to the white guy and its systemic racism. the fact you think racism only applies when you say it to the person or group involved seriously worries me. also noone else has called you out on it on this thread, which says a lot about endemic racism in the us.
So why do millions of black people say it to each other every day? And it’s on the radio in songs that have millions and even billions of listens?
Both context and intent of how I said it show zero direct discrimination or harassment.
Thats all I’m saying.
But still 100% im an idiot and likely the drunken shutting up of an indirect colleague is the core reason this got escalated.
I actually disagree with Iggy (but always appreciate the support) in that I’m in the wrong. I just don’t want it to get blown out of proportion and I get fired over it. A loud drunken interaction can’t be fireable…
So why do millions of black people say it to each other every day? And it’s on the radio in songs that have millions and even billions of listens?
Both context and intent of how I said it show zero direct discrimination or harassment.
Thats all I’m saying.
But still 100% im an idiot and likely the drunken shutting up of an indirect colleague is the core reason this got escalated.
I actually disagree with Iggy (but always appreciate the support) in that I’m in the wrong. I just don’t want it to get blown out of proportion and I get fired over it. A loud drunken interaction can’t be fireable…
I’d fire you because you have terrible judgement and are a compile liability. How could I ever trust you to be client-facing?
You are an idiot because you tried to be edgy and came off as a classless juvenile.
So why do millions of black people say it to each other every day? And it’s on the radio in songs that have millions and even billions of listens?
Are you drinking again?
No I associate this shame with it, still have a mild revulsion even almost 3 weeks later. Hopefully it lasts for a lifetime. Drinking is worthless after mid-20s anyway.
No I associate this shame with it, still have a mild revulsion even almost 3 weeks later. Hopefully it lasts for a lifetime. Drinking is worthless after mid-20s anyway.
So you can’t blame alcohol for writing, “So why do millions of black people say it to each other every day? And it’s on the radio in songs that have millions and even billions of listens?”
As someone sai earlier, this is just the OPs made up story as part of a demoralization campaign. That’s why he immediately ran to the mods and had that post removed. The whole thing is made up. Literally scripted. IN before he goes and complains - again - about someone telling the truth.
No I associate this shame with it, still have a mild revulsion even almost 3 weeks later. Hopefully it lasts for a lifetime. Drinking is worthless after mid-20s anyway.
So you can’t blame alcohol for writing, “So why do millions of black people say it to each other every day? And it’s on the radio in songs that have millions and even billions of listens?”
As someone sai earlier, this is just the OPs made up story as part of a demoralization campaign. That’s why he immediately ran to the mods and had that post removed. The whole thing is made up. Literally scripted. IN before he goes and complains - again - about someone telling the truth.
I noticed that too. That removed post said nothing wrong and it was pulled. What a whiner, and pulling that remark proves the OP’s story is bunk.
OP, how old are you? people go through phases like this in their 20s. maybe early 30s. it's not okay, but it happens. for those with a decent head on their shoulders, it's a massive wake up call to grow up. If you don't have a good head on your shoulders, and possibly have a drinking problem, you may continue to make stupid decisions.
the level of trouble you're in will probably have to do with how you made the particular people there feel. if somebody there was really offended and really wants you gone, there's a good chance you'll be looking for another job.
really tough spot to be in, but as others have pointed out, it's not the end of the world.
Time to grow up. Good luck.
Bro stop infatalizing this man. People go through phases like this in their 20s? No they dont
OP, how old are you? people go through phases like this in their 20s. maybe early 30s. it's not okay, but it happens. for those with a decent head on their shoulders, it's a massive wake up call to grow up. If you don't have a good head on your shoulders, and possibly have a drinking problem, you may continue to make stupid decisions.
the level of trouble you're in will probably have to do with how you made the particular people there feel. if somebody there was really offended and really wants you gone, there's a good chance you'll be looking for another job.
really tough spot to be in, but as others have pointed out, it's not the end of the world.
Time to grow up. Good luck.
Bro stop infatalizing this man. People go through phases like this in their 20s? No they dont
No I associate this shame with it, still have a mild revulsion even almost 3 weeks later. Hopefully it lasts for a lifetime. Drinking is worthless after mid-20s anyway.
It was worthless even before in that it’s not necessary for enjoying life at any age. It’s also not harmful in moderation, in youth or later in life.
An event was hosted by another consulting company from 5:30-7:30.
They were basically feeding us free drinks.
I stayed until almost midnight and an MD was there. Drank way too much.
To 1-2 guys on the side a bit before, I said "yo yo ni****a" jokingly once or twice and "that asian b***" when referring about a girl who was no longer there who kept getting us drinks. None of this was pointed at anybody, and they were white. But they were like "what are you saying..."
Then at the end, the one guy cuts me off in front of the MD saying i should go home because i'm drunk. And i respond super loud and tell him to stfu and let me give my opinion.
So now they opened up something with HR.
How screwed am I? I've apologized to all involved, and i'm fairly important for my team but not indispensible obv. Worked at the company for 6 years.
Basically never drinking again.
I can't believe that garbage moronic stories like this aren't immediately deleted.
No I associate this shame with it, still have a mild revulsion even almost 3 weeks later. Hopefully it lasts for a lifetime. Drinking is worthless after mid-20s anyway.
It was worthless even before in that it’s not necessary for enjoying life at any age. It’s also not harmful in moderation, in youth or later in life.
I do agree actually. It’s just in college so many funny stories and socializing because of it. Like a shared bond. Then it’s all downhill from there. Now it’s just a huge life trap. Which I partially fell into and can hopefully get out of.
As someone sai earlier, this is just the OPs made up story as part of a demoralization campaign. That’s why he immediately ran to the mods and had that post removed. The whole thing is made up. Literally scripted. IN before he goes and complains - again - about someone telling the truth.
I noticed that too. That removed post said nothing wrong and it was pulled. What a whiner, and pulling that remark proves the OP’s story is bunk.
lol I literally wish so much it was a fake troll attempt. No clue what mods are deleting but I’m sure for a decent reason.
I’m just glad they let it up and some people can give me perspective and advice.
You'll cave and start drinking again to be social.
You should probably go into manual labor.
Yeah huge risk, basically I can’t do that. 98% of situations I’m fine but can’t let one like this happen again. Best solution is likely to blanket not drink at all. My GF doesn’t drink at all.