I'm not married to my partner of 10 years, so I guess our 2-year-old is screwed...the way these "studies" repeatedly confuse correlation and causation is infuriating.
There is a substantial portion of the population (majority?) that is unable to distinguish between two concepts:
Thanks for the insightful posts. Every situation has its own issues and some cannot be overcome.
Divorce and single parents can be hard on kids, especially if money is tight, but if they get encouragement, love, they can be OK. It is the kids who are not wanted that really suffer badly. This can be true in a married family or a single parent family.
My parents divorced when I was 2, by bro was 5. We had a childhood with a teacher mom who worked a lot so we had lots of unsupervised time to get into trouble and she did not make much money so we had only the necessities in life. There were a lot of rough times. We only saw my dad a few times a year, and though I know he loved us, he was not mentally ready to be a father after Vietnam. He became a bigger presence as we got older. Fortunately, my mom encouraged education and my bro and I got college degrees and do fairly well in life. But we had no good model of what a healthy marriage is, even when both parents got remarried.
My bro got married young (23) and had 3 kids. I saw his wife browbeat him often and it was much worse at home. She refused to sleep in the same bed and racked up 10s of thousands on credit cards in his name that he did not know about, then filed for divorce while he was on a business trip. I think he had basically refused to confront the problems of their marriage. The kids ended up with a much less toxic home. The bro is remarried and happy and his kids are mostly undamaged, with a few cracks showing now and then.
I had a live-in relationship with a woman (my early 20s) who would quit jobs on a whim and assumed that I would cover all costs while she did whatever. We were great friends, but eventually I couldn't take the instability and fighting (I was often angry) anymore. I am now married and sometimes have trouble having healthy confrontations, but I respect and love her and she is patient with me. I try to show my kids I love them every day.
"Almost half of all babies born in the U.S. were born to unmarried women in 2019, a dramatic increase since 1960, when only 5% of births were to unmarried mothers."
I don't believe this. In 1960 I bet a lot more unmarrieds went unrecorded....a lot.
"Almost half of all babies born in the U.S. were born to unmarried women in 2019, a dramatic increase since 1960, when only 5% of births were to unmarried mothers.
...data shows that the odds of graduating from high school, getting a college degree and having high earnings in adulthood are substantially lower for children who grow up in single-mother homes.
Kearney is especially worried about boys falling behind and no role models around them."
makes sense. who would ever want a letsrunner for a dad!??
Look here, dear friend, not married and having children is a great sin in God's eyes. Not sure if you have enough spiritual quotient or lack of mental illness to comprehend that or something?
Don't forget that the conservatives in our country want to legally force single motherhood on women. They will restrict contraceptives next if allowed to stay in power and also continue to ignore male moral and fiscal responsibility for impregnations.
Out of wedlock birth rates were far lower before Roe and before widespread availability of contraceptives. Back then, there was community pressure to get married if a woman became pregnant (now we are confused about what a woman is), people had fewer sexual partners and there was a stigma surrounding being born out of wedlock. The current out of wedlock birth rate has huge economic repercussions and will continue to fuel the divide between the haves and the have nots. Republicans didn’t create this crisis. Democrats did with their free love, free drugs, imagine there’s no heaven or religion philosophies and policies.
Yes by all means lets force women toget married against their will. That will certainly solve everything.
Also nice job adding some homophobia into your useless boomer rant
Look here, dear friend, not married and having children is a great sin in God's eyes. Not sure if you have enough spiritual quotient or lack of mental illness to comprehend that or something?
God=Mental Health and Well-being!
If you are trolling, then well played.
If you are genuine, then man oh man. Some of the most psychically and emotionally broken/stunted people out there are those who belong to religion.
Don't forget that the conservatives in our country want to legally force single motherhood on women. They will restrict contraceptives next if allowed to stay in power and also continue to ignore male moral and fiscal responsibility for impregnations.
Narrative, my friend. Don’t fall for it.
How many “conservatives” do you know personally (not from the “news”) who follow this ethos of not taking responsibility?
My advice to all left-learners…stop watching the news and stop reading stuff on the internet.
Get into your communities first hand, perhaps attend a church, make friends with people you wouldn’t normally and perhaps you will find things are not as the news reported they “are.”
