Brah, it's Locktober - lock the little guy up for the month
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Good luck to anyone who is struggling with this.
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I only overcame (no pun intended) it when I entered a relationship. I'm trying to phrase this so my comment doesn't get removed: even if it's less frequent, it's far more enjoyable to 'do it' only a few times per week than do it >2x daily into my hand.
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I’d like to get off it myself, but the urge is STRONG. It’s really best to just not start in the first place
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Very callous post from someone who has never struggled with addiction or doesn’t think it’s a problem. You have to walk a mile man.
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I've tried and was unsuccessful so I turned to cottaging.
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CartmanBrah wrote:
Two questions come to mind...
1 - How old are you?
2 - Do you practice a conservative religion, particularly Mormonism?
At one point, I thought I was addicted to porn. I was raised Mormon and growing up I heard over and over again how evil and terrible porn is. The leaders in LDS General Conference harped on it incessantly.
I remember when I was 19, a counselor from LDS family health services told me I had a porn addiction. I believed him even though I hadn't even seen a naked woman. All my "porn" had been SI Swimsuit, Victoria's Secret, and other similar material. I was a virgin until 23 years old.
Throughout my young life, my struggle with "porn" no doubt destroyed my confidence and my opinion of myself. How could I be worthy to serve a mission or date a woman?
I truly believed that porn would eventually turn me into a serial adulterer, rapist, and pedophile if I didn't overcome it for good.
As I got older, I eventually left the church and decided to quit worrying about porn. I still used it sometimes, but not compulsively or at the expense of other things (Which I never did anyway. But when it comes to porn and Mormonism, there is no difference between use and abuse.) I attribute the change to getting older and therefore less horny, and getting away from a belief system that contributed to my feelings of guilt, shame, and despair. The religion was the driving force behind the "problem".
Today, I still use porn. But just enough to get my jollies when I feel like I need to. Maybe 10 minutes, and then the interest is gone.
For the record, I'm single and live by myself in an area with very few women so dating is hard.
I see porn as a tool. Just like caffeine to stay awake on a drive, or a half dose of tylenol pm if I can't sleep. And not all porn is garbage. Some is very elegant and tasteful.
Hopefully this helps you or someone else. Not saying I have the answers, just sharing my experience. Good luck.
Except for the Mormon experience you sound a lot like me except I was a virgin for a much longer time.
What scares me the most about what you think is that you are from a small community where their are not many women. That makes me think that your use of porn will continue to grow. I made a promise to my creator that I would never pay for porn, and so far that might have saved me a little bit. But other than that my use of porn has gotten worse. It's not like other addictions where you need more and more. What you need is an increase in variety to get off.
Use that for what it's worth, I have not solved my problem either at this point. I read the bible a lot and say my prays A LOT! It's a serious time-waster...porn.
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Each day without succumbing to addiction is a victory. You're not alone in this, and with determination and the right support, you can overcome it and lead a more fulfilling life.
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you need to realise how pointless it is and how disturbing the industry is in order to overcome it
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If people can easily get addicted to running why should we be surprised they can get addicted to anything?
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Armstronglivs wrote:
If people can easily get addicted to running why should we be surprised they can get addicted to anything?
Hey Buddy, wanna know how I get out of PORN myself?!!!
You guessed it right man, you should know me by now man......
I don't need to open my mouth or write one word and the whole LRC should telepathically know what my go-to fix is by default.
With me, the solution is so one-track pony and one size fits all because it truly is!!
Till today, I'm still amazed at how I kicked PORN as a male man, and, in complete opposite to the way Nick Willis did it!
Nick Willis did it the public or open way, throwing himself under the bus and allowing people to look and think of him with negative vibe/thought. He then sacrifices his 'good boy' reputation in order to exchange it for motivation to withstand the strong sexual urges for porn.
This is a cowardice method in my opinion. A real masculine man with enough steel and iron in him doesn't need to exchange this for that, doesn't need to bargain with himself to get out of porn.
The way I, a real masculine man did it was one day I learnt from my electrohypersensitive counterpart that anthropogenic RFs and EMFs were really bad for the brain's alpha waves which regulate dopamine, serotonin, basically all the feel-good neurotransmitters and hormones (pineal gland). At a time when I was madly in love with porn he revealed to me this piece of information which shocked me to the core at that time as I was working for Vodafone a telecommunication RF company.
I was like 'what the heck'? Is this even real like I had been killing so many folks for decades and giving/catalyzing them heart attacks, diabetes and cancers??? I started reading up on how to reverse the damage or at least mitigate it by a lot, both for myself and for my parents and siblings whom I love dearly. I wanted to protect them and myself.
I began with just 1 first step, the simplest and easiest. I stopped using WiFi at home. I started wiring up my internet to every electronic terminal whether cellphone or laptop computer. Anything that runs on wireless I had it decommissioned and switched to wired mode. If I couldn't decommission it I would replace that device with one that could be wired up instead. No bluetooth earpieces for me which I see many LRCers including Rojo love using them on podcasts. That's a BIG NO NO for me!!! Messes up brain's alpha waves cumulatively that is. Repetition is not training, repetition is cumulative destruction in the respect of anthropogenic RF and EMFs.
