If the texts are private--if they're not group texts addressed to the entire team--then there is a problem.
If the texts are private--if they're not group texts addressed to the entire team--then there is a problem.
All I know is that when I am in an official leadership capacity over a group of people, the last thing that I want them to have is my cell phone number. Just leave me alone, minions.
Tell coach to start crushing on that new science teacher or somebody and stop texting your daughter.
We need 2 be reasonable wrote:
that runner 5 wrote:why? coaches and athletes can be friends. Coaches are role models and leaders to their athletes. Good coaches reach out to there athletes and get to know them. I wouldn't want a coach who only talks about the sport....that would suck!
True but you can be professional about it. Friends? Just like parenting or a co-worker, you have to separate the two in order to do your job appropriately.
This is part of the issue at hand. It's cool to say "be a parent, not a friend" or "be a coach, not a friend" or fill in the blank "be a ...... not a friend", but guess who we talk to about real things happening in our lives? That's right folks, our FRIENDS. You want your daughter to stop texting this guy you don't know? Try being her friend and maybe she'll talk to you about what's important in her life.
She's already born, the father part is done.
I'm a coach of adults and high school kids, but those I coach best consider me a friend and vice-versa. If you are coaching someone and they don't consider you a friend, you probably aren't coaching them as well as you could because you simply don't know them well enough.
Of course, if you think coaching is all about designing super top secret sciency workouts, you won't understand this.
Coaching, just like running, is a dangerous game if you want to be really good at it. You have to be right on the edge of what's considered "too close" as a coach, just like you have to be right on the edge of running enough volume that you're close to cracking.
If you want to be good, but not great, have no communication with your athletes outside of practice if you're a coach and don't ever run more than 70 miles a week if you're a runner. Everyone will pat you on the back for a job well done, but you'll never be the best.
"It's Ok. it's just my math teacher texting me at 10 PM again, to tell me what a good job I did in geometry class today."
Lester Diamond wrote:
"It's Ok. it's just my math teacher texting me at 10 PM again, to tell me what a good job I did in geometry class today."
Is he into "pegging"?
Dang this sounds exactly like our coach and there is a girl on the team that age who is the 3 runner. And her parents are divorced. I dont want to name names but listen - the coach is not chasing around any high school girls. And that girl is on the prowl. If she has his number she is probably texting him a lot asking about running but really just trying to flirt. No way the coach is going to fall into that. He is a good looking dude that has plenty of personality to get a hot girl who is his age.
Just a follow-up to my original reply
I somewhat took defense because I know I have no interest in my team outside of their development as young men & women and as athletes. I looked at the recent non group text messages that I have received from the Incoming team. Twenty six (26) were pertaining to required paperwork and deadlines submitting. Five (5) we're about clarification of the summer training schedule. Four (4) we're about injuries that they had received over the summer. Three (3) had to do with the projected race schedule. Two (2) we're about conflicts between practices and class schedules. Two (2) we're about walking on to the team. One (1) was about early return ing.dste. One (1) was about financial aid. One (1) was about roommate selection. One (1) was about a wedding that they wanted to attend on the weekend of a meet. In my decades of coaching I have only had a few issues with the athletes getting too personal. In each case I put an immediate stop to those lines of questions. I realize this can be a very touching subject, but I think that in the vast majority (99.9%) of the time my fellow coaches are professional and have an honest interest in the athletes.
Well, I'm so glad you're "friends" with all your adult and high school kids, I'm sure you have all the social media outlets to prove it too. Do you want a medal for advertising "I'm friends with my athletes because they can relate to me!" ?Whatever. You can accomplish the same type of relationship with any athlete by actually doing YOUR job by coaching, acknowledging, foreseeing and encouraging their needs and guidance by actively treating each of them as individuals.
This thread reached a point multiple pages ago where it is now useless without further input from the legitimate OP. Hopefully he returns, but most likely it was just a 10/10 troll.
Vladimir wrote:
I think that in the vast majority (99.9%) of the time my fellow coaches are professional and have an honest interest in the athletes.
One out of twenty men in the US are known to be pedophiles, and the percentage of those working with kids is likely to be higher. You should know of this danger already, and the fact that you speak up for fellow coaches you don't know is absurd.
Questionable statements wrote:
Vladimir wrote:I think that in the vast majority (99.9%) of the time my fellow coaches are professional and have an honest interest in the athletes.
One out of twenty men in the US are known to be pedophiles, and the percentage of those working with kids is likely to be higher. You should know of this danger already, and the fact that you speak up for fellow coaches you don't know is absurd.
when should we take a pedarest day then
Your daughter's XC coach has the:
Rater wrote:
Dad Concerned wrote:I have a very good feeling that what is being sent is IN MY OPINION, inappropriate. I really don't want to go into details, but I got a glance of what I thought was a pic he sent of himself shirtless. I am not 100% certain, but I swear that's what I saw
3/10. Actual OP gets an 8/10.
over generous. 2nd post is LAME.
10/10 +1,000 for the subtle xoxohth reference. Brilliant work, OP
is she cute
be a man wrote:
It sounds like your daughter lacks a strong male figure in her life, and is reaching out to her coach to fill that role. Just be more of a man and the texts will stop.
Hilariously bad advice! Ask internet. Get bad advice. Good troll!
Questionable statements wrote:
Vladimir wrote:I think that in the vast majority (99.9%) of the time my fellow coaches are professional and have an honest interest in the athletes.
One out of twenty men in the US are known to be pedophiles, and the percentage of those working with kids is likely to be higher. You should know of this danger already, and the fact that you speak up for fellow coaches you don't know is absurd.
I don't think you know what a pedophile is.
be a man wrote:
It sounds like your daughter lacks a strong male figure in her life, and is reaching out to her coach to fill that role. Just be more of a man and the texts will stop.
LETSRUN never disappoints.
Yeah, stop that. Saw this happen at a private school in Raleigh, NC. The coach had confided in me some comments about "wait till that girl grows up" kind of comments, I saw him drive drunk (not a team bus, just on his own) and he just seemed slimy, but at other times respectable. I decided to not come back on as an assistant coach. The next year, he was fired for inappropriate behavior and was taken to court. All of the private school kids showed up to his trial supporting him - I saw it as typical victim blaming. The girl was in HS! He was a respected teacher and a coach! They found emails on his computer to her and texts, and he was claimed to be seen in the hall with her standing in between in legs while she was sitting on a raised ledge.... Point is: there's nothing good coming out of texting your athletes, boys or girls. Keep it professional, and for god's sake, don't say things about your female athletes' appearance! what a slime ball.
Questionable statements wrote:
One out of twenty men in the US are known to be pedophiles, and the percentage of those working with kids is likely to be higher. You should know of this danger already, and the fact that you speak up for fellow coaches you don't know is absurd.
Read a book for once wrote:
I don't think
you know what a pedophile is.
Both of those statements are correct.