I really despise irreverent men and women who speak and behave exactly like the way you do. Instead of finding out about how so serious my words and my character could be they choose to see the dark 'trolling' side instead? What's gone on with the men in this world? Are they all so twisted these days due to exposure to anthropogenic RFs and EMFs?
Moreover, they even believe that if I could be ever genuine one bit, it must be due to another dark side related to religion and psychological health??? Come on man..........I know much better folks on LRC than people like you!
Don't forget that the conservatives in our country want to legally force single motherhood on women. They will restrict contraceptives next if allowed to stay in power and also continue to ignore male moral and fiscal responsibility for impregnations.
Narrative, my friend. Don’t fall for it.
How many “conservatives” do you know personally (not from the “news”) who follow this ethos of not taking responsibility?
My advice to all left-learners…stop watching the news and stop reading stuff on the internet.
Get into your communities first hand, perhaps attend a church, make friends with people you wouldn’t normally and perhaps you will find things are not as the news reported they “are.”
My advice to all people who read the news with an Us vs. Them mentality is that neither side is always right. Both have glaring faults and hypocrisies. This message board is full of people screaming "All evil is caused by woke!" or "every bad thing in history is caused by republicans even in other countries and before republicans were a party!". It is just ridiculous. Time to grow up and take a stance of your own. See that the party / politician you idolize does not always agree with you if you are consistent.
Back to the original topic: Poverty is probably the worst thing for children. An unstable / abusive home life comes in a close second. A single parent is not the root of the problem, though it may contribute to either of those.
Out of wedlock birth rates were far lower before Roe and before widespread availability of contraceptives. Back then, there was community pressure to get married if a woman became pregnant (now we are confused about what a woman is), people had fewer sexual partners and there was a stigma surrounding being born out of wedlock. The current out of wedlock birth rate has huge economic repercussions and will continue to fuel the divide between the haves and the have nots. Republicans didn’t create this crisis. Democrats did with their free love, free drugs, imagine there’s no heaven or religion philosophies and policies.
Yes by all means lets force women toget married against their will. That will certainly solve everything.
Also nice job adding some homophobia into your useless boomer rant
I love your comments. You talk like a true man of God, or at least sound like one. You reject births out of wedlock or discourage them. You advocate monogamy and not polygamy I suppose. That's a huge tick from me right there! LRC folks, time to hearken to the words of wisdom and encouragement of this true man of God right here! I'm all in support of him.
No he isn't retarded. More like Man of God! This was how it was meant to be since the days of Adam and Eve. 1 man to 1 woman and first married before having sexual relations before having children! There is nothing mentally ill about such statements. It stems from divine ingenuity.
While he was American-born, he'd fall into the ~30% category rather than the 80% as his father was Kenyan.
I don't know about that. After all, his own father left the country and so he was raised by a single mother. Teaching young black men "responsibility doesn't end at conception. What makes them a man is not the ability to have a child but to raise one."
If you read the article, it's more to the point of lower income range women looking across the dating table at men from the same social circles and saying, "no thanks"!
It's far less about left v right and far more about economic status. I'm a Dem and have been married for almost 28 years. Everyone in my social circle is the same in that regard. I teach in a pretty low income, Trumpy area. Lots of single mom Make America Great types around here just like there are lots of single mom "welfare queens" as one of our former presidents referred to them living in black areas.
You know what the stable families around here tend to have in common? Income stability. Stable families tend to produce kids who graduate high school and pursue post secondary education (not just college, could be skilled trades). Unstable families tend not to do so well. I've been seeing this with my own eyes for the past 25 years.
but that saying "no thanks" is actually just a show of their own low IQ as they would statistically be better of as a stable family. So what you really said is that women are responsible as they prefer staying poor and single over married and with stable income and educated kids.
"Almost half of all babies born in the U.S. were born to unmarried women in 2019, a dramatic increase since 1960, when only 5% of births were to unmarried mothers.
...data shows that the odds of graduating from high school, getting a college degree and having high earnings in adulthood are substantially lower for children who grow up in single-mother homes.
Kearney is especially worried about boys falling behind and no role models around them."
The answer has been very simple for a very long time. Adults like their sex.
It is quite obviously literally unnecessary to have a father. And avoiding the subterranean cultural politics front informing this debate, it is also unnecessary to have a mother. As others have said, what's necessary is care in conditions of social and economic stability.
There's lots of traumatised children of two biological parents in the world.
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