After a while, perhaps about 2 weeks, I suddenly remembered I hadn't masturbated myself for that long (1 week that is) when I would do it at least once a day or once every 2 or 3 days. This was a pleasant surprise for me. I was wondering how the heck on earth I had lost the ability or the urge to wanna 1) masturbate, 2) watch porn???
In my mind I was like what's going on with me, am I still a man, do I still desire a woman? Am I turning gay or something???? Why was I no longer not feeling the same desire for porn and the women having sex in them???
At that point in time this loss of desire for porn and for masturbating to porn coincided in sequential space-time with the wiring up of all my internet needs and those of my parents and siblings. I was like "is WiFi really so frigging darn powerful'................
Nevermind, I started looking for causes in my behaviors and grew more conscious of my own brain/mind and the thoughts that were running around it from day to day. I decided to try an experiment and unwire everything to revert back to a state of WiFi internet. I changed nothing else outside my home at the workplace or on the roads/streets of society. I only did any changes to my anthropogenic RF and EMF exposure that concerned just my own home in space-time.
Almost immediately the strong urge to 1) have sex with a woman, any woman, 2) masturbate myself and give myself pleasure, 3) watch pornography and masturbate to it came back like the force of gravity. As you know, gravity can only pull you downwards so you can only spiral down, not up. Similarly, my strong urge for sex, porn, women also spiraled uncontrollably that I began masturbating in just 24 hours when I had not only not masturbated for 2 weeks (350 hours) but actually FORGOTTEN to masturbate or watch porn altogether! There was just no inkling or remembrance of masturbation, sex, porn, women in my mind at all for 2 weeks without WiFi exposure but it all came back in 1 day upon WiFi reconnection!!!
I didn't need to go public, confess to my family/wife/kids/counsellors/friends, I just switched off the WiFi and reconnect the Wired one again, and for goodness sake I also decommissioned the use of 4G cellular data or at least use it only in emergencies and my urge for sex, women, masturbation, porn just disappeared without a trace. I also turn off my breakers to ration 50Hz electricity usage. If I was ever having sex in my life, I know it will never be because I sought pleasure but rather because I would want to have a child with a woman whom I'm properly married to!
My brain's alpha waves just regained so much vitality, energy and self-control that it's impossible for me to 'let loose' to seek pleasure because I'm always in a state of pleasure as long as my brain's alpha waves are not interfered with by anthropogenic RF and EMFs.
I'm no Nick Willis, I'm Khamis the RF King with an RF solution. Nick Willis is very vulnerable to a relapse whereas I Khamis am not. My brain's alpha waves are so energetic and vitally oscillating in pleasure in space-time that I can go online now to watch a bunch of porn and be rather fatigued and de-vitalize by it rather than pleasured. Since my brain now knows true pleasure (no anthropogenic RFs and EMFs) it therefore rejects fake pleasure (porn sex, porn women etc) and this is why even if I watched a bunch of porn now I'm UNREACTIVE to it like an inert gas or helium atom!
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Agree. But guess what, it's not enough catalyst for any man hooked on porn still. There is a far more prophetic oh-so-divinely-powerful and ground-breaking yet easy as ABC solution known as the RF and EMF solution!
Just take care of your RF and EMF exposures and you actually are all set for life, for everything and anything. If you wanna break the 1500m WR of 3:26, you are all set. If you wanna climb Mount Everest without oxygen tank you are also all set. Your mind and body becomes a genie once you know how to control your frequency, energy and oscillation environmentally, not mentally/psychologically/psychiatrically. Let the environment do it for you, not your mind.
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There is only 1 way to do it and it's my (God's) way.
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You should DM me, I have what it takes to solve all your brain's problems. I'm a freak of nature in this regard backed by lots of science and religion too. What I have is END-GAME! Nothing beats it...
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I don't think I was ever addicted to porn but I did consume more than I was happy with. What did it for me was to restrict the kind of porn I looked at. I just made it a rule that I'm not ever going to watch porn with a dude in it. I'm a heterosexual guy btw. If I ever watch porn now it's just solo ladies. I like to look at their bodies and stuff. Just ramping down the intensity of the porn like that made a big difference for me. Then I found I don't even need that really.
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CopperRunner wrote:
Addicted2prn wrote:
I’m struggling with a porn addiction brought on by other stressors in my life. It’s like a coping mechanism. I just spend way too much time being horny or jerking off. This is not a troll post, it’s a serious cry for help. I need to put an end to this. It’s affecting my romantic endeavors.
Hopefully this isn’t too vulgar for the message board… I just think it’s a subject worth discussing.
Nick Willis feel free to chime in. That was a obviously joke but like I said this is a serious post and I will appreciate all responses.
Hey man. I feel somewhat vulnerable because I’m using my registered handle but it’s to show I’m being serious.
Porn addiction stems from loneliness, at least in my experience. What helped me most was getting busy, making friends, and trying to get out on dates and meeting real women. When it got worst for me was when I was depressed and in my room all day.
Its okay to masturbate, it’s healthy even, but avoid doing it to porn. It’s hard and easy to be ashamed of but it’s really normal and really common for males. This is a step in the right direction man. Even if you just limit yourself to porn once a day it’ll make a big difference. At least at that point it’s not eating your mind and life up.
Even instagram thots are better than porn. THat's not exactly a high bar, but still.
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