As for your last point: I didn't assume that you were male. In fact, I realized that you could be male or female. I used the word "he" because, in the English language, it has traditionally been an acceptable pronoun for a person whose gender is unknown. Perhaps you disapprove. If so, feel free to call your local lexicographer to complain. (I also realized after I wrote the message that I could have reworded it pretty easily to make it more gender-neutral, but I'm not aware of any way to edit messages that have already been posted.)
As for the other points:
"It actually does follow, as a matter of fact, that if the same number qualify, then the two standards are equally soft, at least in the statistical definition."
A statistical definition of "soft"? I'd love to see that, especially the part that defines "softness" by the number of people on one side of a vertical line on any distribution curve. I think most of us understand the general considerations that go into judging a standard to be soft, and while one can reasonably debate comparisons of various standards, I don't think that there's much debate among knowledgeable observers that a 2:22 for a male runner is a tougher standard than a 2:47 for a female runner. I also don't think I'm going to get you to concede that, and you're not going to get me to concede otherwise, so I don't see much value in discussing that further.
"if you increase the number of 2:40, it does not necessarily (or logically) mean that you will increase the number of 2:30 women."
Of course not. I never said otherwise. It's a purely empirical point as to whether a more stringent qualifying standard will lead to more performances that exceed that qualifying standard or some superior level of performance. And it would obviously not be correct to say that any more stringent qualifying standard would produce more performances at a superior level of performance.
"Lastly, for someone who got his underwear in a wad over having his motivations questioned and being labeled a hater, I ask you to consider why you attempted to 'guess' the motivations of the 2:19-2:29 men in their argument to keep a B standard."
What I said was that 2:19-2:29 men were "hardly a disinterested group." That was a correct statement. But if a 2:25 marathoner joined the discussion to argue for maintaining a more lenient standard, I believe that the most civil and fruitful response would deal with the merits of his arguments rather than calling him a "hater" (of faster runners or people who set high standards, I guess) or "angry" or "bitter" or whatever other psychological state I might choose to ascribe to him. I don't think that it would be a stretch to guess that you're angry at me, and I suppose I could label you a "hater," or accuse you of getting "your underwear in a wad," or speculate about how fast you run a marathon and tell you to "grow a pair" and train harder, but I believe it's more civil and fruitful to discuss the merits of your arguments than to talk about your motives for making them and perhaps believing them.