Wife desires to relocate. I really don't. What would you do?

What a twatt.

And she's problematic too.

All kidding aside, if that promotion isn't in writing it can't be trusted. Heck, I have a contract with certain assurances and I am not even sure I trust that.

“Why do people consider Letsrun to be toxic?”

From experience, living in the middle was it the right option for our family. We liked living in our walkable/runnable neighborhood but the middle requires that we spent all of that running in time stuck in traffic. The people that lived in the middle were not our people either.

In the end one of us took the long commute and we stayed in our neighborhood. Prioritize living where you like to live.

wordle king wrote:

From experience, living in the middle was it the right option for our family. We liked living in our walkable/runnable neighborhood but the middle requires that we spent all of that running in time stuck in traffic. The people that lived in the middle were not our people either.

In the end one of us took the long commute and we stayed in our neighborhood. Prioritize living where you like to live.

I would advocate for this as well. I'm not understanding why people need to be so centered on one town and not willing to compromise. What is with people never wanting to leave their hometown and not experiencing the world or at least another community? It's just weird.

Why would you ever drag someone you love to a town or place that will make them unhappy? I think there is huge difference in moving someone to a vibrant community with lots to do vs. bringing them to the middle of nowhere. I understand and agree with moving to a place with a lot of opportunity, I do not understand bringing someone to a place that is almost off the grid.

If the wife was begging to move to another metro area, I would say that she has a point worth seriously considering. But dragging a guy on the up with this career to a rural area is not good. I don't care if he will be working remotely from that area, he's still out of range to network with people in his profession.

Living in the middle is NOT the answer. Who TF commutes anywhere anymore, post-COVID? Those saying "an hour to work is normal, or not bad" clearly do not like spending time with their families. Commuting at all is terrible; walk to work if you can in the metro, 10 minute drive MAX (I used to complain about the 10 minute drive, now I work remote - like EVERYONE else I know).

Also, schools don't matter for a 6 year-old - this should not be a factor.

Depends on how far up the school discrepancy goes. If its A+ vs B- all the way up to 12 then schools do matter. Also it shouldn't be about the money at all. Each of you makes more than enough for a comfortable life.

Supporting your wife shouldn't require that you make yourself miserable. IMO, the fact that you really don't want to move to her hometown should be the end of the conversation. Furthermore, your wife's long-time employer attempting to get her to move without first giving her a promotion is not just a red flag, but flat-out unethical and insulting. If she's looking for a new phase in her career, she should quit and find a better employer who does offer upward mobility. The jobs market is booming these days.