Have you ever seen someone blow up their life for no apparent reason? What happened?

toozy wrote:

Fghjbvcxf wrote:

My beloved brother. Three years into an Engineering major with excellent grades and great internship decided he didn’t want to end up like the stiffs working in the company he was interning for. He quit school and started his own landscaping business which failed and left him owing money. He still had computer skills that got him jobs here and there but he was never happy doing that either. He complained about how stupid his supervisors were, wherever he worked, eventually shut himself off from family and friends (mad at the unfair world), and eventually drank himself to death, in debt and living in horrible living conditions.

He had everything going for him except had one basic flaw: too idealistic about how he expected his life to go.

It’s idealistic until you succeed. My classmate did the same and now he’s the co-founder of a 9 figure company.

joalturn wrote:

My former best friend may fall into this category.

We became close while in the army. He had some troubles with marijuana prior to joining. No run ins with the law, just smoked too much and became lazy/unmotivated. He decided to join up to turn his life around.

When we got out we talked about dabbling in smoking weed a little bit. It took a while, but he finally scored some skunk weed. We smoked one night, and it was super fun. I left and went back to my normal life, while he was just embarking on his journey back into that world.

Over the course of 3 years he began to smoke more and more to cope with the stresses of school (we were both in nursing school at the time) and the stresses of the COVID lockdown world. He eventually failed out of nursing school 2 times and was at a dead end of sorts. He worked a job as a security guard in an assisted living facility and spent the rest of his timing lighting up and focusing on his own “grow” operation.

Things took a turn when I mentioned a small research project I did on the effects of psilocybin on depression. He took it upon himself to begin to grow his own shrooms and experiment with their effects on himself. He influenced his then girlfriend to do the same.

So one random night in September 2021, both of them were tripping on shrooms and watching TV. His GF turns to him and says they should move to Hawaii. And that was just what he needed to hear.

In the course of 4 months they ended up having a backyard wedding, selling their home, buying a home on the big island of Hawaii, and using the profit from their house to ship all of their belongings and vehicles to Hawaii in January of 2022. They moved there with no jobs lined up and no real clue of what they would do when they got there. He eventually gets a job in a chocolate factory and begins to slowly but surely break off all communication with everyone he knew back on the mainland.

The last time I spoke to him was September of last year. I have no clue if it’s going amazingly, or if they’ve fallen back into their old habits. But they definitely hit the reset button hard on life and never thought of turning back.

And in case you were wondering, he landed a 100% VA disability pension when he got out of the Army, which has allowed him to financially do all of these crazy things that other people would be unable to do otherwise. I believe he gets $3500 tax free every month, which must be enough when combined with whatever he makes at his factory job and with whatever his wife brings in.

NotSoBitterEx wrote:

My ex-wife got into “modeling” when we had two young kids. She told me that she landed a role in a movie and needed to go to LA for a few months (we lived in South Carolina at the time). She asked me to rent a place for her because it would be cheaper than a hotel for that duration. When she moved there, her construction worker boyfriend followed and left me in my house with my two kids.

Because I was very suspicious of her modeling, I was already talking to a divorce lawyer. Once she was settled into her LA life, I filed for divorce and won all kinds of stuff in ex parte hearings like exclusive use of the house and temporary full custody of the kids. South Carolina laws were very favorable to me in the divorce.

Anyway, during the divorce Mr. Construction worker got her pregnant. After our divorce was finalized, she married him. About 6 months into their marriage he broke his back on the job and got permanent disability. In the aftermath of the accident, they both became addicted to pain killers. Eventually they got busted and they lost custody of their child. And then divorced.

Last I heard, she is working as a live-in maid for rich old person.

Had she stayed with me she would have never worked a day in her life. Had she been smart enough to hide her affair and divorce me like a normal person, I am sure she still would have never had to work a day in her life.